we have been engaged for a year but the last two months has been a mess! it just feels like it has been the most difficult two months of our four year relationship! i feel like we cant agree on anything! it was never like this! does anyone else feel like this?
*update* we have spent a lot of time together this weekend and spent some time talking about the things that we have been fighting about (two major things ... one being money) but we have come to agreements ... and it feels good! we just want to enjoy eachother and our family and friends this holiday season. it doesnt seem right to spend so much time disagreeing on stupid things ... in the grand scheme of life these little arguments mean nothing! we love eachother more than anything and thats all that matters so im feeling better today!
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ah i think its been a little more stressful since we got engaged with saving money n stuff n now x-mas but we havnt fought to much i think we actually work things out better now...
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We have definitely fought more. We've been together for four years and a little over a month, and have been engaged for the past 6 months. We used to be that sickeningly lovey couple that always held hands, smiled, cuddled. Maybe we bickered occasionally, but nothing like now. The wedding is really tearing us apart, and a lot of our fundamental differences are becoming more and more apparent. It's really tough, and I see the contempt starting to grow on both sides. I know we'll make it through and after the wedding and after we have a place to live it will start to go back to normal, but right now it's really hard on both of us and it's definitely taking a toll on my health.
I feel the same way. My fh and I have been fighting a lot more again and I hate it. We are two weeks before the wedding and all we have been doing is fighting. I know we are stressed but I hate this. All the stress, the drama, the fighting and the planning is messing with my health too. I am looking forward to it all being over. I just want peace between us and no fighting. I want what we use to have. We have been together for 4 years and engaged for 2 years. We never fought this much and my health was never this bad.
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MORE... today was quite possibly the worst...i almost ran over his foot...
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MORE... today was quite possibly the worst...i almost ran over his foot...
Too Much!
Deeglasser
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i wouldn't call them 'fights' we don't get into screaming matches or anything... we have differing opinions when it comes to where we want to live...
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Omg right after we got engaged we were fighting nonstop even took a week off but now we have been okay..knock on wood lol
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i guess i say fights but they are not like yelling screaming matches haha they are more like disagreements ... i should have said that at the beginning haha
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FH & I are super lucky and rarely fight. We're so similar in our ways of thinking that we don't have much to fight about. If we do fight it's quick and then we get over it
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More b/c of the money!!
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FH and I rarely argue, so its about the same regardless. We're both pretty easy going and agreeable people. BUT I think this has a lot to do with the fact that we're a little older than many of my fellow brides on this board (I'm 29 he's 33) and have alot of experience from past relationships that we know not to make the same mistakes we made in the past with others. But trust me, we have our differences and instead of arguing we laugh about it.
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When we first got engaged, HOLY CRAP did we fight!!!! It was really rough but we have been good now for several months. I think it's normal to fight after getting engaged.
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Fh and I dont really fight about the wedding. He stays out of the planning process (which I dont mnd at all so I can plan things they way I want and ask his input accordingly) I keep him updated on everything and show him everything (minus the dress) I get for the big day. The only thing he doesnt like is how stressed I get when one of my BM or either my mother or his mother pull me in every direction. I try to make everyone happy and end up making ymself miserable so that is the only thing we have struggled with since we got engaged. I just have to let everyone complain and plan everything the way we want it
