Okay here is the story I need your advice. My FH's cousin is separated from her husband (legally separated....not sure) She just recently moved down to Florida and started 'hanging out with her exboyfriend'. no one in my FH's immediate family really seems to know what is going on with her. I don't really feel like inviting her with a guest but I also do not want to bring up bad memories for her and invite her husband if that is a bad situation. Mind you, we just know all of this from his family's gossip chain. It is not our place to pass moral judgement but if she is not divorced from her husband than we really do not want to invite her with a guest. AND her parents do not know she is with her exboyfriend again. PS she is 23, broke up with this exboyfriend at 20, met her husband and 14 months later they were married and now less than two years later she is separated. thanks gals. we have to call her mom for another unrelated reason and we are thinking of tactfully asking her about FH's cousin and husband.
bridzilla
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Family gossip has a way of getting out of control. When you call your aunt, maybe you can ask her what to do. If it turns out that they are separated, maybe you can invite her alone. If she is not that serious with her BF, then I don't think she'd mind.
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According to Emily Post (I have the book by my comptuer at all times). you only have to invite someoen with a guest if they are married, engaged, or in a serious, long term relationship. This doens't seem to be the case. I'd invite her alone. If she complains (which goes agsint etiquette), then you can tel her you didn't want to invite her wiht guest to make her uncomfortable about having just broken up with her husband. Tell her you were trying to be sensitive to the feelings of everyone involved. Don't even mention the ex-bf because she herself has only admitted to 'ahnging out' with him, and you're under NO obligation to invite him in that case.
KarenK122
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I would call up the aunt and just ask her how should you invite her to the wedding.
I definately wouldn't invite her husband if they are seperated. That might just cause a scene.
Good luck
september2004
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will the husband be invited?
can you invite mr. & mrs. and play dumb?
eogara
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Posted by september2004
will the husband be invited?
can you invite mr. & mrs. and play dumb?
That's what I'd do if, and it seems, you 'don't know' that they're separated.
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thank you all so far. I was thinking of the 'playing dumb' thing. But thank you MaryMoon for the etiquette, I would like to follow that especially since she has not admitted to anyone that she is 'dating' this gentleman.
jill13bean
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well you don't HAVE TO do anything... it is your wedidng
i think i would ask your aunt
wc0143
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Posted by eogara
Posted by september2004
will the husband be invited?
can you invite mr. & mrs. and play dumb?
That's what I'd do if, and it seems, you 'don't know' that they're separated.
I was gonna say the same thing!
oakslady
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personally i would steer clear of the whole mess and not invite her at all ... but that is just me
Sassyz75
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I would say invite her with a guest. She's an adult! Why would you get involved in all the drama- you have a wedding to plan... don't worry about this, it's not a major issue.
