HELP!! Invitation Wording

I have been trying to figure out a wording for my invitations- but have somewhat of a dilemma.

I feel that my parent's names should be on the invitation (especially since they are contributing to my budget). FH's parents are divorced. His father has been remarried for over 25 years. His mother would like her name on the invitation, but does NOT want his stepmother's name on the invite.

Personally I am thinking of having my parent's names as Mr and Mrs, then his mother's name, and his father and stepmother as Mr and Mrs...

Wondering if anyone has any feedback for me?

Re: HELP!! Invitation Wording

Hmmm this is hard because you don't want to casue drama with anyone.

I think the most appropriate thing to do would be to include either ALL of the parents (yours, his, his stepmom) or ONLY those parents that are contributing financially.

Can FH talk to his mom about being OK w/ stepmom's name on it? Just explain that you really want to honor everyone.

Re: HELP!! Invitation Wording

See, that's what I figured... by putting ALL parents, I'm not singling anyone out. I think I did have FH speak to her about it, but being that she is not over her 'dislike' of his stepmother, I doubt she will get past it.

I do not want drama, but its my wedding and not hers!

Anyone else have a similar situation??

Re: HELP!! Invitation Wording

It took us a really long time to figure out what to do about wording because we have a similar situation. My dad is basically paying for most of it. He is remarried. My mom can't afford much but is paying for her family. She is remarried. His parents are together but aren't paying for anything. (FH is going to kick in what would've been his parents' contribution.)..

So we went with:

Together with their parents

Sandra
and
Michael

invite you to share their joy
as they are united in marriage

I like it. It's personal, it's inclusive. It's non-judgmental. It didn't involve having a laundry list of names. My father didn't mind at all.

Hope that helps! You'll figure out the perfect words for the perfect day!

Re: HELP!! Invitation Wording

IMO, For FH's parents you can say:

FH's Name
Son of Father's Name and Mother's Name


My friend who is getting married in July had a similar situation. Her parents were contributing greatly but she did not want to leave anyone out. Her FH's parents are both remarried. She ended up putting all four names on the invitation (his father, stepmother, mother, stepfather)

Re: HELP!! Invitation Wording

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Posted by springsandra

It took us a really long time to figure out what to do about wording because we have a similar situation. My dad is basically paying for most of it. He is remarried. My mom can't afford much but is paying for her family. She is remarried. His parents are together but aren't paying for anything. (FH is going to kick in what would've been his parents' contribution.)..

So we went with:

Together with their parents

Sandra
and
Michael

invite you to share their joy
as they are united in marriage

I like it. It's personal, it's inclusive. It's non-judgmental. It didn't involve having a laundry list of names. My father didn't mind at all.

Hope that helps! You'll figure out the perfect words for the perfect day!

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I would rec doing this as well. Too complicated and you don't have a lot of room for this. You want to simplify the wording as much as possible without offending anyone. This or 'Together with their families'.
HTH

Re: HELP!! Invitation Wording

This sounds like the best way to me.....no one can feel offended

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Posted by springsandra

It took us a really long time to figure out what to do about wording because we have a similar situation. My dad is basically paying for most of it. He is remarried. My mom can't afford much but is paying for her family. She is remarried. His parents are together but aren't paying for anything. (FH is going to kick in what would've been his parents' contribution.)..

So we went with:

Together with their parents

Sandra
and
Michael

invite you to share their joy
as they are united in marriage

I like it. It's personal, it's inclusive. It's non-judgmental. It didn't involve having a laundry list of names. My father didn't mind at all.

Hope that helps! You'll figure out the perfect words for the perfect day!

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Re: HELP!! Invitation Wording

yea, im dreading the invitation wording, because my parents are not contributing anything and not sure what his parents are doing. His parents are divorced and re-married.

I think you should go with either what the post says above, 'together with their parents'
or just his real mother and real fathers name. I dont think you have to include the step parents. but if you feel like you want to include them, your best bet is 'together with their parents'

Re: HELP!! Invitation Wording

Thank you everyone for all your help!!

Originally when this issue arose, I was thinking of the 'together with their parents'... but I really wanted my parent's names on there, and they are contributing quite a bit.

Being that his mother was the only one with the issue, we thought we'd ignore it and move past it. In speaking with him, I think he'd prefer the

Mr & Mrs 'Bride's folks'

Ms 'Groom's mom'
Mr & Mrs 'Groom's folks'

Next issue up was his mom emailing me wording she liked... Which included her name on the invitation as:
Ms. (First-name) (Middle-name) (Maiden-name) (Doing-Business-As-Last-name)

The DBA last name, is because their last name is long, and she uses a shortened version. FH tried to inform her that she was ridiculous, and he was not putting all of that on the invite.