Helllllllo awkward. What would have been less rude?

Eep, so my invoice for my ribbons wands came to work today. My production manager gave it to me, because he wasn't sure how it was being 'handled'.

So I give it to the bookeeper (boss's wife), and say I would like to pay by credit card, but will give next week so it will be on next statement. She said I cant pay by cc, just check, because of way it was processed, and to hold on because she was going to talk to my boss about it.

So she comes back, and as I feared, said don't worry about it, it's not a lot of money and he will pay it. So i was like, no, that was not my intention by ordering from here. And she said I know, but it's not a big deal, don't worry. So I was like no, I really don't feel comfortable with that, I'll bring in a check. So she was like ok...take it up with him then.

I mean, I guess I was a little rude about it, because I basically said you're not invited so I don't want you paying and expecting to be!

But I was between a rock and a hard place, so it had to be done. I mean, I may invite them all after all, as literally a C list, but I didn't want to obligate myself. I feel a TAD guilty now. Bah. There really was no other way to do that right?

Re: Helllllllo awkward. What would have been less rude?

hmm.. this is tough and i remember you saying this might happen to begin with... IMHO I would just let them pay for it.. I mean they may not be coming to the wedding but they do work with you and might want to get you something anyway.. I have a few people that work wtih me that arent coming or invited and still got me a little gift for the wedding

Re: Helllllllo awkward. What would have been less rude?

I think I would have handled it the same way. I don't think you implied that they are not invited, or that they would get that impression.
I would just bring in the check as soon as you can so that you don't have to think about it anymore

Re: Helllllllo awkward. What would have been less rude?

I think I would not have personally handled it this way. To be honest I would have been really appreciative that they even offered and I would honestly invite them to your wedding. I mean he is your boss and you work with his wife and if nothing else they have given you your livelihood in this awful economy. I just think out of respect it would be nice to extend and invitation to them and who knows they may not attend.

I however, don't really know the back story here and/or if there are any personal issues you have with your boss and his wife. But I think they would appreciate the gesture. Just my opinion.

Re: Helllllllo awkward. What would have been less rude?

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Posted by Jsquared279

I think I would not have personally handled it this way. To be honest I would have been really appreciative that they even offered and I would honestly invite them to your wedding. I mean he is your boss and you work with his wife and if nothing else they have given you your livelihood in this awful economy. I just think out of respect it would be nice to extend and invitation to them and who knows they may not attend.

I however, don't really know the back story here and/or if there are any personal issues you have with your boss and his wife. But I think they would appreciate the gesture. Just my opinion.

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Well, it's not that I don't want them there per se. It's a tricky backstory because I work in a small office, where I would literally have to invite everyone, or no one at all. Since our guest list is already so high because of FMIL insisting we extend out to 3rd cousins, we simply cannot afford to have 18 more people coming. So I really can't commit myself to anything until I know how many family members are coming or not. FH on his side alone is inviting 147 people, and not even 20 of them are his friends. So we're certainly not in the position to be adding almost 20 more people to the list. If I just invited my boss and his wife, it would cause ridiculous drama here, which is why it really has to be all or nothing, so I don't know what to do.

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Posted by coldasice217

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Posted by Jsquared279

I think I would not have personally handled it this way. To be honest I would have been really appreciative that they even offered and I would honestly invite them to your wedding. I mean he is your boss and you work with his wife and if nothing else they have given you your livelihood in this awful economy. I just think out of respect it would be nice to extend and invitation to them and who knows they may not attend.

I however, don't really know the back story here and/or if there are any personal issues you have with your boss and his wife. But I think they would appreciate the gesture. Just my opinion.

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Well, it's not that I don't want them there per se. It's a tricky backstory because I work in a small office, where I would literally have to invite everyone, or no one at all. Since our guest list is already so high because of FMIL insisting we extend out to 3rd cousins, we simply cannot afford to have 18 more people coming. So I really can't commit myself to anything until I know how many family members are coming or not. FH on his side alone is inviting 147 people, and not even 20 of them are his friends. So we're certainly not in the position to be adding almost 20 more people to the list. If I just invited my boss and his wife, it would cause ridiculous drama here, which is why it really has to be all or nothing, so I don't know what to do.

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Oh WOW
Well I totally see your predicament then! That is nutty! Sorry I was not more helpful before!

Re: Helllllllo awkward. What would have been less rude?

I don't think you were rude about it. And I don't think you should be obligated to invite your boss or anyone else for that matter. Accept the gesture from him - sometimes people just like to be able to foot the bill for people they like. My old bosses used to do stuff like that for me all the time. I wouldn't take it as an act of kindness in expectance of an invitation, JUST an act of kindness.