I feel obligated to have my sister-in-law in my bridal party. We are not that close anymore ever since she cheated on my brother. My brother and my family were devastated. They worked things out and had a baby almost two years ago. I am very close with my niece. I love her to death. She will be one of my flowergirls. My brother will also be in the bridal party. He and my FH are best friends. My mother tells me it is the right thing to do but we are not that close anymore. I can't seem to forgive her.
Any advice????
CloudNine
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did you talk to your brother about it?
Nrauch8191
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I did not because I do not want to bring up bad memories...
eternitybride
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ok, that is tough.
Its your day though, and you are supposed to have the people you want, and if you are not close, I would think you don't have to ask her.
People will try and say who you have to have in your bridal party, but its your day, at least that is my opinion.
JoanneAndJustin
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I think you should go with your gut, but will it make your brother feel bad if you exclude her? Do you think he would understand?
It is your wedding day for you and FH ultimately you have to feel comfortable with your BP and surround yourself with people you love.
SummerBride10
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I think thats its your day and you should make whatever decision you feel is best for YOU. Even if that means, hurting feelings.
DnT2010
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im all for its your day, do what you want but you have to be considerate while doing so. IMHO, she cheated on your brother, while i would be FURIOUS, its between her and your brother. obviously they have gotten past it so you should too. if it were me, i would include her, she probably feels horrible enough for her mistakes, i wouldnt want to make her feel unwelcome, especially because the rest of her family is in the BP. good luck with your decision!
Nrauch8191
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thank you all for your help....
CristinanBen2010
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Like everyone said, its your day and you should do what makes you happy. Your brother might get upset if you dont pick her but you know your brother well so I would say you should think about what his reaction would be if you didnt include her. I understand how hard it must be since you dont want to hurt your brothers feelings and its hard for you to get over what she did to him. I know I would feel the same way you do. Good luck on deciding what you want to do
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hi im getting married in 09 but i am going through a similar situation. i am having both my nieces as flower girls. however, my fh does not reallly like my older brother bc of things that have happened and i feel the same towards my sister in law. but i ended up asking both out of obligation. not a very good reason to ask them, but stupid me did. ahh. and on top of that my bridal party was already HUGE.
