Has your FH ever

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Posted by madseason

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by madseason

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Posted by emomma17
although i have to say in his defense if my girls hired a stripper for me i would probably be the first one up there acting a fool with him so i have to just let it go.

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thats a great way to look at it. I would feel funny and on the flip he said he would - so we have a no stripper policy on either side (besides we both have no interest in them) incase anyone wanted to do one - they know we prefer other things.

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I think I'm going to need company on the night of FH's bachelor party. Otherwise I'm going to be a mess.

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Do you know what hes doing? Does he kno? FH and I are open and tell each other what were doing - it takes the mystery out of everything. I know all about FHs bach party - his BM told me everything so i have nothing to be uncomfy about - and he doesnt like stippers or anyting of the sort - and told him flat out - i dont want that.

But try asking him and take the mystery out - and then think about how great your wedding is going to be!

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They are going to a baseball game and then into NYC to some strip club. He knows how I feel about it, as does his BM, but they are going anyway. I trust FH but I still don't like it. His friends all got pretty pi$$ed off when I vetoed Vegas on them and when they found out how I felt about strip clubs they went nuts.

I kinda have no say in the matter.

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Just trust him and dont react to it - which is HARD - but try try try not to let it eat u alive. I used to be that way with him and it caused so many problems, and it was a long time - im talking years before I worked through everything.

His bach party happens once - I will be here if you need me!

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THANK YOU!!!!!! LOL and I will no longer ask questions!

FH has had them in the past. He says it's not a big deal.
To tease me he said he'll have TONS of strippers at his bachelor party
but FH is a bit of a germaphobe so I know he's full of it, lol

ive talked about this with fh....even though he is coming home to me....the thought of a stripper on him....i dont like it. i shouldnt have to worry about her boobs and butt on him....as he shouldnt have to feel bad about it if it was in the reverse. i can be all the stripper he needs lol

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Posted by emomma17

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Posted by sassygirl9

I know it has to be awkard to hear about some woman rubbing herself on your fh, but on the other hand, he's being honest with you. He's not hiding it or pretending to have sat in the corner.
I kinda feel like you asked, now that you know, it bothers you, but it's not fair to him because you did ask to know the truth

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No you are totally right and that is why I am internally hating it but just it was me who asked and can't crusify him for that. I guess I am just curious to know what everyone else thinks about the whole thing as well if my feelings are normal!

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Yes of course your feelings are normal
He's your main sqeeze and the thought of another woman close to him is always a little uneasy. When my FH had his bachelor party, I knew he wasn't into the whold stripper thing, but his friends are. So, I knew it would be inevitable...lol...he told me some details, but at the same time I knew my limit...lol.... He was making fun of the stripper anyway which made it more funny than anything else and he may have done it to 'lighten' the whole lap dance thing, but it actually made me feel happy that he was telling me without being scared...lol

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Posted by Songstress

Mine did at his bachelor party. Didnt bother me one bit and it wouldnt bother me if he got one again.

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I agree!

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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx

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Posted by emomma17

Gotten a lap dance that you know of?? We both had a bachelor and bachelorette party last night for his sister and i knew there were going to be ladeis at his party ok whatever internally I hated it but it is what it is.....sooooooooooo when we both got home and were def. drunk and talking he was honest and told me he had one! I am kind of like ewwwwwwww that is so gross but than again I am like ok whatever it's a guys party and I should expect that stuff so i am letting it go but part of me is like some girls boobies were in your face!!! lol Ok just had to get that off my chest!

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ha ha thats sooo funny bc i dint want to post that bc i was but FH too went to a friends bach last night and i asked him adn he told me he got one...

i was more concerned that he dint touch her or that she was wearing underware!!! once he told me no and yes.. i was ok with it.

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LOL see now those aer questions I didn't ask!!! I asked if they were hot and he said yes they were good looking in my head i am thinking cheese ball nasty looking girls just to make me feel better!!!

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Posted by emomma17

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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx

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Posted by emomma17

Gotten a lap dance that you know of?? We both had a bachelor and bachelorette party last night for his sister and i knew there were going to be ladeis at his party ok whatever internally I hated it but it is what it is.....sooooooooooo when we both got home and were def. drunk and talking he was honest and told me he had one! I am kind of like ewwwwwwww that is so gross but than again I am like ok whatever it's a guys party and I should expect that stuff so i am letting it go but part of me is like some girls boobies were in your face!!! lol Ok just had to get that off my chest!

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ha ha thats sooo funny bc i dint want to post that bc i was but FH too went to a friends bach last night and i asked him adn he told me he got one...

i was more concerned that he dint touch her or that she was wearing underware!!! once he told me no and yes.. i was ok with it.

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LOL see now those aer questions I didn't ask!!! I asked if they were hot and he said yes they were good looking in my head i am thinking cheese ball nasty looking girls just to make me feel better!!!

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bc that was really my ONLY concern... bc thats why i draw the line if i was seeign a male stripper...
HAVE UR PARTS COVERED!

FH has before. It's not like he goes to strip clubs on a regular basis or anything though which probably would bother me. (He went to Vegas senior year of college with some of his buddies and they went to 2 strip clubs).

Apparently guys arent allowed to really touch the girls unless they go in the 'back room' (which you have to pay extra for) and we joke around about how he can't go in the back room at his bach party... but FH said it's disgusting and a waste of money and he would never, even if his buddies offered to pay.

The bottom line is that I trust him 100% and don't really feel like I need to tell him what to do.

One of our groomsmen is getting married 2 weeks before us and his fiance has always been pretty controlling. She made him take down his swimsuit model posters freshman year of college, she flipped out when she found a Playboy in their apt, and while he is allowed to go to FH's bach party in Vegas, he has to stay back in the hotel when they go to a strip club. Her FH is going along with all of her requests, but its a little more restrictive than I would prefer to be.

I personally am not interested in having strippers at my b-party, but I have seen my fair share of nudes (I was an art minor). Sure it's not sexualized, but it's not as big of a deal to me.

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Posted by angl2001

honestly...and mybe im the odd man on this one but i don't see the big deal.......its not naked and hes not naked i really dont see the big deal. Its a guys night out having a good time so what some girl wiggles boobies in their faces and grinds their lap? I told FH he can do whatever he wants on his Bach party as long and no bodily fluids are exchanged lol. I hate male stripper i think its gross so he knows i wont be doing anythign liek that but if he went to a strip club and got a lap dance id be like ' nice how was it?' lol

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you said wiggles boobies

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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx

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Posted by angl2001

honestly...and mybe im the odd man on this one but i don't see the big deal.......its not naked and hes not naked i really dont see the big deal. Its a guys night out having a good time so what some girl wiggles boobies in their faces and grinds their lap? I told FH he can do whatever he wants on his Bach party as long and no bodily fluids are exchanged lol. I hate male stripper i think its gross so he knows i wont be doing anythign liek that but if he went to a strip club and got a lap dance id be like ' nice how was it?' lol

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you said wiggles boobies

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LOL that was funny!

But they also have these girls that come to the parties and perform that is what they had, i have heard insane stories about other parties the girls peform on each other and other things get done. I think when it is a a stip club it is more sensored but when they come to the party privately it is a different story not that that happened last night but I have heard before of parties like that! I asked if they came with a bouncer or body guard or something and he said no i was suprised.

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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx

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Posted by angl2001

honestly...and mybe im the odd man on this one but i don't see the big deal.......its not naked and hes not naked i really dont see the big deal. Its a guys night out having a good time so what some girl wiggles boobies in their faces and grinds their lap? I told FH he can do whatever he wants on his Bach party as long and no bodily fluids are exchanged lol. I hate male stripper i think its gross so he knows i wont be doing anythign liek that but if he went to a strip club and got a lap dance id be like ' nice how was it?' lol

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you said wiggles boobies

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wiggle wiggle

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Posted by emomma17

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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx

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Posted by angl2001

honestly...and mybe im the odd man on this one but i don't see the big deal.......its not naked and hes not naked i really dont see the big deal. Its a guys night out having a good time so what some girl wiggles boobies in their faces and grinds their lap? I told FH he can do whatever he wants on his Bach party as long and no bodily fluids are exchanged lol. I hate male stripper i think its gross so he knows i wont be doing anythign liek that but if he went to a strip club and got a lap dance id be like ' nice how was it?' lol

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you said wiggles boobies

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LOL that was funny!

But they also have these girls that come to the parties and perform that is what they had, i have heard insane stories about other parties the girls peform on each other and other things get done. I think when it is a a stip club it is more sensored but when they come to the party privately it is a different story not that that happened last night but I have heard before of parties like that! I asked if they came with a bouncer or body guard or something and he said no i was suprised.

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oh yea... which i thikn is why i asked what i asked... FBIL bach party was JUST liek that.. a private 'rent-a-stripper' and the stuff that i heard through the years....

none the less... FBIL knows i will castrate him if he THINKS that is FH's ideal party...

Mine has in the past and did not on his bachelor party. Im not a big fan of them. Iknow a lot ofpeople really don't mind but I do.

sure has and it doesn't bother me, but we are all entitled to our own feelings on the situation! I may have gotten one... just one with him!!! LMAO

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Posted by madseason

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by madseason

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Posted by dannisayz

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Posted by madseason

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Posted by emomma17
although i have to say in his defense if my girls hired a stripper for me i would probably be the first one up there acting a fool with him so i have to just let it go.

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thats a great way to look at it. I would feel funny and on the flip he said he would - so we have a no stripper policy on either side (besides we both have no interest in them) incase anyone wanted to do one - they know we prefer other things.

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I think I'm going to need company on the night of FH's bachelor party. Otherwise I'm going to be a mess.

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Do you know what hes doing? Does he kno? FH and I are open and tell each other what were doing - it takes the mystery out of everything. I know all about FHs bach party - his BM told me everything so i have nothing to be uncomfy about - and he doesnt like stippers or anyting of the sort - and told him flat out - i dont want that.

But try asking him and take the mystery out - and then think about how great your wedding is going to be!

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They are going to a baseball game and then into NYC to some strip club. He knows how I feel about it, as does his BM, but they are going anyway. I trust FH but I still don't like it. His friends all got pretty pi$$ed off when I vetoed Vegas on them and when they found out how I felt about strip clubs they went nuts.

I kinda have no say in the matter.

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Just trust him and dont react to it - which is HARD - but try try try not to let it eat u alive. I used to be that way with him and it caused so many problems, and it was a long time - im talking years before I worked through everything.

His bach party happens once - I will be here if you need me!

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I know, it just doesn't make the sick feeling go away. Originally our parties were the same day, but due to FSILs work schedule (she's a nurse), it needed to be changed.

Maybe we can have our horror movie fest that night. Do you get Monsters HD?