Had my shower Saturday.

I was deffinatly surprised! They had it at Coles house in Glen Cove. It was bueatiful! Everything I could have dreamt of. I actually cried when I first walked in. I cant even begin to tell you how great the gifts were. It WOULD have be perfect!
I noticed tension between my MOH and one of the BM. Now it goes deeper than I thought. I have been sick since then. Now I find out my mom is upset also! The funny part I dont even know the full story! I made the mistake of telling my FI and he is Fumming!! Now I have to figure out what happend and try to make peace befor october! I am to the point, I wish we eloped! I came home last night and got 2 more RSVP & didnt even want to open them. Instead I cried till I fell asleep and now IM stuck at work! I know I am babling but I had to just get this out before I SCREAM! I want to just say I dont care & let them deal with it. But thats not me. If I know people are not getting along it will stress me out & I dont want to feel how I felt after my shower was over. Thanks for listening

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I'm sorry your bridal party isn't getting along. Why don't you see if one of them or your mom will tell you what happened. I hope this can be straightened out. If they just don't get along, they can bite their tongues for one day for your wedding. Good luck!

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Glad you had a wonderful time at your shower!

Don't let all the BS between your MOH and BM get in the way of how you feel.. you should be enjoying this time and not playing refered with your bm's I think that it's messed up that they would carry on like children instead of being mature adults and suck it up for you..

Keep your head up doll, your time is almost herer!

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What happened? Oh Dawn that is awful. I am so sorry to hear about this. You and your FH need to ask your mother and MOH for the whole story. Then you can decide what you want to do.

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I think almost every bridalparty gives grief in one way or another. not all but most.
smile, and just think, you'll be married soon enough.
don't stress the little things!

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I'm happy for you that you were surprised - that's not an easy feat these days, but sorry this BS is happening with your BMs.

Trust me I can understand issues with BP! I had a MAJOR problem with GM shortly after my EP. All has been settled, I think, but I had to confront the GM in question directly to get it solved. It may be worth asking your MOH what the problem is and working with her and the other BM to work it out. It shouldn't have to fall on your shoulders, but you don't want something small spiraling out of control, if it can be avoided. Maybe your FH can talk to your MOH for you? I hope all can be resolved so you can all enjoy your special day together.

My thoughts are with you - GOOD LUCK!

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Dawn,
Here's my advice-don't try to figure out what happened because its over. Send everyone-including your Mom a little note saying thank you & how much you appreciate how hard it must have been to plan such a beautiful shower & much it means to you that everyone is able to work together for your big day!
Don't try to fix it, they are all big girls & need to know-it's not about them-it's about YOU & FI. Your note will let them know you realize something happened & without getting into it you expect them to behave. Good Luck & STAY HAPPY!

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Thanks girls. I think that note idea is great. I am not going to let this bother me. I understand every one had my best interest at heart. So if it comes up again I think I am going to just tell them they better staigten this out like adults. I had one day to be sad but thats it. This is my day and Ill be damed if a cat fight will ruin it!!! Thank you sooooooo much for your support! Somethimes you just need that exta support to get you through things.

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Hi Dawn, glad to hear you were surprised! The Coles House is a beautiful place...someone sure had good taste!

I don't really have any more advice about the problems your hearing about. Just try to keep your chin up and rise above it. Your job is to be a happy, beautiful, gracious bride, not to referee arguements. Hopefully, everyone will work their stuff out.

Have fun with the rest of your planning!!