have you and FH fought ...now with update

Mich2585 Posted: Dec 20, 2008 04:24 PM

have you and FH fought ...now with update

more or less since you have gotten engaged?

we have been engaged for a year but the last two months has been a mess! it just feels like it has been the most difficult two months of our four year relationship! i feel like we cant agree on anything! it was never like this! does anyone else feel like this?

*update* we have spent a lot of time together this weekend and spent some time talking about the things that we have been fighting about (two major things ... one being money) but we have come to agreements ... and it feels good! we just want to enjoy eachother and our family and friends this holiday season. it doesnt seem right to spend so much time disagreeing on stupid things ... in the grand scheme of life these little arguments mean nothing! we love eachother more than anything and thats all that matters so im feeling better today!

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Dec 20, 2008 04:31 PM

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ummm well, when we first got engaged, we had a few hurdles to get over... then its been peaceful for the most part... after we moved in together, we were all happy go lucky etc.... but recently we've been at each others throats... so i dunno its been really up n down for us...

Mich2585 Posted: Dec 20, 2008 04:37 PM

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i mean i know we will be ok ... we both agreed no matter what we will not go to bed angry, we will always work out our problem ect. .. but it just stinks not agreeing!!! it drives me nuts! its just one of those rough periods ... this too shall pass i hope

coldasice217 Posted: Dec 20, 2008 04:38 PM

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We have definitely fought more. We've been together for four years and a little over a month, and have been engaged for the past 6 months. We used to be that sickeningly lovey couple that always held hands, smiled, cuddled. Maybe we bickered occasionally, but nothing like now. The wedding is really tearing us apart, and a lot of our fundamental differences are becoming more and more apparent. It's really tough, and I see the contempt starting to grow on both sides. I know we'll make it through and after the wedding and after we have a place to live it will start to go back to normal, but right now it's really hard on both of us and it's definitely taking a toll on my health.

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Dec 20, 2008 04:43 PM

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Posted by Mich2585

i mean i know we will be ok ... we both agreed no matter what we will not go to bed angry, we will always work out our problem ect. .. but it just stinks not agreeing!!! it drives me nuts! its just one of those rough periods ... this too shall pass i hope

that whole not going to bed angry advice i felt was always a crock o sh*t .... thats not reality... just last night i went to bed mad...didnt speak till the morn again... sometimes you just need that time to 'sleep on it' and calmy talk things out in the morn... thats what i feel works better for me... otherwise, i just end up getting more n more pissed...

gina409 Posted: Dec 20, 2008 04:49 PM

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i dont think we have more or less but if i had to pick id say less fh is really involved in the wedding so i guess it takes off some of the stress

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Dec 20, 2008 04:51 PM

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we fight once in a blue moon, I guess bc Joe really doesnt care what I pick out for the wedding, he isnt one to fight back, he avoids and lets me yell and vent...then he says 'are you done?' but honestly it's not anymore than usual...we rarely argue.

Mich2585 Posted: Dec 20, 2008 04:51 PM

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i have issues ... i cant go to sleep if im really upset or hurt soooo i will call FH and we will need to work it out before i can sleep! haha i need to know that everything will be ok and that we love eachother and that we are willing to work it out before i can actually fall asleep! thats just me tho

Dani777 Posted: Dec 20, 2008 06:48 PM

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We have our ups and downs...it all depeds on what else is gonig on at that time frame. Sometimes it'll be my nervousness about money...other times it'll be his anger towards my OCD..HAHA> Either way, we always work it out, and that's all that matters in the end.

elysemichelle Posted: Dec 20, 2008 06:53 PM

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honestly, i think we are very lucky. we rarely ever fight. When we do its usually cuz one of us are drunk......dont worry though, its common that couples fight a lot before the wedding...... keep ur head up

jennaandguy09 Posted: Dec 20, 2008 07:03 PM

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I don't t hink it's more or less, we fight about the same things though, but not often, he's been very sweet to me lately, although today we had a little tiff because we were both cranky, but better now, he doesn't know how much FMIL gets under my skin and if I start to tell him, he defends them, its tough to hold my tongue but I try to be nice

Mich2585 Posted: Dec 20, 2008 07:15 PM

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well the things we disagree on are little ... not big deals things at all ... but after a while it just gets annoying like it feels like we have been disagreeing for two months ... but of course we have 10x as many good days as we do bad days ... i guess it just upsets me to disagree so close to the wedding.

xosweetiexo Posted: Dec 20, 2008 09:13 PM

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

Posted by Mich2585

i mean i know we will be ok ... we both agreed no matter what we will not go to bed angry, we will always work out our problem ect. .. but it just stinks not agreeing!!! it drives me nuts! its just one of those rough periods ... this too shall pass i hope

that whole not going to bed angry advice i felt was always a crock o sh*t .... thats not reality... just last night i went to bed mad...didnt speak till the morn again... sometimes you just need that time to 'sleep on it' and calmy talk things out in the morn... thats what i feel works better for me... otherwise, i just end up getting more n more pissed...

LOL!!! I TOTALLY AGREE!!! The other night I was sooooooooooo MAd at him I grabbed my pillows & blanket and slept on the couch!!! A year ago, I prob would have stayed up all night upset prob. crying and the other night I slept like a babyyyy and got up for work the next day LOL!!! I think its better sometimes to cool off.... dont go to bed angry- yea its a good idea... but reality NOPE!!

FutureMrsM Posted: Dec 20, 2008 11:08 PM

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FH and I have been together for about 4.5 years, and living together for 1 year and 8 months, we got engaged 4 months ago... We havn't fought since we have been enganged but when we first moved in together it was really rough! At the time, I never would have imagined that we would still be together, but, things worked themselves out and we adapted to living together and now we're getting married, so.... I would say, don't worry about it, things have a way of smoothing themselves out. :)

Mich2585 Posted: Dec 20, 2008 11:09 PM

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i have issues sleeping ... i need to know that we are ok and all is well or i cant sleep! butttt to each his own

Camroy Posted: Dec 20, 2008 11:31 PM

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Not really. We've had two fights I think. And they were stupid. We have bickered more now with the wedding planning but I think that's just because of the man/woman differences. I think it also has a lot to do with what type of person you are. Anyone ever take a Myers Briggs personality test? I took a brief version and I want FH to take the same one but I left it at the office. I think that has a lot to do with the reason that people argue in general, even at work.

MrsBtobe2009 Posted: Dec 21, 2008 12:14 AM

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We definitely argue more since we are engaged. We have had some bumpy times and a lot of craziness with families but now things have been calmer thankfully!!

Celeste617 Posted: Dec 21, 2008 09:31 AM

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We'll argue every once in awhile, but that is nothing new since we've been together for nearly a decade now I think I have been more touchy recently just worrying about getting everything done in time, so I've been a little snippy, but the disagreements are very short lived. I think for me it's mostly just been lashbacks from the crazy markets But don't you worry, it'll all pass once the wedding stresses are over

JaredsGirl Posted: Dec 21, 2008 10:13 AM

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

Posted by Mich2585

i mean i know we will be ok ... we both agreed no matter what we will not go to bed angry, we will always work out our problem ect. .. but it just stinks not agreeing!!! it drives me nuts! its just one of those rough periods ... this too shall pass i hope

that whole not going to bed angry advice i felt was always a crock o sh*t .... thats not reality... just last night i went to bed mad...didnt speak till the morn again... sometimes you just need that time to 'sleep on it' and calmy talk things out in the morn... thats what i feel works better for me... otherwise, i just end up getting more n more pissed...

I agree 100%. Need to sleep on it and then wake up and make up