Help! Should we invite...

Sammis78 Posted: Jan 14, 2006 01:04 AM

Help! Should we invite...

My FH's sister's fiancee's parents?

Now, I know this sounds crazy, just bear with me. My FH's sister is enaged and will be married about 6 months after our wedding. At that time her fiancee's parents will become part of my FH's family. The parents would be invited to our wedding as guests of my future-in-laws. The problem with all this is that my FH's sister and her finacee dont want us to invite his parents. They are very old fashioned and strict about pre-marital PDA, so my FH's sister and her fiancee dont feel like they would be able to dance or really enjoy themselves at the wedding.

So, any opinions? Does etiquette dictate that we invite them because they will be part of my FH's family? or, should we not invite them so that my FH's sister and his finacee (who are both in our wedding party) can have fun at our wedding?

Thanks

afrodyt2000 Posted: Jan 14, 2006 01:17 AM

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I don't know much about etiquette however, they aren't a part of fh's family now or at the time of the wedding. If they will make fh's sister's fiance uncomfortable then I wouldn't invite them. I would rather they (fh's sister and her fh) be comfortable and be able to have a good time.

Sammis78 Posted: Jan 14, 2006 01:19 AM

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thanks
any more?

TheBigDay Posted: Jan 14, 2006 03:21 AM

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We are not inviting my FH's brothers IL's or FH's sisters IL's... we barely know them, we are only inviting my SIL parents, but that is because they have been VERY close friends to my entire family for MANY yrs (~20yrs), I have known them as long as I can remember

JennyAl Posted: Jan 14, 2006 03:41 AM

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i wouldnt especially since it would make them uncomfy!

klingklang77 Posted: Jan 14, 2006 04:04 AM

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i dont think you have to. they wont be part of your family when you get married.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Jan 14, 2006 08:12 AM

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Posted by JennyAl

i wouldnt especially since it would make them uncomfy!

ditto

mcb916 Posted: Jan 14, 2006 08:50 AM

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I don't think you should. I am inviting one of my SIL's paretns because we really get along with them, but not my other SIL's parents. I'm sure there isn't any obligation for you to do it and if it's going to make FSIL feel uncomfortable I wouldn't.

October Bliss Posted: Jan 14, 2006 09:50 AM

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I wouldn't. I'm not inviting my BIL's parents.

Mygmans Posted: Jan 14, 2006 10:26 AM

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I have to, otherwise i would never hear the end of it.

babybug631 Posted: Jan 14, 2006 10:32 AM

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If my SIL was engaged to her boyfriend I wouldn't feel obligated to invite his parents. I don't know them. If you and FH have a close relationship with them then I 'd say maybe you should invite them. But if you don't I don't think you have to.

roxyspark Posted: Jan 14, 2006 10:35 AM

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Since your FSIL specifically said not to invite them, then I wouldn't.

gigles319 Posted: Jan 14, 2006 10:36 AM

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i woundn't if its goin to make them feel wierd

Sammis78 Posted: Jan 14, 2006 10:42 AM

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thanks everyone! this has been so helpful. I know my FSIL and her fiance will appreciate it too, since now we wont be inviting his parents.

EmberLynn Posted: Jan 14, 2006 10:51 AM

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My brother is getting married in 07, and I'm not inviting her family, except maybe her sister, because she and I are friends.

Katherine121 Posted: Jan 14, 2006 01:43 PM

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You don't have to invite them. They're not part of the family yet, and no one wants anyone to feel uncomfortable. I do think it's a shame though that two grown ENGAGED people have to hide from their parents because they'd be watching their every move. That sux.