Help!!-Update on page 2

I dont understand what getting married will take away from his life? I would ask him that,...sounds like his life is not what he wants it to be and getting married would actually make it a BETTER life....Im so sorry for what you are going through, it sounds horrible and please let us know what happens...KEEP TALKING to him, ask him why EXACTLY does he feel the wedding will change his life.,...if you've been together for 3 years m then what would change? Sounds like there is more to the story?



p.s Paxil is usually for Panic attacks...does he suffer from panic disorder, because if so, maybe he should talk to his DR...if you can convince him to do so about his fears and see if they are real...

Does..anyone, know quickly...where I can get/go a counselor......

We only have 4 weeks..

I am running out of time.....I wish, he would have stopped, me before I gave out the invitations. He even, gave out a few to his people.....go figure?

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Posted by FLaCaTaCa

I am so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, I have no advice or tips but I will hope for you that it all works out. One way or the other.

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I agree 100% hang in there- this wedding stuff really gets us all going- be strong



ETA- you may have to take it day by day for now
I send you extra

Was wondering, should I talk to the priest...or would he be the last one to know there are doubts in our relationship.?

We were just going to get our marriage license.

I would talk to the priest, they can help!!!
Have to spoken to FH today about all this? Are you talking it thru at all?

He has cold feet. Illness is no excuse! I take enough pills each day to have my own pharmacy. I don't complain about, I do it. I don't tell my FH to stop the wedding because I have potentially deadly illnesses. I wake up, take pills, go to work, come home and take pills. Everyday!

He just started this a month before the wedding? It has to be cold feet. Talk to a priest or ask his family what is up, maybe he has confided in them.

ETA: I don't mean to sound bitchy, but as I have said before, I am not good at sugar coating things.

I think he is just nervous... talk to him...ask him what he regrets... ask him how being single would make him happy?

I'm sorry to hear this....I think what I would do is give him an ultimatum if you are scared he won't show up - tell him he needs to make a decision right now. Although it sounds harsh, even if you spent $20k etc divorces can be a lot more $ and painful.

hope you work things out for the best - whatever the outcome may be

The two of you need to have a serious discussion. Is this a case of cold feet or is he really not ready to get married??

Regardless of how much money has been spent on the wedding, do you want to take the chance of marrying a person when you are not 100% SURE THAT he wants to marry you???

I'm sorry that you have to go through this. You do not have an easy decision to make. Talk to your fiancee so that you can make the best decision for you and your future.

Good luck.

Can you try and go to a therapists? or is there someone that can talk to him? A person that can sort things out for him??? I think you need to sit down and have a really long talk with him. He just might have cold feet.

Good luck.

Thank You very much ladies...

But, I am still scared We spoke about his fear...and he said, it was because of the marriage itself. Forever, living with and only being with 1 female for the rest of his life. He said, he started, his life very late and has only had 3 gf, including me.

I told him, it is not like you are a virgin.

I just don't know why he decides to tell me this....with only 3 weeks remaining.?

But, this week, he wants to go pick up the

tickets...and get the marriage liscence. Who knows. Maybe, he is really confused. Someone is going to have to talk to him. I don't know who yet, though. To put some sense into him.