I have an issue with my best friend of 15+years, who is also my MOH. She is engaged and just had a baby in Feb. She had no wedding plans started except that she wanted to have a wedding next May or June 2012. Awesome! So the other day she texts me, 'If we went to Vegas to get married, would u go?' So Im assuming this is next year, so i respond, 'sure!!!' She then tells me shes thinking Aug/or Sept. Again I assume, 2012. Its not, its this year, Aug/Sept, 2011 !!! So I say to her um... hi, im getting married 1-2 mos from then, my shower, bach party, not to mention financial reasons and leaving town at that time. She was like 'yeah i figured that' So now she is fine with getting married, without one of her best closest friends there, when she can do it anytime, anywhere... I let her know I was hurt she would do that and she doesnt seem to care. We had it out the other night and havent spoken since. She says im being ridic and didnt wanna hear anything i had to say. She said its not all about me. I am honestly hurt that she would choose to do this right before my wedding. I am not in any way a selfish person, but feel that at this time, it should be about me and my wedding, when its 2 months away and u just decided to do this on a whim. I think its poor choice of timing and isnt right. What do you girls think? Am i being crazy and ridic? Please be honest, i can take it... So so long! thanks for listening... xoxo Randi
Rosalind_75
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good!!!
just cause shes your moh and is going to be spending money for your day doesnt mean that you need to spend tons of money for her day. this aint tit for tat here.
butttttttttttttttttt you do need to make up. no em no text!!! it needs to be in person!!!
itbroi805
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One of FH's cousins is getting married this year...they had a baby last year. Before she even picked the day, she asked when we were getting married so that us and our families could be at both weddings.
It's not that she has to consult you so you can 'share your special wedding time' with her, it's so that you can be there. If she doesn't care if you're there or not then I would be def be hurt. Granted she has a child and wants it to be legit, but I don't think 2 months will hurt her.
That being said, if she has NO CHOICE but to make it that day or month for whatever reason and is very said you won't be there but understands why, then I would make it a point to try and get myself there to be with my friend.
From what you said it seems she doesn't care that you're not coming and if that's the case then there is obvi an issue. But I would try and understand why she's doing it then and there first.
jettahot
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Posted by itbroi805
One of FH's cousins is getting married this year...they had a baby last year. Before she even picked the day, she asked when we were getting married so that us and our families could be at both weddings.
It's not that she has to consult you so you can 'share your special wedding time' with her, it's so that you can be there. If she doesn't care if you're there or not then I would be def be hurt. Granted she has a child and wants it to be legit, but I don't think 2 months will hurt her.
That being said, if she has NO CHOICE but to make it that day or month for whatever reason and is very said you won't be there but understands why, then I would make it a point to try and get myself there to be with my friend.
From what you said it seems she doesn't care that you're not coming and if that's the case then there is obvi an issue. But I would try and understand why she's doing it then and there first.
I totally hear you on this.... totally. She has no specific rhyme or reason to do it then, except for ' its her decision and thats when she wants to do it' She is not working, has bank, and can pretty much do whatever she wants, when she wants to, thats why i dont get it!
VCanizalez
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I cant believe she is doing tyhis to u chica!!! =-(
I would be SOO annoyed! =-)
She should understand what ur going thru. I think when she made her wedding date, she did NOT think of U... I dont get it! why woudls eh plan So close to ur wedding wiht so many $$ to pay already?!!!
=-( Sorry chica
adelya21
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this!
Posted by LoveyDovey
Im sorry but its wrong and inconsiderate of her
and even more hurtful that she doesn't care
I had a very similar situation...when I was getting married in June, my bf since i was 13 did the same thing...she said she would get married 2 weeks after me (knowing that i was taking a 2 week hm) I said, wait, what?? Ill be on my honeymoon for your wedding! she said oh well, at least one of us will get to enjoy one of the weddings!!!!
needless to say I am no longer friends with her
I get that she wants to get married and get that she gets to have her day too...but why would anyone want to share the spotlight with another bride so close to them and how could a friend not care that you wont be a part of her day??!!
ugh, im sorry but its wrong and I feel your pain
there is not much you can do about it...its sad and annoying
and honestly its not about the weddings being so close, its about possibly not being able to be a part of it
im sorry
itbroi805
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Posted by jettahot
Posted by itbroi805
One of FH's cousins is getting married this year...they had a baby last year. Before she even picked the day, she asked when we were getting married so that us and our families could be at both weddings.
It's not that she has to consult you so you can 'share your special wedding time' with her, it's so that you can be there. If she doesn't care if you're there or not then I would be def be hurt. Granted she has a child and wants it to be legit, but I don't think 2 months will hurt her.
That being said, if she has NO CHOICE but to make it that day or month for whatever reason and is very said you won't be there but understands why, then I would make it a point to try and get myself there to be with my friend.
From what you said it seems she doesn't care that you're not coming and if that's the case then there is obvi an issue. But I would try and understand why she's doing it then and there first.
I totally hear you on this.... totally. She has no specific rhyme or reason to do it then, except for ' its her decision and thats when she wants to do it' She is not working, has bank, and can pretty much do whatever she wants, when she wants to, thats why i dont get it!
yea she doesn't seem to care and for that i would be totally hurt! at that point you can only wish her the best and leave it at that...if she's a true friend she will regret not having you there and it will only hurt her more than you...Good luck girl!!
