Hi and Reception Venue - Need to decide!!

Hi ladies,

My FI and I are planning on getting married on October 30 or 31 2009!

We have been engaged since November 2007 and still have not picked a venue!!! Since January FI and I have looked at about 20 places all together in the TRI-state area.

I need help picking a venue at this point and need your plus/minus on the following two venues:

The first day we went to look at venues we went to the Bourne Mansion in Oakdale - FI and I LOVED it! Its the only place that I have walked into and pictured having my wedding there. My parents went to look at it the next day and HATED IT! They are not fans of the Bourne due to Lessings and didn't like the Mansion. Does anyone know someone that recently got married there??? I have heard mixed reviews on this venue...

The other place we like is the New York Botanical Gardens in the Bronx. We were going to move forward with this one as its very nice and the cuisine is famous but then my cousin heard a bad review recently...advice???

Basically has anyone attended events at either of these venues recently??? Thoughts...

THANKS IN ADVANCE!!!

Places we have looked and had to cross off due to wedding size, money, etc. (If you want pricing let me know!)
Brooklyn Botanical Gardens
San Scouci
Roslyn Claremont Hotel
Louis the 16th
Marros in Rye
The Royalton of Roslyn
NYIT De Seversky Center
Village Club at Lake Success
The Woodlands at Woodbury
The Hempstead House
The Riverside Church
The Catherdral
Harvard Club
Prince George Ballroom
Loft 11
Harmony Club
The Waters Edge
Central Park Boathouse
Nissequoque Country Club
The Vanderbuilt Mansion at Dowling

Places my friends/Family have gotten married so they are not an options:
The Atlantica
Thatched Cottage
Old Field Club
Timber Point Country Club
LOmbardis on the Sound
CV Rich Mansion
Fox Hollow
Crest Hollow