ok so i want to have another baby - i just said to FH how about we move the wedding back to october 2010 and get pregnant now. I want the whole wedding dress, flowers, dj, limo etc but the nice months left for this year are few and i cant plan that quick. also i want another baby now not in may of 2010 (well id get pregnant then and have the baby in 2011) Am i crazy - i mean i could do a church wedding a do a different type of wedding.... i dont know what to do..........
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how many do you have now? age?
I have 2 that are quite a few years apart..we are now doing the wedding thing..What does FH think?
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i only have 1 now who is 2 1/2 - FH was like why dont we cancel have a church wedding and a small intimate nice wedding and then get pregnant............
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why dont u move up the wedding? to this year? then u can have the whole big wedding thing and not worry about dropping the weight or leaving an infant for the duration of the wedding
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thats the thing - i want a nice weather month like september or may - this september is too soon to do a BIG wedding that leaves either the may that i already have or the following october. THe baby would be 7 months by then. Or like i said we do a church wedding and do a beach wedding or just a dinner. i just dont want to down play my wedding ya know?
I say give it some thought and see how you feel in a month. Many women I know doesn't feel their best right after giving birth so you may not feel up to the big wedding. I personally would wait . But give it some thought only you know whats best for you and your and your family. If you and the FH decide to get pregnant now then thats great you will still have an awesome wedding...
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yup, Stacy's right. u gonna have a great wedding no matter what cause its gonna be about u, ur FH, and ur girl (or kids if thats what will happen) just give it some time, this is not an easy decision I'm sure
how do u feel about a beach/dinner/church wedding? is that something u would enjoy or even want? u shouldn't sacrifice ur 'big day', u deserve it
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thats is totally something i would do - but the beach at night in september - wouldnt that be cold?? & FH all along wanted a beach wedding i just didnt want it - but if it will give me the wedding i want and a baby faster then ill do it. i just dont want to wait until my daughter is 4 1/2 to have another baby - i want them closer in age and i dont want to be 34 when i have my 2nd incase i want to have a 3rd. thanks for listening ladies
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I say give it some thought and see how you feel in a month. Many women I know doesn't feel their best right after giving birth so you may not feel up to the big wedding. I personally would wait . But give it some thought only you know whats best for you and your and your family. If you and the FH decide to get pregnant now then thats great you will still have an awesome wedding...
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1st of all u can totaaaaaaallly have a huge wedding in september. you are connected to a gazzillion brides with amazing ideas and vendors at your fingertips! if ur dyingg to have another baby now, i would have the weding this sept and get preggers on the honeymoon!
go for itttt
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I'm having a beach wedding in September and I gave myself just over six months to plan it and I couldn't be happier. My only regret is that we aren't doing it sooner because I convinced FH that September was the soonest that we could.
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I say give it some thought and see how you feel in a month. Many women I know doesn't feel their best right after giving birth so you may not feel up to the big wedding. I personally would wait . But give it some thought only you know whats best for you and your and your family. If you and the FH decide to get pregnant now then thats great you will still have an awesome wedding...
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I agree as well
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You can defintatly pull it all off...but like Stacey said, I would wait and think it over. Make sure its not only what you want, but also will be do-able financially and mentally. In the mean time, we're all always here for advice!
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Well having a child is a serious decision and I think you really need to talk it over and give it some time. And if you decide now is the time to have a baby I would move the wedding up.
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You can defintatly pull it all off...but like Stacey said, I would wait and think it over. Make sure its not only what you want, but also will be do-able financially and mentally. In the mean time, we're all always here for advice!
ITA also i understand that you want to have your kids close in age but in reality its very hard having kids that close in age. my nieces & nephews r all 3 years apart & my brother & SIL go crazy on a regular basis. i personally think you would be better off waiting until your daughter is 4 1/2 to have another kid. at least she will be in school by then.
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Plain and simple do what is going to make you and FH happy and your family more complete.
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Posted by StaceYums81
I say give it some thought and see how you feel in a month. Many women I know doesn't feel their best right after giving birth so you may not feel up to the big wedding. I personally would wait . But give it some thought only you know whats best for you and your and your family. If you and the FH decide to get pregnant now then thats great you will still have an awesome wedding...
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Posted by grkbarbie
1st of all u can totaaaaaaallly have a huge wedding in september. you are connected to a gazzillion brides with amazing ideas and vendors at your fingertips! if ur dyingg to have another baby now, i would have the weding this sept and get preggers on the honeymoon!
go for itttt
i totally agree...i understand what its like to want a baby so bad but dnt know if you should have it b4 the wedding or after...my FSIL was going thru the same thing and just moved her wedding up to july bc she knows she wants a baby more....if you and FH are set on having a baby i think you should move the wedding to the end of sept and then get prego right after...i think thats the best thing...and sumtimes planning a wedding in a shorter amount of time works out better for sum ppl!...just bc you are changing it to sept doesnt mean you cant have a big wedding...you can still have the big wedding you want sooner!
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Posted by grkbarbie
1st of all u can totaaaaaaallly have a huge wedding in september. you are connected to a gazzillion brides with amazing ideas and vendors at your fingertips! if ur dyingg to have another baby now, i would have the weding this sept and get preggers on the honeymoon!
go for itttt
i agree that you can pull this off... plus you may get HUGE discounts because there are so many RH's out there that are looking to fill dates that are unfilled that they might give you a date in sept. for a great price... it couldnt hurt to call up a few places and see! good luck!
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I agree with some on here...move the wedding up to this september. there are brides who plan their weddings in under six months and they have AWESOME parties. also you do get great discounts with vendors and RH when you book closer to the wedding and they have the day open because they want to make some money so they are more willing to come down in price. I would TOTALLY move it up!
