I was waiting until some things were cleared up, but I just wanted to come on here and let you know how much it means to me to have so, so many of you write such kind things about me, send me such loving fms, and reach out to me on fb.
I never saw this coming..I really thought Michael and I had a great relationship..was it perfect? No. But we never fought, we saw each other every day, and there were absolutely no warning signs (well, according to him the fact that he fell asleep and went to target should have set off flags, but oh well).
He did it over a text message, which was so, so much less than what I deserved. And the best reason he could give me for leaving was that I was myself, I have 'ocd', and I like to be happy-to me these really aren't reasons to call off a 5 1/2 year relationship and a wedding out of the blue. He said he had been unhappy for a very long time, and that everything about the wedding made him 'sad'.
I am proving myself to be stronger than I ever imagined though. He already took away 5 1/2 years of my life, and I just keep reminding myself that he doesn't deserve another day. I've been surrounded by amazing friends, and my family. I've re-connected with friends I haven't seen in years. I've been asked out multiple times haha. I'll get through this, and one day I'll find someone who appreciates me for who I am, and contributes an equal amount to our relationship.
I'm trying to hold off on making any life altering decisions right now, but I also want to use this as an opportunity to examine what it is that I really want from my life. I think I want to go back to school again, and I've wanted to move back to Texas for a very, very long time-it was something Michael was always against, but I now have the opportunity to do that if it's what I decide I really want.
Again-thank you for everything you have done for me-you are all amazing girls, and I'll still come on to look at your weddings..I've been lurking here and there, and my life is better for knowing all of you.
<3 Kayla
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Kayla, Even though I've never met you, I've been thinking about you and your situation since you first posted your 'goodbye'. the whole situation boggles my mind but its so refreshing to know that you are such a strong, amazing, and beautiful woman. Its so cliche but everything does happen for a reason and its so much better now than it would have been after the wedding. I broke off an engagement previously and never once did I say that I never wished it happened--while difficult, i learned so much about myself and became stronger! All the best to you and your future endeavors. Such a happy life you will have from here on out...that I am positive!
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Kayla - Im really sorry this happened but it seems you will be so much better off without a person like that. He doesnt deserve such an amazing person. You will find someone who treats you the way you should be treated. Good luck with everything - I admire your strength so much.
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Kayla, I've been thinking and praying for you. You are so strong and time will heal all wounds.
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Kayla, I give you an enormous amount of credit. You are so strong and you are right, he didn't deserve you. You are a beautiful person inside and out, and you deserve the same in return. Do what makes you happy and know that this was a blessing in disguise because in the end, you deserve better. Good luck to you and I know someday you will find someone who will actually appreciate all you have to offer!
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Kayla, I have been wondering about you since this all happened. I still so very sorry this all happened to you and you had to go through this. I am really happy to hear that you're moving forward and being so strong. Thats amazing and I really admire you! I hope everything works for the best, because thats what you deserve!
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i'm happy to hear you're doing well and staying strong!
if you ever need anything, we're all here for you
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You will def get thru this. By reading your messg i can tell your on the way! I wish you all the best!
jm2010
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it sounds like you have a wonderful support system - i'm glad to read your words and see that you're doing okay ... stay strong!
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Kayla, I have been thinking about you. You are an amazing woman Stay strong, and keep that attitude! He does not deserve 1 more minute of your time. I can't believe that he did not have the balls to tell you in person, a text message!!!! W T F was he thinking!!!!!! No way is he a man.
I am so happy that you are doing well and that you found out what a sh*t head he is now then a few weeks from now.
You are so beautiful and kind, I am sure there is a line of guys waiting!!! You deserve someone that will treat you like the southern bell that you are.
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you are such a strong person, i truly admire how you are handling this. you are right you didn't deserve this but there is someone who will love you for you.
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kayla even though i never met you i admire you. although this post gave me goosebumps i am so happy to hear that you r staying strong. you r a great lady with a wonderful head on ur shoulders. xoxoxo happy hugs
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Your strength and class are amazing...good luck with everything!
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You are such a strong woman...i admire your strength...and he really doesnt deserve you. moving to texas and going back to school sounds like a great opportunity for you. focus on YOU! Lean on the amazing people you have around you who love you for you.
and for the way you are handling everything!!!!
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love you kayla
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Glad your staying strong and looking to a better future.
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Oh Kayla...U are such a strong person. I'm so happy that you are getting through this. He doesn't deserve you. He sounds like such an ***. Please know that we all we continue to be here for you!!! One day you will get your prince charming and laugh at this experience and consider it a blessing.
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Kayla,
You are such a great person. No one deserves this but especially not someone who is so friendly and sweet. You have always struck me as a genuinely kind and you have always been so helpful to me.
I'm so confused but his ridiculous rationale. They seem like the biggest BS reasons.
He doesn't want to be with someone who is happy? What? Excuse me?
You will figure things out. I think you are very brave and obviously a very strong and SMART person for seeing this as an opportunity to better yourself in whatever capacity you should choose to explore.
F*ck him. He's not even man enough to be honest with you OR himself and give an actual reason.
...and seriously? Text message? Grow a pair, Mike.
I hope someone breaks his goddamn fingers with a sledge hammer.
We will always be here for you.
Love you, girl!
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I wish you all the best..Remember, everything happens for a reason...Stay positive and everything will be okay!!....Good luck with everything, and he doesnt deserve you anyway...
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i am sorry this happened to you... you will get through and come out of this stronger!
