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Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

Bridex100 Posted:

Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

I have a few friends who I have barely talked to throughout the past 5 years. Right when I had gotten engaged (1.5 yrs ago), I saw a few friends for the first time in 2-3 yrs. They were happy for me and I verbally invited them. (I don't know why I did this!)

Now it's invitation time and I feel bad that I had invited them verbally and am not sending them an invitation. I ran out of invitations! Plus space is an issue. We could probably squeeze them in if need be.

I am a person who likes to stick to my word.

I feel really bad that I didn't invite them when I said I would.

Should I get more invitations and mail it to them? Or should I not feel bad that I am not inviting them?

Help. What would you do if you were me?
missalissa Posted:

Re: Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

haha i had the same problem...i just didnt invite them...and if they said something i said i had to keep the wedding small and close friends and family only bc the venue has a limit...which is true!

They most likely wont remember, or wont ask. No worries!
Autumn08 Posted:

Re: Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

Have you seen them since? I would probably say no either way. It's doesn't sound like you are close with them anyway.

LoveRocks Posted:

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I wouldn't invite them.

Bridex100 Posted:

Re: Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

No, I haven't seen them nor have I talked to them or even emailed them!

I would just feel really bad if I bumped into them and the would know I got married without inviting them.

I never think about these people. I doubt they think about me. We live in different worlds now.

I'm sure they won't care a lot but might care slightly if I saw them again in the future. I know I am totally overthinking this.
nifheim Posted:

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if you didn't send them a std then don't invite them. if they ask or its kinda mentioned be like Oh i am soo sorry i coudnt invite you but as the wedding got closer we got to our max.

Bridex100 Posted:

Re: Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

Then there is this one girl who is ultra flaky.

I lived in Boston for a long time (college, grad school, beginning of my young professional life) and moved back to NYC 2 years ago.

I've lived in NY for 2 years and she has not found time to see me even once.
tricia3381 Posted:

Re: Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

do u think they would come?
i'm thinking just invite them to be nice and hope they don't come.
how much more $$ would extra invites cost? it might be worth it to put ur mind at ease.
thelastresort Posted:

Re: Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

Don't worry about it. You don't have to invite them. Whenever I saw my brother's friends, they would always say 'Oh, we can't wait to have you at our wedding!' and other similar comments. Of course, whenver we saw them, it was at a party or other social event where the wine was aflow. Needless to say, we were not invited to their wedding. We didn't care and we weren't offended at all. In fact, I still went to the church to see them get married.

Mrs A in May Posted:

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I wouldn't sweat it. Just don't invite them.
I told my coworkers they would be invited to mine but now I don't think we have the space. I'm just going to explain to them and they'll have to understand.
BunnyBears Posted:

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nah- even if you do run into them its not likely that you'll have a big white gown on to remind them- you'll probably be in the super market and you have small talk- you will never even have to explain it unless they say straight out and in that case say as it got closer the HALL <-- totally blame them couldnt fit any more and then make sad face ..

dont worry ! things change!!

jgl Posted:

Re: Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

Posted by LoveRocks

I wouldn't invite them.


ditto
jessica08bride Posted:

Re: Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

My cousin is having the same problem. Her first piece of advice to me when I got engaged was NOT to tell random people about the wedding! hehe. She wasn't going to invite them at first but since her wedding is coming up, they have started emailing her things like 'oh, your day is approaching' (even though they havent seen each other or talked - they remembered her telling them about the wedding over a year ago!) or 'can't wait to see you'. so now she's leaving them on her list because she feels bad.

michspch Posted:

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Same thing happened with me. I invited people from my job when I was living in CO last year. I moved back to NY and havent spoken to them since. I feel bad bc I told them I would ionvite them even after they had told me, 'No, you'll forget us by next year' and I told them I wouldn't. I didn;t forget them but I dont really have room to invite them either.

I feel badly but I guess that's how it goes! Life goes on...
magbride Posted:

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Don't worry about it...especially if you haven't seen or spoken to these people. I think everyone understands that weddings are $$$ and you can't invite everyone. I made the mistake of mentioning to a few people I work with (not in my office though) that I wanted to invite them. But our list was getting out of control. I haven't seen some of these work buddies so as of now they're B listed.

LoveisBliss Posted:

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I wouldn't worry about it... They probably don't remember anyway...or since you aren't really that close they probably didn't think they would really be invited.. sometimes we say things just to be nice

If it really bothers you, you can make up a few extra invites and send them... They may decline anyway so you may not have to worry about space...
Munchkn16 Posted:

Re: Help! Should I invite ppl I verbally said I would invite a year ago????

I don't think you need to invite them.


Edited b/c I didn't read the whole thread before posting...

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