Have you ever been disillusioned by your own faith?
Original post by Goldi1021
I am dealing with some religious issues that are a bit extensive to explain but I'll try. My nephew is about to have a Bar Mitzvah and his relatives are called to the altar in front of the Torah with honors to help him celebrate this most special milestone. However, it seems as if FH and I cannot read the prayers before and after the Torah portion for the week because we are not married. This is coming from a Conservative Rabbi in a Conservative temple. Not all temples are the same but the cconservative movement is just that - CONSERVATIVE. We can open the ark together. We can 'dress the Torah' together. But we cannot read together because we aren't married. If we were brother and sister we could.
I had religious training for 5 years. I had a Bat Mitzvah and took it very seriously. I know the prayers in Hebrew. I know the importance of it all. Reading before the Torah is a BIG deal. It hurts knowing that my relationship with Ed (the man with whom I will be perpetuating my faith) is not held in high regard. I guess I am disillusioned and it leads me to wonder how I will raise my kids. I think I may have to go towards the Reform movement of Judaism.
Anyone else ever wrestle with their faith? sorry for the rant!
MrsP2Be
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Ok I did my own research..
Long Island:
Cold Spring Harbor Kehillath Shalom (631) 367-4589 Hewlett Reconstructionist Congregation Beth Emeth (516) 374-9220 Plandome Reconstructionist Synagogue of the North Shore (516) 627-6274
Goldi1021
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Posted by evnme
the reconstructionist movement was started by Mordechai Kaplan in the 1920's. It came out of the Conservative movement. Their Rabbinic school (RRC) is in Philadelphia and their Cantorial school is part of Gratz College.
Liberal Judaism does not require circling. Make an informed decision about what makes you happy as Jew. Talk to your clergy person about how to make your ceremony more personal and fitting to you and your fh.
Thats the thing. I am conflicted with aspects of the faith he embraces. We need to find a happy medium.
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Posted by Goldi1021 Thats the thing. I am conflicted with aspects of the faith he embraces. We need to find a happy medium.
when you meet w/ your rabbi for premarital meetings, this should be one of the topics to discuss w/ him and your fh.... get everything out in the open.
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I have struggled with my faith for years. Both my family and FH's family are religious Catholics. We have our issues with the church but also find comfort in the faith...
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Posted by Goldi1021 Thats the thing. I am conflicted with aspects of the faith he embraces. We need to find a happy medium.
when you meet w/ your rabbi for premarital meetings, this should be one of the topics to discuss w/ him and your fh.... get everything out in the open.
Neither one of us have familes that are current memebers of a temple. FH and I will not join a temple until we buy a home and/or our first child is old enough to attend hebrew school. In the mean time, we do High Holy Day Services at my sister's temple, and his aufruf will be held in the temple where he grew up. A temple will never refuse a mitzvah (as long as his parents pay for the kiddush afterwards.) Both of those temples are Conservative. The temple where we we are getting married is a Reform temple. We are using the Rabbi there. We need to schedule a meeting but I do think we should discuss somethings beforehand so there are no surprises or major disagreements.
