Help/opinions: *NOT* offending FILs
Hi All,
No matter what FH and I try to do, FILs think we are offending them, no matter how hard we try to do the right thing.
FH is so afraid that we will be doing something not proper during the next few days leading up to the wedding.
Here is what is going on. Please tell me if you see something potentially offensive to them.
-Wed night: RD at FIL's house (BBQ). I am bringing groom's cake. FMIL doesn't want me to bring anything else, even though I keep offering. FMIL is terribly sick right now (bad cold) and we have offered to cancel the dinner or to have it at our house. She wants to host it still. She hired someone to help her out.
We got them both gifts already (earrings for FMIL and a cool brass bottle opener for FFIL).
FH created a slide show of pics of us growing up, including family pics, and even pics of his sister who has done some really terrible things to us in the past 2 years. At the end, he has a screen that thanks our families and lets them know how much we love them.
-Thurs night: Rehearsal. FMIL and FFIL aren't coming. They say they never go (FH is last of 8 kids to be married). Don't see how we can offend them if they aren't going to be there. After the rehearsal, FH is going to sleep at their house.
-Fri: Wedding. FILs do not want to be in the limos.
I have special flowers for FMIL that she wanted.
I already ran by the order of the receiving line with FMIL and she was amenable to it.
I would like both sets of parents to light the unity candle tapers but FH thinks FFIL won't do it, so I guess we'll just have my mom and FMIL do it, but FH will check with FMIL if FFIL would light it or not.
No matter what FH and I try to do, FILs think we are offending them, no matter how hard we try to do the right thing.
FH is so afraid that we will be doing something not proper during the next few days leading up to the wedding.
Here is what is going on. Please tell me if you see something potentially offensive to them.
-Wed night: RD at FIL's house (BBQ). I am bringing groom's cake. FMIL doesn't want me to bring anything else, even though I keep offering. FMIL is terribly sick right now (bad cold) and we have offered to cancel the dinner or to have it at our house. She wants to host it still. She hired someone to help her out.
We got them both gifts already (earrings for FMIL and a cool brass bottle opener for FFIL).
FH created a slide show of pics of us growing up, including family pics, and even pics of his sister who has done some really terrible things to us in the past 2 years. At the end, he has a screen that thanks our families and lets them know how much we love them.
-Thurs night: Rehearsal. FMIL and FFIL aren't coming. They say they never go (FH is last of 8 kids to be married). Don't see how we can offend them if they aren't going to be there. After the rehearsal, FH is going to sleep at their house.
-Fri: Wedding. FILs do not want to be in the limos.
I have special flowers for FMIL that she wanted.
I already ran by the order of the receiving line with FMIL and she was amenable to it.
I would like both sets of parents to light the unity candle tapers but FH thinks FFIL won't do it, so I guess we'll just have my mom and FMIL do it, but FH will check with FMIL if FFIL would light it or not.
