He is on his way over to get the ring!!

Original post by JuneBabyBride

Apr 23, 2003 01:19 PM

I feel like I am parting with somethingand it is making me so upset. Of course he had to call yesterday and tell me how he sold most of his toys and he found an apartment that is so cute that we can move right into and how bad he wants things to work and of course this upset me b/c I wish it could. He is giving me the money he owes me in a certified check and I am giving him the ring. I am really upset now.

Samanthas Mom Posted: Apr 23, 2003 01:44 PM

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Meredith
its not BS
we are here for you
btw new girl is out to lunch now lol
im glad I finally got to see your threads!

anna Posted: Apr 23, 2003 01:46 PM

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Meredith, big hugs

princess99 Posted: Apr 23, 2003 01:50 PM

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Hugs to you, you are doing the right thing. In time things will get better.
Last night I was at a traffic light and I saw my creep of an ex fiancee in front of me, well, I thought this was a good time even though he could not hear me, tell him what I really felt about him to the back of his head. And you know what I have no regrets dumping the jerk about 4 years ago, and felt even better about myself after I told him to the back of his head were to go and how to get there.... He then saw me when he turned the corner, and nearly got into 2 car accidents! Not that I would want anyone hurt in an accident, but the idiot boy as my friends and I call him was so nervous, he had to get out of there fast. What he was doing in my neck of the woods I have no idea. Afterwards on the radio I heard my wedding song, talk about a coincidence. I have no regrets dumping him, things will get better I promise. I am here for you if you need to vent.

The Original 2nd-time-around Posted: Apr 23, 2003 01:52 PM

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You are doing the right thing. You and your daughter eserve soooo much more than a man who leaves you in the city to fend for yourself. You and your daughter will be so much netter off in the long run.

(And if it makes you feel any better, he probably won't get much $$ for the ring. He'll get much less than he paid for it!)

We're all here for you

karen32 Posted: Apr 23, 2003 01:55 PM

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you're doing the right thing!!! think of your daughter!! you need to be strong for her sake, too!!!

sending you big hugs

prncssrachel Posted: Apr 23, 2003 01:58 PM

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I, too, had a bad habit once. His name was Pat. It took me years to finally get him out of my life, but when I did, it was the heaviest weight lifted. I had spent so much time crying while I was with him that I never looked back after. He took the ring and it was just what I needed to move on.
I know that so many people are saying the same thing, but you do need to be strong. It might take you a few weeks of not thinking about it at all and just moving on, but just think that you need to devote yourself not only to making your life better, but your daughter's as well. You will be more than ok, and you will find someone who makes you happier than you could ever imagine. Love is never easy, but it should also never be this hard. GOOD LUCK TO YOU! AND MAKE SURE YOU HUG YOUR DAUGHTER EVERY MOMENT YOU FEEL ALONE!

IrishTracy Posted: Apr 23, 2003 02:16 PM

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How much could he have changed in 3 days????? Stick to your guns!!! I know it's hard. But, even if its forever or a few months. You need to get him out of your life for a while!!! You will be amazed how you can stand on your own!! I wish you all the best!!!

eroxgirl Posted: Apr 23, 2003 02:17 PM

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to you and your daughter. Remember to STAY STRONG!! You are doing the best thing for yourself and your daughter, and probably even for her father...you're showing your daughter never accept second best, you're taking a stand for yourself, and you're teaching your ex to put up or shut up - sweet words don't mean anything if there's nothing to back them up with! I can only imagine how hard this is but we're here for you!

butterfly20 Posted: Apr 23, 2003 02:19 PM

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I know i must be taking alot for you to resist him, but the other girl had a point, give him time alone, if he can stay grown up, you could always start dating him again, if he doesnt, then you didnt waste your time with him giving him another chance...I have seen people make drastic changes for the better, but it doesnt happen over night....

Sassy Posted: Apr 23, 2003 02:30 PM

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Hey Meredith

you are doing the right thing like everyone said. You are a gem.
If the 2 of you are meant to be, you will be. But for NOW, it is best you stand up on your own 2 feet, and go through with this.
If he gets you back eventually, at least he wil have worked his butt of for you, and realized how much he almost lost you.
But this will take time for him to realize and change for good.

Please know we are all here for you. Keep posting and getting encouragement from these wonderful ladies.

Sidenote: Rmember to make sure the Cert. check has the memo about what the payment represents.

HUGS to you and Kayla

JennRenee Posted: Apr 23, 2003 02:43 PM

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Be strong! Remember, right now this is in the best interest of you and Kayla.

Fran M Posted: Apr 23, 2003 02:45 PM

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Stay Strong
You are doing what's right for you right now.
Think about whats best for you and your darling little girl.
We are here for you.

WishCandy Posted: Apr 23, 2003 03:02 PM

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Meredith,

Stay STRONG WOMAN! You need to do what's right for you & Kayla right now... maybe if he changes - you guys can try it again down the road... but, nobody gets an epiphany overnight & changes... unfortunately, if that was the case my fi & I would probably be back together already...
I can't even count how many times I was told things would be different now -blah blah blah and things would be good for like 3 days and then they'd go right back to where they were before.
I've come to the conclusion that there are only sooo many times you can be a doormat & take them back w/o them truly changing.
Only time will tell if he has/or even can change.
Good luck sweetie We're all here for you.

dgtlsunshine Posted: Apr 23, 2003 03:08 PM

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Just want to give you a big hug.

kptoys Posted: Apr 23, 2003 03:10 PM

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MarcellaBella Posted: Apr 23, 2003 03:16 PM

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You know what... based on what you've told us, I think that giving him back the ring is what's best.. What do you have to hold onto, you know? Think of that as closure with regards to this whole mess sweetheart.. Be strong love..

michele31 Posted: Apr 23, 2003 03:27 PM

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Be strong. You owe it to your daughter to provide her with the best life possible and that means showing her by example how a wife/mother should be treated. Women how stay in abusive relationships have daughter that allow men to treat them badly. Just keep reminding yourself that Kayla's life is going to be so peaceful and she will live with a mother who can stand up for yourself. What a role model you are!
I am so proud that you are staying so strong. You deserve REAL love, not broken 2 week promises.

Diane Posted: Apr 23, 2003 03:31 PM

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HeatherandNick Posted: Apr 23, 2003 03:49 PM

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Mer - I know how much you want things to work out. But please think back over the last 2 years and everything you have been through. He knows exactly what you want and he is always willing to tell you exactly what you wantt o hear, b/c you have always taken him back. Unfortunately nothing ever changes. Please be strong. You have tons of support around you. Everyone deserves to be happy in life and you have not been lately at all - that has to tell you something.

JuneBabyBride Posted: Apr 23, 2003 09:14 PM

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Okay he has his ring and I did not give in. He begged and pleaded for a couple hours about everything I want I can have and blah blah blah and I told him the only thing I want he can't give me and I will get it one day from someone who doesn't have to try so hard to give it to me. It was hard b/c everything he said sounded so great and I wanted it so bad but I know maybe I will get it but along with his **** and I don't want that.