HELP!! Parents' gifts for unusual situation? - repeat from 09'

HELP!! Parents' gifts for unusual situation? - repeat from 09'

So I was reading the post 'parents gifts' that SoonT00beMrsC just posted on 09' and it got me thinking...I still have to buy gifts for our parents, but we have a bit of a sticky situation. Okay, so my parents are divorced and have been separated since I was 3. My dad was a dead beat dad for most of my life and has contributed nothing to the wedding. He even had the audacity to suggest that my FH & I should pay for his hotel, to which I replied 'SURE! I'll pay for your hotel, right after you pay for my wedding! You know? Like you're supposed to?' That shut him up...well, for a while...ON THE OTHER HAND we have my mom and my future in-laws. While my FH & I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves, my mom and my in-laws have given us VERY generous donations of several thousand dollars each. So here's my dilemma. I obviously want to get my mom and future in-laws nice gifts to thank them and present them at the RD along with the BP gifts, but what about my dad? I'd like to give him a pet rock, but I know that would be glaringly obvious if I only gave them something and him nothing. Should I still get him something? Maybe something not embarrassingly cheap, but definitely not as nice as I'm getting them? Or should I get him something as nice as I get them? I kinda feel like that would be a slap in the face to them who gave us thousands towards the wedding, no? What would you ladies do?

Re: HELP!! Parents' gifts for unusual situation? - repeat from 09'

Hmm, that's a tough one. I would probably get your mom and in-laws a better gift since you obviously feel they deserve it. You can get your dad something smaller. I can't imagine that he would be shocked if he didn't get something as nice as the others. Good Luck!!!

Re: HELP!! Parents' gifts for unusual situation? - repeat from 09'

get your Dad something, but something SMALL...so he's not obviously left out when you give out gifts....

Re: HELP!! Parents' gifts for unusual situation? - repeat from 09'

maybe you can give them the gift the day before when your dads not around !!

Re: HELP!! Parents' gifts for unusual situation? - repeat from 09'

Re: HELP!! Parents' gifts for unusual situation? - repeat from 09'

Dad should get something small.... A token of acknowledgement but nothing as big or expensive as the others...

Re: HELP!! Parents' gifts for unusual situation? - repeat from 09'

get him something, but something smaller yet tastefull, like a nice picture frame or something. ive gone through something similar, it *****. but if you be big the bigger person, you will feel better about it. good luck!