So a very close friend of mine (one of my BMs)...lives in FL and the other night I am talking to her on the phone and she starts off by saying 'I feel really bad asking you this, but...' and she proceeds to ask me if I could invite one of her friends (who I know, but only threw her) and this girl's date!!!
The reasoning she gave me was that even though she knows some of my other friends (she has known them since Jr. High, but is not that close to them), her and her BOYFRIEND (whom I've never met!) really like hanging out with the other girl and HER boyfriend!! W T H!!!
Who is this party for anyway????!!!!
To make matters worse she tells me she will pay! And would never usualy impose like this (and she really wouldn't - I think her boyfriend put her up to it)
That makes it worse bc she knows I would NEVER let her pay, but I felt like telling her how much it costs.
Oh, one VERY imortant detail is that I kinda made it sound like it wouldn't be a problem (because I was DUMBFOUNDED and didn't know what to say) And told her I just had to check our list and I get back to her.
What do I do?!!
sarahthegreat
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um, tell her no. thats it. its not about who she is going to be comfortable or uncomfortable around....its not her wedding. and when you tell her, by all means, do not apologize. just say straight out, no.
Mrs. dleeny
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wow, she's got some nerve.
I would tell her sorry, you checked your list and you're maxed out.
BrideChrissy
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No Way. Is this girl nuts? She has no right to ask you that its your wedding and you don't know these people I can't even beleive she asked you that. Tell her to hang out with that other couple another day she has a wedding to go to. What the hell? OMGGGG I would be flipping too!
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Thanks girls. I guess I felt a little bad (stupid, right?) bc she IS my BM and she IS coming from FL, but you're right!
FH was like: WT@#$#, HER (BM's) boyfriend is barely even invited!!
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I would tell her no. I could see if she had wanted to bring her friend as a date, but since she has a boyfriend, there is no need for them to come, to make her boyfreind feel more comfortable. Later on if it turns out you need some people to make your min. then i would consider it, but until then i dont think so
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Tell her the truth. Tell her you really don't feel comfortable end of story. This has happen to me too, from my grandmother, she is telling me well you have this person and that person come to your wedding; I just told her no i don't know them they are not coming
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Posted by DanaMZ
So a very close friend of mine (one of my BMs)...lives in FL and the other night I am talking to her on the phone and she starts off by saying 'I feel really bad asking you this, but...' and she proceeds to ask me if I could invite one of her friends (who I know, but only threw her) and this girl's date!!!
The reasoning she gave me was that even though she knows some of my other friends (she has known them since Jr. High, but is not that close to them), her and her BOYFRIEND (whom I've never met!) really like hanging out with the other girl and HER boyfriend!! W T H!!!
Who is this party for anyway????!!!!
To make matters worse she tells me she will pay! And would never usualy impose like this (and she really wouldn't - I think her boyfriend put her up to it)
That makes it worse bc she knows I would NEVER let her pay, but I felt like telling her how much it costs.
Oh, one VERY imortant detail is that I kinda made it sound like it wouldn't be a problem (because I was DUMBFOUNDED and didn't know what to say) And told her I just had to check our list and I get back to her.
What do I do?!!
Tell her NO.
We had FH's brother ask us to invite someone we do not know. FH's brother basically said that if she cannot come then he won't come although the family, his ex wife (and friend) and his other girlfriend will be at the wedding.
FH told him 'Okay, we will have a beautiful day without you there.'
Do not let her force you to invite strangers to your wedding.
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I can't believe she asked you that!!!! I would tell her that you don't have any space left, that you already overinvited or something, but I agree that you should NOT apologize!!
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Posted by dleeny
wow, she's got some nerve.
I would tell her sorry, you checked your list and you're maxed out.
My thought exactly.
RadioLau
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I would say no. Blame it on the FH if you don't want any friction.
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No way Jose.
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No way Jose.
That is the girl's boyfriend's name!
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I have to say, that is one helluva nerve. I think I just would've stood there with my mouth on the floor. I'd definitely tell her your guest list is already busting at the seems.
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Tell her your guest list is maxed out and you can't invite them. Or, better yet, tell her you just won't do it. Okay, the first way is probably nicer. I can't believe she had the nerve to say that. I have a friend who was going to come up from FL to be at the wedding and not bring her boyfriend if I coudn't invite her with a date (we didn't even discuss it, she just happened to mention that he would stay at his aunts, where they'd be staying, for the day). If you're inviting this girl and her boyfriend they should be able to enjoy themselves together even if they don't know anyone else. What she asked is just rude.
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Posted by smm2675
um, tell her no. thats it. its not about who she is going to be comfortable or uncomfortable around....its not her wedding. and when you tell her, by all means, do not apologize. just say straight out, no.
i totally agree with you..and i love your david wright icon!! he's so dreamy!!
clw924
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Tell her No, and if she doesn;t like it she could stay home too. What kind of person asks that?
nygirl77
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No! I can't imagine asking something like that? Why does she need them there...can't she see them afterwards or something? No, tell her no!
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i would definatley agree and say no but i wonder if her assking has something to do with her being a bm. are you seating your bm with their date or having a bp table? also maybe her bf put her up to it so that while sshe is doing bp stuff he would not be alone. This by no means makes it right but i know that at one of the weddings i was in they sat me and fh seperatly and he knew absolutly no one and hated it but if this was the case for her she could have addressed it differently so i say do what you want to its your day
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I would tell her no. Tell her the truth: I'm not inviting strangers to my wedding.
