have you ever...

wanted to talk to your first love even if you were with your FH (or bf, in my case) at the time?

I find myself drawn to him... not sexually... its not that i want to be with him... i love josh, a lot...

but for some reason, there will always be this part of me that belongs to my first love.

i feel really guilty about it... I wouldnt want josh to think about or talk to his first love... so why would it be okay for me to think about or talk to mine?

how do i get myself to stop thinking about him?

Hmmm.....I talk to my ex boyfriend. But, my FH knows and is somewhat OK with it. We are friends but I don't see him that much anymore. I always feel that exs do have a special place in your heart...otherwise you wouldn't have had a relationship with them in the first place.

Are you talking to this ex?

he pops in and out of my life every now and then. This time it was me that foolishly contacted him. I thought for sure that josh and I were breaking up yesterday. We had this huge fight... and thats what I do when I break up with a boyfriend...i go to my ex, every single time..

so preemptively, i did it again... and josh and i wound up not breaking up... so now i feel really stupid, and guilty, even though obviously nothing happened. my ex lives in seattle, nothing could happen anyway. I don't even want anything to happen..

i just feel guilty about talking to him. :(

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Posted by CherryBlossombride

sounds like you have some unresolved feelings toward him. I definitely think you should deal with them before you get married. Is this guy local? a real threat to your relationship? Sometimes people can fantasize about a relationship they had in the past. You forget the flaws. It doesn't mean you love your fh any less.

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im not getting married. I was engaged a while ago...we broke it off, and i loved the girls on here so much that after i left, i decided to come back and just provide some humor and moral support.

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Posted by mdawg

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Posted by CherryBlossombride

sounds like you have some unresolved feelings toward him. I definitely think you should deal with them before you get married. Is this guy local? a real threat to your relationship? Sometimes people can fantasize about a relationship they had in the past. You forget the flaws. It doesn't mean you love your fh any less.

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im not getting married. I was engaged a while ago...we broke it off, and i loved the girls on here so much that after i left, i decided to come back and just provide some humor and moral support.

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We love you and miss you around here!

I don't think you need to feel guilty. It sounds like your ex is your friend. Do you think your current bf could handle you being friends with him?

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Posted by HotAir

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Posted by mdawg

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Posted by CherryBlossombride

sounds like you have some unresolved feelings toward him. I definitely think you should deal with them before you get married. Is this guy local? a real threat to your relationship? Sometimes people can fantasize about a relationship they had in the past. You forget the flaws. It doesn't mean you love your fh any less.

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im not getting married. I was engaged a while ago...we broke it off, and i loved the girls on here so much that after i left, i decided to come back and just provide some humor and moral support.

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We love you and miss you around here!

I don't think you need to feel guilty. It sounds like your ex is your friend. Do you think your current bf could handle you being friends with him?

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definitely not. i dont even want to be friends with my ex... but sometimes i just think about him and want to see what hes up to and how he's doing. hes the only ex i think about.

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Posted by mdawg

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Posted by HotAir

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Posted by mdawg

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Posted by CherryBlossombride

sounds like you have some unresolved feelings toward him. I definitely think you should deal with them before you get married. Is this guy local? a real threat to your relationship? Sometimes people can fantasize about a relationship they had in the past. You forget the flaws. It doesn't mean you love your fh any less.

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im not getting married. I was engaged a while ago...we broke it off, and i loved the girls on here so much that after i left, i decided to come back and just provide some humor and moral support.

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We love you and miss you around here!

I don't think you need to feel guilty. It sounds like your ex is your friend. Do you think your current bf could handle you being friends with him?

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definitely not. i dont even want to be friends with my ex... but sometimes i just think about him and want to see what hes up to and how he's doing. hes the only ex i think about.

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hmmm....then you got me! That's what they created myspace and facebook for...to stalk people you don't really want to talk to.

i always remind myself to avoid temptation. there are a few guys who insist on keeping in contact with me...and sometimes i break and we end up chatting...but i would never allow myself to develop it into something more because deep down i know that it might lead me into temptation. and i dont want to do something i will regret.