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madseason Posted: Feb 04, 2008 11:48 PM

have you and FH talked about when you want to....

Have children? FH told me he honestly wants to try on our honeymoon! I thought he was just saying that, but he really wants a family like now!

I wasnt prepared for that one!

NYCGirl2008 Posted: Feb 04, 2008 11:51 PM

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We did ... I know he wants them ASAP, also considering I will be nearly 35 and he will be 40 on my wedding day, I suppose I do to, in theory. However, I just got this killer job and there is a 2 year contract so it stresses me having kids and not being able to stay home with them. My mother tells me to wait and I will probably.

I Love my bear Posted: Feb 04, 2008 11:55 PM

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Thought about this a lot lately, FH definately wants to but I think we need some time to build our nest financially until we are ready.

lwny427 Posted: Feb 04, 2008 11:56 PM

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Posted by madseason

Have children? FH told me he honestly wants to try on our honeymoon! I thought he was just saying that, but he really wants a family like now!

I wasnt prepared for that one!

Ditto! We had this conversation...I asked FH when he wants to 'start trying'. He replied 'as soon as we get home'. I told him I didn't know who he was having those kids with, but it certainly wasn't going to be me!

I told him that I need at the very least 1 year as husband and wife before we start to try to be mom and dad.

By the way...we are HUGE office fans too! We had a halloween party and there were 2 dwights in attendance. The strike has been killing us.

madseason Posted: Feb 04, 2008 11:58 PM

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Posted by lwny427

Posted by madseason

Have children? FH told me he honestly wants to try on our honeymoon! I thought he was just saying that, but he really wants a family like now!

I wasnt prepared for that one!

Ditto! We had this conversation...I asked FH when he wants to 'start trying'. He replied 'as soon as we get home'. I told him I didn't know who he was having those kids with, but it certainly wasn't going to be me!

I told him that I need at the very least 1 year as husband and wife before we start to try to be mom and dad.

By the way...we are HUGE office fans too! We had a halloween party and there were 2 dwights in attendance. The strike has been killing us.

thanks for the office reference!! I know the strike is killing me... jim and pam together...and if dwight was going to get angela back...andy just irks me!

im nervous bc i wanna finish school and bcome a teacher i have a year and a half lefft...and then i dont want to take maternity leave my first year....but i really want one..and FH is dying for one...hes with my niece (2.5) and nephew (8mons) all the time and hes dying for one of his own!

Bella77 Posted: Feb 05, 2008 12:00 AM

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yes.......
we both know we're going to wait a few years, focus on our careers, pay down debt, and just grow up a little more!

lwny427 Posted: Feb 05, 2008 12:03 AM

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Posted by madseason

im nervous bc i wanna finish school and bcome a teacher i have a year and a half lefft...and then i dont want to take maternity leave my first year....but i really want one..and FH is dying for one...hes with my niece (2.5) and nephew (8mons) all the time and hes dying for one of his own!

FH is beyond obsessed with jim and pam. Honestly, he is a little nervous for when they start up again b/c he is convinced a fight or break up has to be coming up....they can't leave it with them just being happy as a couple and getting married. Just not how the sitcom world works.

I definitely want kids too and all, just not yet. My MOH is due right before our wedding and I'm freaked out enough by her being a mom. That made me sure I'm not ready to be one myself yet. In the meantime, we're enjoying my niece and nephew also. haha.

Finish school first and get settled into a job. Depending on your age, I feel like it's not something to rush. I think it is important to be really ready.

madseason Posted: Feb 05, 2008 12:09 AM

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Posted by lwny427

Posted by madseason

im nervous bc i wanna finish school and bcome a teacher i have a year and a half lefft...and then i dont want to take maternity leave my first year....but i really want one..and FH is dying for one...hes with my niece (2.5) and nephew (8mons) all the time and hes dying for one of his own!

FH is beyond obsessed with jim and pam. Honestly, he is a little nervous for when they start up again b/c he is convinced a fight or break up has to be coming up....they can't leave it with them just being happy as a couple and getting married. Just not how the sitcom world works.

I definitely want kids too and all, just not yet. My MOH is due right before our wedding and I'm freaked out enough by her being a mom. That made me sure I'm not ready to be one myself yet. In the meantime, we're enjoying my niece and nephew also. haha.

Finish school first and get settled into a job. Depending on your age, I feel like it's not something to rush. I think it is important to be really ready.

me too i looooove jim....and now that karen is back as a head of a branch...something is going to happen....

jim and pam need to get married!

Mrs.D08 Posted: Feb 05, 2008 12:35 AM

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About 2 years

jennandrolo Posted: Feb 05, 2008 12:50 AM

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not for a verrrry long time. we still need to finish school, pay off debt and travel. ive been leaning towards no kids at all though.

empressdani Posted: Feb 05, 2008 01:02 AM

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FH would like one sooner rather than later b/c he wants us to have children earlier b/c he'll be 36 when we get married. I'm in no rush, I'm still selfish and enjoy my 'me time' We will probably wait for 2 years or so.

KarinAmanda Posted: Feb 05, 2008 01:03 AM

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ahhhhhhh yes, like 3 years prob! im too selfish right now (hey at least I can be honest about it)

bluegreen08 Posted: Feb 05, 2008 01:40 AM

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we want to wait maybe 4-5 years. I need to finish law school (I'll have 1 more year) and want some time at my job, and we want to travel.

MrsD71208 Posted: Feb 05, 2008 06:32 AM

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We want to wait AT LEAST a full year...we want to enjoy our marriage, time together and our new home!

failurebydsign Posted: Feb 05, 2008 08:14 AM

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weve been trying for the past 3 months

FutureMrs.T Posted: Feb 05, 2008 08:15 AM

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We are going to start trying on the honeymoon!

gabbie83 Posted: Feb 05, 2008 08:18 AM

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

We are going to start trying on the honeymoon!

same here!

FutureMrs.T Posted: Feb 05, 2008 08:20 AM

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Posted by gabbie83

Posted by FutureMrs.T

We are going to start trying on the honeymoon!

same here!

:) We already live together and have for the last 2 years. We have known each other since 1998 (dated in high school, split for 7 years and got back together). We are comfortable in our relationship and with each other to know that marriage is not going to change much between us. We are already a partnership and have all those things worked out.......we want a family so bad....so as much as people tell us NOT to...we know what we want and we want a family! So....we got a nice room for the honeymoon....that is where we will be spending a lot of our time!

gabbie83 Posted: Feb 05, 2008 08:27 AM

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Posted by FutureMrs.T

Posted by gabbie83

Posted by FutureMrs.T

We are going to start trying on the honeymoon!

same here!

:) We already live together and have for the last 2 years. We have known each other since 1998 (dated in high school, split for 7 years and got back together). We are comfortable in our relationship and with each other to know that marriage is not going to change much between us. We are already a partnership and have all those things worked out.......we want a family so bad....so as much as people tell us NOT to...we know what we want and we want a family! So....we got a nice room for the honeymoon....that is where we will be spending a lot of our time!

I met FH last year - our wedding is in April and that will be one year that we've met - We've lived together basically since the beginning (he moved in after a month) and it feels like i've known him for ages!
We both want afamily - and we'll start trying on our HM.
We're young, & want to be young parents.
We're buying a house, don't have debt and I've come to to conclusion that with somethings its never going to be a good time, you're always going to need this, or want to save for that, or go on a better vacation. so we'd rather be young, have more patience and energy then wait

JMO

cbcf Posted: Feb 05, 2008 08:31 AM

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Posted by madseason

Posted by lwny427

Posted by madseason

Have children? FH told me he honestly wants to try on our honeymoon! I thought he was just saying that, but he really wants a family like now!

I wasnt prepared for that one!

Ditto! We had this conversation...I asked FH when he wants to 'start trying'. He replied 'as soon as we get home'. I told him I didn't know who he was having those kids with, but it certainly wasn't going to be me!

I told him that I need at the very least 1 year as husband and wife before we start to try to be mom and dad.

By the way...we are HUGE office fans too! We had a halloween party and there were 2 dwights in attendance. The strike has been killing us.

thanks for the office reference!! I know the strike is killing me... jim and pam together...and if dwight was going to get angela back...andy just irks me!

im nervous bc i wanna finish school and bcome a teacher i have a year and a half lefft...and then i dont want to take maternity leave my first year....but i really want one..and FH is dying for one...hes with my niece (2.5) and nephew (8mons) all the time and hes dying for one of his own!

i hear ya! fh and i want to wait anyway until we are more financially stable. we want to try to at least have a house by the time we have a child. we don't want to be living in our apt when we have one. plus since fh has been in the marines we never see each other and i want husband and wife time. i tell fh we deserve it after these 4 yrs of being seperated. and i will also finish my masters May 09 (hopefully) in teaching as well. and i do not want to take maternity leave because my position might not be there if i am not tenured. so i think i will try when i am around 27 which is when i will hopefully be a full time teacher for 3 years already and have tenure. I am young too I will only be 23 when i am married.