Hi Ladies..have a few sensitive questions to ask

Before you continue reading this, I should tell you that it's about a topic a lot of you may not want to read, since you are expecting. It's about miscarriages, and there is quite a bit of detail. I need to ask those that would have the most knowledge. If you are sensitive to this right now, please don't continue reading....






My best friend miscarried on Friday, she was close to 5 months pregnant. It's very very sad, and she is really beside herself right now. Her husband is up in arms, calling attorney's...because of the actions the hospital, and associate doctors took with her when she called to complain about abdominal pain. I need your advice on whether you think this was handled appropriately, and what, if anything, could have been done to save her baby.

She called her regular doctor late Thursday night complaning of lower abdominal pain, it wasn't severe, but it was a constant dull pain. Her regular doctor wasn't in, but the associate got back to her, and told her that it was 'probably nothing to be concerned with' and that she should get some rest and call him in the morning. She woke up at 6AM with severe lower back pain and was spotting, she called him, called her husband, and rushed to the emergency room. In the emergency room, this associate made her wait 25 minutes, all while knowing that she was bleeding. The doctor did not attach a fetal heart monitor, even at her request, saying that there was nothing to worry about. He did a sonogram, said 'everything looks ok, the baby is just low lying...I can't see anything wrong'. She said 'check again because I'm having a lot of pain'...just as she said that, her water broke, and she went into labor....her husband flipped out, screamed at the doctor and told him, if nothing is wrong what do you call this?? After all was said and done, the insensitive son of a b....without asking her if she wanted to know, told her the sex of the baby.

I have to ask, do you think this doctor did all that
he could do??? Should he have attached a fetal heart monitor? I am not sure the baby could have been saved, but to say that nothing was wrong, when she was in severe pain?

I am not knowledgable in this...so anything that anyone can tell me would be helpful.

I'm going through quite a wave of emotions right now, my sister-in-law is in labor as we speak...so I have this sadness for my best friend, coupled with the happiness of becoming an aunt...just very crazy right now!!

Thank you...and I'm sorry if I made anyone upset with this post....