Have you and FH...

tammi2308 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:08 PM

Have you and FH...

talked about who would stay home once you start a family?? With us, it would be me. Fh makes a lot more than I do salary wise. I went to school and paid a lot of money for my education, even masters degree. I have a good job and make my own money, even though I feel like I could always make more...lol. I would love to be able to raise our children. Plus, I dont have a big family and neither does FH. So, if one of us didn't stay home, daycare would be the only option and I would hate for daycare to raise our children. So, how many of you would be stay at home mom's?? or plan on it?? even though you may have great job's now or invested a lot of $$ for your education??

ajlgmm815 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:13 PM

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We have discussed that i will stay at home I would may be work from home because i would probably go stir crazy if i didnt!

NickandTara426 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:14 PM

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We have discussed it and he wants me to stay home and possibly start a business from home. So I can take care of the kids AND make money. But he supports whatever I want to do.

Jsquared279 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:15 PM

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I want to stay home and FH is praying he will be making enough money to support us by then.

krislee316 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:15 PM

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we have discussed this many times I will stay home and raise the kiddies

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:18 PM

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100% me. FH owns his own business so he will need to be there. I'm was willing to work depending on the financial situation but luckily with him I wont have to and I'll get to stay home with the little ones.

tammi2308 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:28 PM

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I wouldn't mind, but it sux that I spent so much $$ on my education and We'd be paying my school loans meanwhile I'm not working...you know what I mean?? Maybe, I shouldn't look at it this way...

MEMEJOR Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:31 PM

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i am staying home with the lil ones... I plan on helping the fh with his companies...even if i take the babies in with me

JennyAPH Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:33 PM

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Neither one of us wants to give up our careers so we talked about it and we are both going to work. Luckily I can do alot of it from home so that helps and my mom said she will watch our kids for us.. plus my job does an awesome day care there (they also teach through kindergarten). My FH has funky schedule so he will be home 2 weekdays anyhow to watch the kids and I will have the weekends..

If all of that is not an option then probably him, I make more money and am going to get my masters so it would make more sense...I def. do not want to be a stay at home mom. Its not about the money I just really want to go far in my career and have kids as well

gina409 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:36 PM

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Posted by Jsquared279

I want to stay home and FH is praying he will be making enough money to support us by then.

same for us!!!!!!!!

tammi2308 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:37 PM

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Mel, that's funny, lol..You'll be like super mom/wife taking care of the kids, hubbie and business..haha. I would to!

MEMEJOR Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:38 PM

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Mel, that's funny, lol..You'll be like super mom/wife taking care of the kids, hubbie and business..haha. I would to!

i know me... I wont be able to sit around... i get bored... just call me super woman...

EsquireBride Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:46 PM

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I earn way more than FH, so I would keep working (I do get 6 months for maternity leave though, half paid) and FH would stay home. The plan is for him to work from home part-time (he has a child from a prior marriage so he has to earn enough to pay for child support because we agreed that child support money has to come from his own money exclusively).

MrsGarcia Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:52 PM

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We have 2 kids already.. And we both have to work because financially its really hard to be able to stay home and pay all the bills plus kids expenses on one salary.. We both have good jobs too.. Just its hard to do.. I wish I could stay home.. I stayed out 3 months after I had my youngest and I couldn't do it anymore. I wish I could.

Amen to those who can.. Its hard! Very hard!

tammi2308 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:54 PM

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Yes, times are...expensive!! FH and I also discussed that. we realize that if one of uscould stay home it would be a blessing. Especially, bc we are doing EVERYTHING on our own, financially.

Nyangel625 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 02:54 PM

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I have two kids already and for the past 4 years I stayed home during the days and FH worked and I worked 3 nights a week doing overnight shifts. I just recently started working days and he quit his day job to run our business and take on more accounts. So he stays home with my son now and my daughter started kindergarden this year so everything has worked out in the end for us.

flairforfashion Posted: Oct 23, 2008 03:28 PM

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FH and I do pretty well together. I could stay home once we are married because we have everything laid out for us- house and everything BUT I don't want to stay home all day- I would go crazy. We always said I'd work part time at least!

PoppedInASnap Posted: Oct 23, 2008 03:30 PM

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He offered but I see the difference between my sister and I, where my mom stayed home with me and I am more family oriented now, and my dad was with her more and she isn't.. but then again, my dads not exactly the best rold model....lol

Personallyi think i would stay home...

NikkiR515 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 03:36 PM

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I think we would both continue to work for a while. The ultimate goal would be for me to get a part time job and stay home with the babies the rest of the time. We would probably ask either my mom or his parents to watch the kids while I was at work.