Last weekend, they were talking to us about the wedding and assumed that their very young children would be invited. I was uncomfortable with that assumption and just left it that FH and I would discuss it and let them know.
We'd decided that we would have no children (b/c they are all under 2) but I just wanted to clarify with him.
FBIL called him tonight and asked him if they'd put their foot in their mouths by assuming. FH said yes -
FBIL & FSIL are VERY nice people. I have to see them this weekend and I don't want this to affect our developing relationship (they may take this decision very personally though it's nothing against their kids). Should I bring it up? I'm not sorry about our decision, but I don't want to hurt them. What do I say?
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Re: Help - I think I upset FBIL & FSIL (long)
I don't think they're upset with you at all.
I think they remembered that they shouldn't assume things about someone else's wedding.
When you see them, just have a great time and DON'T BRING IT UP.
I really think they are sincerely sorry for putting you guys on the spot. If they mention it again, just be gracious and tell them all is well!
(remember, they've already gone through the whole wedding planning process , so they know what it's like)
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i dont think they are upset. they understnad....once they get there WITHOUT the kids they will have so much fun that they will be thanking you for not having kids.
our e-party was a circus of kids so we decided the only ones for the wedding are our neices and nephew that are IN the wedding adn they are all a little older
2 is just so young
FutureMrs
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Alot of our adult guests want to leave their kids home so they can enjoy the night.
06NovBride
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I don't think they are upset with you. They are probably excited they can have a night out by themselves.
I wouldn't bring it up unless they say something and then just explain your reasons for choosing no kids. I'm sure they will understand.
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I don't think they are upset with you. They are probably excited they can have a night out by themselves.
I wouldn't bring it up unless they say something and then just explain your reasons for choosing no kids. I'm sure they will understand.
I think that while they 'understand', they take things personally and they don't really go ANYWHERE without their children.
You've all made me feel better about this - thanks.
