hers a question steming from yesterdays BHB post

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Posted by MaureenM618

I would definately call off the wedding!!! I couldn't marry a man that I don't trust.

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me too

it'd be hard bc you know it's never that simple. there would be all this he said she said and denial happening if it really went down that way. if i knew for sure, i would call it off for sure.

I wouldn't care. I'd probably want to hear all the details. I don't know, I think I'm weird in the fact that I don't think a raunchy bachelor party qualifies as cheating. I've just never equated love with sex.

FH doesn't share my views. He has no desire to go to strip clubs or anything like that.

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Posted by TheLadyJ

I wouldn't care. I'd probably want to hear all the details. I don't know, I think I'm weird in the fact that I don't think a raunchy bachelor party qualifies as cheating. I've just never equated love with sex.

FH doesn't share my views. He has no desire to go to strip clubs or anything like that.

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Wait U mean if u knew he slept with the stripper u wouldnt care????

I'd be devastated.

I'd be hurt beyond belief.

I'd feel betrayed and disrespected.

I'd call off the wedding, no questionas asked.

And then I would probably curl up in the fetal position, cry hysterically for months, gain 20 pounds and become a cat lady.

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

I'd be devastated.

I'd be hurt beyond belief.

I'd feel betrayed and disrespected.

I'd call off the wedding, no questionas asked.

And then I would probably curl up in the fetal position, cry hysterically for months, gain 20 pounds and become a cat lady.

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Me too but change cat to dog.

Been there, Done that!! I was enaged back in 2004...Found out the dirtbag was cheating with a 19 year old..Called it off, never though twice about it!!....Met my FH 2 months later!!

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

I'd be devastated.

I'd be hurt beyond belief.

I'd feel betrayed and disrespected.

I'd call off the wedding, no questionas asked.

And then I would probably curl up in the fetal position, cry hysterically for months, gain 20 pounds and become a cat lady.

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It really isnt funny but at the cat lady.

He would be out the door before he could even explain himself.

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Posted by krislee316

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Posted by TheLadyJ

I wouldn't care. I'd probably want to hear all the details. I don't know, I think I'm weird in the fact that I don't think a raunchy bachelor party qualifies as cheating. I've just never equated love with sex.

FH doesn't share my views. He has no desire to go to strip clubs or anything like that.

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Wait U mean if u knew he slept with the stripper u wouldnt care????

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Slept with - YES I WOULD CARE!!!

Got a little dirty with - not really. Maybe I misread the post, but I thought the stripper licked whip cream off his chest. I can't see myself getting upset over that.

Cheating as having a affair w/ another women two timing, then yes wedding would be off. I can't be w/ someone I cannot trust

If he got down and dirty raunchy at the BP strippers or whatever.....I'm not going to care about that. - that doesn't bother me

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Posted by branflake1229

I think people who are in a serious, committed relationship should not be doing ANYthing sexual with ANYONE other than their partner. That includes kissing, touching, and all physical contact that is more than just friendly. If I found out that FH so much as had another woman lick whipped cream off of his body, I'd feel extremely disrespected and would have to seriously question his values.

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I just find it funny how completely different we all are. I'm like 'it's no big deal' and others are like 'that would be a deal breaker.'

Everyone is different. I think as long as FH knows where you stand on it, you should both respect eachother's wishes. The problems come when the groom completely ignores his future wife's feelings on the subject, and then lies about the whole thing.

I also find it funny that I'm like 'yeah, go have fun and watch nekkid ladies dance' and he doesn't want ANYTHING to do with that.

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

I'd be devastated.

I'd be hurt beyond belief.

I'd feel betrayed and disrespected.

I'd call off the wedding, no questionas asked.

And then I would probably curl up in the fetal position, cry hysterically for months, gain 20 pounds and become a cat lady.

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Me too but change cat to dog.

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Me too! crazy dog lady!

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

I'd be devastated.

I'd be hurt beyond belief.

I'd feel betrayed and disrespected.

I'd call off the wedding, no questionas asked.

And then I would probably curl up in the fetal position, cry hysterically for months, gain 20 pounds and become a cat lady.

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Me too but change cat to dog.

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Same here, we can be dog ladies together