Help...!What to do about kids at wedding?? with poll

Original post by twright5ny

May 21, 2008 11:51 PM

Please help....

We want an adults only reception...however we thought I would allow my sisters kids (ages 6 and 8) and FH cousin who is from Florida (age 8) because everyone that would watch him will be in NY....

Now...I can't decide because is it fair to allow those kids but not others? Should it be all or nothing?..agh....my sister got a little bothered when I mentioned maybe she and her husband should come alone

Not sure what to do...what do you all think?

mariana881 Posted: May 22, 2008 10:04 AM

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I am only having kids from the bridal party at the wedding, They will stay for a few hours and then go back to a hotel room where someone will watch them for the night.

Yazmin1135 Posted: May 22, 2008 10:20 AM

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I'm having the same issue.

I decided to allow the people who called me & said that they absolutely had no one to stay with their kids. So I have about 5 kids coming.

RadiantBride Posted: May 22, 2008 10:21 AM

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Hey T,

hire a babysitter that can stay with the kids during the reception in a place closeby.

Muahz,
PS- Call me or FM me I went through alot of issues with this.

Kerin2804 Posted: May 22, 2008 10:24 AM

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We are not inviting children to our wedding. Our neices & nephews who are also our rb/fg - I have one cousin coming in from out of town who I have no problem with her bringing her daughter - we just do not want everyone bringing kids because frankly, we can not afford it.

GinaZ Posted: May 22, 2008 10:27 AM

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If you are closer with some kids than others, it is okay to invite them and not the other ones. DH and I invited our cousins, but not 2nd cousins except for one of his. And thats because we see her waaaayyyyy more often than the others and are closer to her. No one cared or thought anything of it.

jessnstu08 Posted: May 22, 2008 10:29 AM

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my neices and nephews ( all who are OOT) are comming- 7 total . i couldn't imagine them NOT being there. my 6 year old neice is SO exited to come, and they are good kids

my FH has three godchildren ( 2 are our flower girls) - they are comming too

total-10
outside of that , NO other children allowed

*** Totally your preference

ItalianBride428 Posted: May 22, 2008 10:30 AM

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I think it is ok, since it is your immediate family...

mendi725 Posted: May 22, 2008 10:34 AM

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I am having 2 kids...my junior bridesmaid and my ring bearer and that's it. We don't have many other kids in the family so it wasn't a big prob but a few people had something to say and I could care less. it's your day. You do want you want.

cbcf Posted: May 22, 2008 10:36 AM

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I am not having children at my wedding, except my 10 year old brother. First off I LOVE children, I am going to school to become an early childhood/special ed teacher so I will be working with them all of the time so it's not that I don't like them. I just feel weddings end to late for younger children, parents will leave early to bring their tired children home and well frankly i dont have the money to pay for 5-10yr olds to eat $60+ in food when I know I don't even eat what's on our menu at the hall.

But I have alot of first cousins under the age of 15. I only have about 8 first cousins who are 17+. So I decided to make the age limit 17 + because I cant invite the cousins I am closer with on my moms side that are 17 adn 19 and then only invite the cousins on my dads side that are 21+ so we decided 17 is the cut off age. I don't want children at my wedding- especially my cousins. They are loud and crazy and frankly my aunts and uncle dont know how to handle them well. It's sad but true. And I am not very close with my dads side of the family. However, I know if it was my sisters/brothers kids I would invite them in a heart beat and tell people - THEY ARE MY NIECES AND NEPHEWS (i think those are more important to have there then cousins-IMO).

So I say don't worry about what others say I don't haha. If you want to invite your nieces and nephews and your FH's cousin then invite them. And if anyone says anything to you the day of...say I am sorry I am trying to enjoy the best day of my life and walk away haha In all seriousness if someone comes up to you the day of and asks why their kid isnt there they got some balls and are very rude.

twright5ny Posted: May 22, 2008 12:36 PM

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You ladies are the best! Thank you so much for all your ideas and advice...I had a small meltdown this morning because I realized I always want to please everyone

thanks a bunch!!!