Ok so me and my boyfriend are going to be paying for the whole wedding.... we were planning on 100 -125 people - we wanted something small..... So we just told his Dad the other day that we are planning a wedding for next year and he was all happy for us and stuff - we aren't officially engaged yet, but that's coming soon.....
Well I go to his dads house because he was going with us to a RH for pricing, he knows the manager so he wanted to come.... anyway - when i get there, his dad is all excited and has a list of approx 30 - 40 'close friends' he plans to invite to the wedding LOL Thats all good and stuff however, me and my boyfriend cannot afford those extra people!
Do you think that his dad plans to help out with the payments or am i wrong here???
I felt like an idiot saying 'ummm whos paying for them because we are broke' LOL
HELP??? What would you do???
kikimishka12
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awww def. been there. Went to the FMIL's and end up with ...wait for it.... 100 additional guests on the list!!!! She was promptly informed by FH that they would have to cover the additional cost.
GR2010
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You guys should tell him up front that you can only afford the people you included on your list and as much as you would like to have a bigger wedding it's just not in the budget.
RFutureBegins2day
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My FH and I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves. We agreed upon one rule that we both are following and expect our families to understand:
'If we don't know them, then they are not invited to our wedding.'
However, we are very blunt with our parents, so we said 'If you want them to come, you must contribute.' So, they did. LOL.
Remember, this is YOUR day, not your dad's.
MrsDtoB
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Um. You should not be paying, I hope his dad plans on paying for HIS friends. I was engaged before, and my ex's father wanted to invite everyone and their mom to OUR wedding. He didn't offer one red cent, and if we asked, I'm sure the answer would have been no. That is part of why we are no longer together!
annabellagirl
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****************UPDATE**************
Just talked to my BF..... me, him and his dad are going back to the RH tomorrow night and my BF told him the situation about $$$$ soooo his dad said 'before we all go to the RH, come over alone because I want to talk to you about everything'
It sounds like a good sign!!!!!!
Please pray for me that this works out!!!
evita2781
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we wanted a smaller wedding - like 125-150 BUT with FILs and my parents friends, out guest list is about 260. So they knew that we were paying for it, so they're covering their guest list. We decided to take a lot of their friends onto our list b/c we wouldn't invited them anyways.
BellaRegina
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Posted by dctead
Once FH and I got engaged, we sat down and made our list out...
Then handed it to the parents and said, this is who's on it and who we're paying for, and if there is anyone you'd like to add - please feel free to do so, however it will be at your cost...
