I am not one of those girly girls that love bridal showers. I am usually very bored at the traditional bridal shower.
I went to a beach bbq shower and I loved it. Two of my favorite things in the summer...bbq and the beach. I told my BM's that I wanted a Jack and Jill shower at the beach. I thought it was a great idea and casual. I was planning to invite about 30 ppl.
I am stressed out b/c my BM's are fighting me on this. They are telling me that its too hard to plan a bbq for 30-50 ppl. They are embarrassed that ppl will think its cheesy and a bad idea. I'm surprised that ppl would think that....at least I wouldn't think that.
Do you girls think that a bbq beach shower is cheesy? Its so sad that I have to tell my BM over and over again I want this and they really hate this idea. They seem to keep talking me out of it. I am at a point that I just want to give up and let them do what they want. My MOH really wants to plan an all girls shower...which i'm dreading.
So far my MOH has shot down my idea for my bachelorette party and my shower. I'm just bummed out about it. Sorry its so long.
kristen1226
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I totally feel your pain. My sisters are fighting me on everything I say.
I personally really like the Beach BBQ idea. If I was getting married in the summer I would totally want something like that. As much as your BMs and MOH want to give their opinion and want to help they have to understand that it's your day. I assume that you don't want to go Bridezilla on them but if that is what you really want then put your foot down.
You don't want to look back and regret not doing it the way you wanted or doing something that you really didn't enjoy.
HTH! Good Luck!
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I don't think there's anything wrong with a bbq shower. I've already told my mother and MOH's that I don't want anything too fancy and I'd rather have my shower in my sister's backyard and maybe just have it catered (my sister has a HUGE backyard).
As for Jack & Jill, not so sure I'd go with that. It always sounds great on paper, but to me, showers are a girl thing. I think FH would be miserable if I did a Jack & Jill shower. JMO.
LadyDuda81509
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its not cheesy its what you want!! the people are coming for you and if you want a beach bbq thats what you should get!!
las1
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It's your shower you can do what you want. That annoying that she is arguing with you about it. I think it's a cool idea.
As for Jack and Jill, I agree with the above post, I would have to say no because my fiance would not like this at all
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I don't think its cheesy at all. I think its better for them to give you what you want instead of you looking bored in pics.
As for Jack & Jill, I actually like the idea. Except, make sure they plan something for the guys to do so they don't get too bored, lol. If your FH will enjoy it, I think you should definitely push for it.
mrsdraskin2009
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I think they really need to take your thoughts into consideration. I understand that they can have opinions, but especially for the shower, they should be more mindful of what you want.
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I dont think its cheesy at all. The point is its your shower and you should have what you want.
Sit down with your FH and ask him if he would be into going, and see if he would enjoy it.
If he says yes, have a discussion with your MOH. Tell her what you told us!! Tell her you would DREAD a 'traditional' shower. And besides, you can get hot dos and hamburgers, pot salad etc and have a nice BBQ.
She thinks it will be difficult to plan a part for 30-50 people. Its because she would plan it HER way in the 'traditional' style. Just tell her simple. Simple. simple. There does not have to be 'games'. There does not have to be all the girlie stuff. Just a nice BBQ with everyone enjoying some sun with regular BBQ food.
I think if she gets its not going to be a 'traditional' party she will get that it wont be difficult.
But you eed to tell her how you feel. Its not a matter of YOU giving in. Just tell them how you feel.
kris_gets_hitched
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I, too, get wicked bored at traditional showers. I know that if I was invited to a BBQ shower (and one on the beach, at that!) I'd be so stoked.
I'm on the fence regarding the Jack and Jill thing. I was thinking of doing that as well, since two of my best friends in the world are guys, but I also feel like they'll be bored...and FH will probably be bored too. See what your FH thinks about that aspect of the party.
But yeah...grilled food, beer, beach, casual attire? That's an A+ in my book.
As far as planning it, it would be easy if someone has a Costco or BJ's membership!
Dee0522
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I'd be all for a beach BBQ shower! I think that is a fun, unique idea. And while I'm not against the Jack & Jill idea, I personally would only have that type of shower if i wasn't planning on opening the gifts. A lot of shower nowadays ask the guests to wrap their gifts in clear paper so they can be displayed, but the bride doesn't actually open everything at the shower. This way she can spend more time with the guests and people (ESP guys!) won't get bored watching the couple open dishes and sheets. KWIM???
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I told my girls that i would prefer a backyard BBQ. I dont want anything to fancy and i think a BBQ is casual and laid back and everyone can have a great time.
SummerBride10
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I honestly think its a great idea, something different. They should def. try and take what you want into major consideration. It is a party FOR you...not them.
JAAMS
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It's your shower, and if that's what you want, I say go for it!
A Jack & Jill Shower wouldn't be for me, because I want all girls only and my FH would be bored. But that's just us! Not you! You should do what's right for you & FH!
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I think a BBQ is an awesome idea!!! I love things like that...sitting in a traditional italian restaurant is nice but can get boring. It's not hard to have a bbq for 30-50ppl...think of it like a big summer party. You get a bunch of meat and if ppl dont get the first round, theyll get the second. I think its a great way to mingle and have fun. Plus a Jack and Jill shower is awesome...the wedding is aobut both of you and the gifts are for both of you. Plus adding the guys is an element of fun esp at a bbq. go for it! I know your bms have other ideas but just speak up and say this is what you want and it'll work!
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Wow thats funny because I feel the SAME WAY!! Im sorry, but I get bored at bridal showers.... watching someone open up gifts for over an hour is to me. Soooooo for my shower, we are having a Jack & Jill backyard party. We invited about 40 people and I dont want more than 2 bridal games and I want to have an assembly line of my BMs to help me open up gifts as quickly as possible!
I also want beer pong and flip cup going on because its fun! FH and I wanted it to be more of a party because we never had an engagement party so we figured it would be fun. FH had to call his boys and explain to them that it wasnt going to be the traditional shower.
I cant wait!!!!! I want FH to party with me and want everyone to enjoy themselves!
I say go for it!!! Its a great idea!!!
xo09xo
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I don't see anything wrong with a beach Jack & Jill shower. I think it would be fun!! If they are against having it at the beach, what about having a backyard bbq? As long as FH is comfortable with it, then go for it.
We are having a Jack & Jill shower and my FH had no problem with it. While I am opening gifts, the guys can play texas holdem!! That should keep them busy.
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I love the beach BBQ idea. maybe you can get it catered so it would be less of a hassle for the BM's to put together- only saying that because it seems they think its too hard to do and dont want to do it. but if all they have to do is call and pick out a menu, its not very difficult. its what you want and i think you should go for it.
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its not cheesy. just tell them that you are not budging and this is what you want. its your wedding and you are trying to help them by telling them what you like. they need to listen to you because you are who the party would be for anyway.
KellymKuehn
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Love the beach/BBQ idea - wish I would have thought of that!
I am personally not a fan of Jack and Jill showers or Bachelor/Bachelorette parties. I think that it kind misses the point of the parties. JMO
Also, all the guys I know would be MISERABLE at a shower. My FH told me when he picked me up from my shower that he was so glad that he got to leave and he felt sorry for me that I had to stay! LOL
Cherylfrank1017
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I think it is a great idea! If you love the beach and are requesting a bbq, it makes it more like a party. Since it is supposed to be about you, why should you be getting a hard time?? I hope you get the party you want
