my bridesmaid that got engaged in october (ive been engaged since january and set the date then also) just told me that she may be having ehr wedding the week before mine. I am so annoyed and disappointed in that.. we have mutual guests, and this can get sticky now with showers and bachelorettes...why are people so sucky sometimes? what should I do? i told her how i felt and she reamed me out over email..said me and my fiancee were being ridiculous and she could not revolve her own dream wedding around our plans and appointments... OUCH
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Posted by ckleinismine
I would be furious if I found out someone close to me was getting married a week after me or even a month. That is so wrong because then showers and other wedding parties conflict. Im so sorry
I wasn't thrilled when I found out our friends were getting married 2 weeks before us, but my friend is a teacher so it needed to be during the summer months and their chuch was booked for june and july (which they had wanted).
If they had gotten engaged before us we wouldn't have had much leeway with respect to dates either. I'm a law student and would have needed to pick between 1 weekend in may or 2 in august. If my friends expected us to wait a year to get married (which wouldn't have worked because of the BAR EXAM!) I would have been pissed. I'm just glad our friends are going to be able to come to our wedding and that we'll be able to go to theirs.
It ***** when things are so close together, but if they actually have a reason for wanting that date (like if it's their 5 year anniv, or they need that weekend so they can take their honeymoon over spring break from school or something) then you can't really hold it against them. If she's just doing it for spite because she's jealous and wants to steal your thunder thats a different story and it will be really obvious to your mutual guests who have known about your wedding date for a while..
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First of all I think she got alot of nerve planning her wedding for a week before yours. I think that was deliberately planned on her part.
I think its definitley jealousy on her part.
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I don't think you are wrong for being upset at all. FH's friends got engaged 6 months after us but planned there wedding for 5 weeks before our due to 'scheduling conflicts'. I got a bit bent out of shape because a lot of the people invited to theirs are invited to ours and I thought we were putting those people in an unfortunate financial situation. One week before is ridulous in my opinion...but like others have said is it worth loosing a friend over? Is there anyway you gals could maybe plan things together? Maybe if you book the same vendors you could get a discount? IDK...just trying to find the positives.....
KK Holiday
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wont she be on her HM during your wedding???
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that's not nice it sounds like she's got her back up bc she knows it's kind of f***ed up whether she she wants to admit it or not.
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It's a tough situation. FH and I got engaged a month AFTER his cousin did. We wanted to respect that they got engaged first and that our wedding shouldnt be too close to theirs, but there was only so much we could do.
No one should have to change their dream wedding around someone else's. But at the same time, you should always try to respect the other person, when possible. FH's cousin and I are both teachers. So obviously we both wanted a summer wedding, so we didnt have to take off from work or use all of our personal days. Well, she got engaged first and asked me not to do our wedding to close to hers. So we went to the place we wanted to get married at and asked for all possible dates in the warm months. It ended up being we could have one smack in the middle of June (her wedding is the first week of July) or we could have one in May. We REALLY REALLY REALLY wanted the one in June- I wouldnt have had to miss any work and it's exactly when we wanted it. But we respected that it was too close to his cousins and took the one in May. We thought we did the right thing but then we were told by a family friend, that his cousin is mad we are getting married before them. You can only try to change your dream wedding to an extent- Unfortunately, you can't make everyone happy! I think your friend should have tried to make her date a little further from your date but it is what it is and you cant be mad at her for getting married first. I wouldnt let it ruin your friendship.
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Posted by ckleinismine
I would be furious if I found out someone close to me was getting married a week after me or even a month. That is so wrong because then showers and other wedding parties conflict. Im so sorry
FH's cousin is getting married 3 weeks after us. I can't tell anyone when to pick a wedding date. I'm just happy we're first!
