HELP!!! I have a HUGE dilemma with my Ceremony!!! I need advice!!!

My priest, who is a family friend, was told by the arch diocese that he is definitely not allowed to even perform a mock ceremony on the beach the day of our wedding. I figured that. So, with that said, I was told we still need to be married in the Roman Catholic Church in order for the marriage to be recognized by the church (which we knew). Which is fine, I spoke to Father Tony and he said that Thursday evening, the night before the actual wedding (I guess before the rehearsal dinner) he will do our ceremony than with our family and friends at my church. The other thing is he said that he knows a few retired priests that are willing to perform the ceremony the day of the wedding.

Well I spoke to my very awesome DOC, because I wanted to get her opinion. She suggested to have the ceremony in the church on the day of instead of going thru this 2 days in a row. The ceremony can be at 3 pm at the church and then we head over to Surf Club and have the reception instead of paying the Surf Club to do a mock ceremony… She said we can save money for NOT having our ceremony at the Surf Club and put it towards something else.

Now there are a couple of things you should know:
I am respecting my dads wishes regardless and will be married by a priest in a church anyway you look at it. This was all asked me to do. I promised. And with daddy I never break promises

The surf club has given us a little indigestion with the pool. Regardless of what was said to be done, people did pay for pool memberships and realistically, I can't expect people to leave 15 min earlier so i can get married on the beach. And I read a lot on here that the people do watch the wedding, so the privacy is next to nothing

I am really really confused and have not the slightest clue what to do. I need advice and opinions and I need it to be honest.
I can't believe this is happening to me