have any of your friends made a 'comment' about your ring

StellaStar13 Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:21 PM

have any of your friends made a 'comment' about your ring

I honestly don't want to get too into it but last night someone that I am VERY close w/made a comment about my ring. I believe that she was attempting to compliment it but it came out all wrong and I am hurt. She is a wonderful person (not petty or catty) she is married so it def isn't a jealousy thing.

She even helped FH pick out the setting!!!!! I am just having a hard time getting past it. We had been drinking and that could of brought on the poor judgment in words but it still hurts. I didnt say anything back to her b/c I was/am so shocked by what came out of her mouth.

Anyway if this happened to you did you ignore it & get over it or did you confront your friend? I don't want this to effect our friendship but honestly as of right now, I have no desire to even speak to her.

kris_gets_hitched Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:24 PM

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Some guy at work said 'he could've done better' and I said 'you're still single and you're 50, so chances are you won't be buying a ring for anyone, so what do you know?'

I have no filter sometimes.

As far as friends go, none of them have said anything innapropriate. Sorry you're going through that...probably was due to the drinking.

brittndave Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:24 PM

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I think it would depend on what they said. If you don't mind me asking what did she say that upset you?

I think if it upset me that much then I would definitely talk to her and tell her how I am feeling bc it could have all been a misunderstanding and she would probably feel terrible.

marinai7 Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:26 PM

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It depends on what they said but obviously if it bothers you, then take a day or two to calm down. Then you can talk to her about it.

shelbylove918 Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:27 PM

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umm it def depends on what was said.. i personally never had anyone say anything negative about my ring so not sure how i would react, but Im sure I would be hurt. :(

Christine N Ralph Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:28 PM

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This girl who I am no longer friends with- once looked at my ring and said

'When I get engaged im going to want somthing bigger'

so i replied with that kind of attitude good luck finding someone!

I wasnt hurt by the comment...I just couldnt believe that she said it...and I think it was because she was jealous to be honest

NYgirlinTX Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:28 PM

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Dont take it to heart, bc there is someone that will always have bigger, or smaller, or better clarity, or something, lol.

All that matters is it came from the heart. The heart of the man you love!

regy_k Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:36 PM

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sorry this happened

IMO it was the alcohol. I met ur friends, hard to imagine anyone of them would say something intentionally to hurt ur feelings. just take a few days to come down, and then talk to that person. if it was that bad and it is someone ur super close with I wouldn't leave it or just 'got over it', obviously this needs addressing.
ultimately, most important is how much u love the ring and that it came from Joe

FM / txt if u wanna talk. after my MOH altercation yesterday I get it so much

MarjorieFrank Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:38 PM

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Nothing like that has happened to me but I may have gotten hurt because I am very sensitive. It would depend who it was coming from though, because that means a lot.

NewYorker09 Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:41 PM

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I'm also curious about what she said exactly, you could be taking it the wrong way totally. The 'rudest' thing I've had anyone say would be asking how much it cost (yes, 2 or 3 people actually asked me this and definitely didn't get an answer!) and how many karats it is (I know some people may not consider that rude, but I think it is). I'd give it a day or two then let her know how you feel. Sorry she upset you, hopefully it was unintentional.

jcreilly Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:46 PM

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If you think she didn't mean it I would forget about it!

dfw343 Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:55 PM

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OMG if someone said that to me I would say 'bigger isn't always better' and then explain why but I can't type that here lol

Screw her!
I hate women like that!

grkbarbie Posted: Jul 23, 2009 01:58 PM

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a BM at crest hollow grabbed my hand to look at my a ring i was wearing (not my ering) and like dropped my hand .2seconds later cuz it was small. like an 'oh...' type of attitude. ahole llololol

i just got my ering not too long ago and i was at a party and 1 chick was gathering every1 around me 'look at that rockk' .. im liek OOOOOOOOK show is over.. and i flipped my ring. its not big at all but even if it was..who the fk does that?

i usually have my ring flipped when i see bishes' eyes on it for too long

christine2010 Posted: Jul 23, 2009 02:00 PM

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some people just feel that they can be honest.

someone who i no longer speak to anymore said, 'all girls dream about getting a Tiffany engagement ring but only a few spoiled ones actually do.'

like i said i no longer speak to her.

peaches42587 Posted: Jul 23, 2009 02:04 PM

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ive heard a few people talking about my ring saying it must not have been expensive because it doesnt sparkle a lot!! isnt that crazy! Not that it matters but i know my ring was expensive cause i picked it out and sparkle doesnt equal value. haha its an emerald cut and i know they dont sparkle like other cuts. This comment was said a few times when we first got engaged.

KatieG2010 Posted: Jul 23, 2009 02:08 PM

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i only get positive reactions... noone ever said anything negative (to my face)... not to be a snob but the ring is gorgeous and a very nice size so if i am happy with it that is all that matters

AFutureBride Posted: Jul 23, 2009 02:28 PM

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Honestly, if you know she was trying to compliment you why are you hurt?

Don't be hurt! It's just a state of mind, which could easily be changed. You know it was nothing, so do not let it affect you.

StellaStar13 Posted: Jul 23, 2009 02:31 PM

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Thanks ladies you have given some great advice and I really appreciate it. I am def feeling better about the situation, just needed a new perspective!

JillandJoe Posted: Jul 23, 2009 02:33 PM

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friends no...but some old bag I work with said :oh, its tasteful...very social worker like'

Here tone and facial expressions insinuated (sp?) it was smaller then she'd prefer...

this woman has 7 cats and no man... so whatever to her

laulac98 Posted: Jul 23, 2009 02:40 PM

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Posted by christine2010

some people just feel that they can be honest.

someone who i no longer speak to anymore said, 'all girls dream about getting a Tiffany engagement ring but only a few spoiled ones actually do.'

like i said i no longer speak to her.

Wow! I think I would have punched her after that! That's balls to say that!