i have pre cana allll day on saturday. not to offend any of you who practice the catholic religion...but any advice on what i SHOULD say that day in response to questions?! thanks!
The only thing I can say is be honest, they don't really care, they didn't criticize us for anything. It's really all about listening to each other and paying attention to each other. There are no right or wrong answers to anything.
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I agree just be yourself!! Don't worry it is not that bad.
we're going to pre cana on saturday too. Where are you going?
we are doing pre cana too, but it starts on wednesday evening and we have to go for the next 3 wednesdays... I don't really think you have to answer questions. if you want to then that is fine, but i don't think you are forced to. I think the main idea is for you to reflect on marriage and issues which surround marriage.
we just went for our 'Prenuptual Investigation' at the Church here in CA and I was totally freaked out. It went well, I guess, and I just hope that Pre Cana is better. I know that its horrible to say, but the Priests made me nervous. I think that I was afraid of saying something wrong and him 'denying' us from getting married at the church. I totally understand how you feel. Good luck and at least you get it over with in one day!!!
We just finsihed Pre-Cana and to be honest it was alot of fun.... We had such great host couples - so down to earth - I expected it to be really bad - and it wasnt - we answered honestly - NOT always the right CHURCH answer but the truth and they never looked at us twice - All I can say is be honest and ebjoy - you will elarn so much more abt FH its great....
We just finished this on Sunday. We too were worried about them frowning on certain things. But being honest was the best thing we could have done. FH and I really walked away gaining from the experience. Have fun!
Is this at the church or in someone's home? Mine was at a couple's house and they were very relaxed and didn't judge. They actually told us that the two wives had both been on birth control.
Don't worry I was really freaked-out to go also. We just finished last night and it was a great! FH and I touched on alot of topics that we neve would have.
My fiance and I are inthe middle of pre cana. At first we didnt want to go and were not really into it. but you do get somethng out of it. We go to a house and the meetings are run by a couple. They are not judgemental like back in the day when the priests ran it. It actually very beneficial for us. And we met some nice couples. Just be yourself and be honest. it is for you as the couple, not for the church.
We went to pre-cana about 2 weeks ago for a one day Sat. session. I too wondered what to say and what not to say. It was much better than i thought. There was a married couple there and no priest or deacon at all. The couple were evry nice and down to earth. We didn't have to share anything aloud. It was all on a voluntary basis. They did give us a booklet with duplicated question pages about certain topics. They separated the men from the women to answer the questions. Then brought us back together to discuss it only with our partner. So it was all very private. Hope you have a similar experience .
