honestly.

Original post by Jesses Girl

Sep 10, 2007 10:37 PM

my bros wedding was great. they paid for it ON
THEIR OWN...the OWN MONEY...

a COUSIN put 50$ in a card...for her, her TWO sons and her brother (who is a 30 something year old man)

50 EFFIN DOLLARS...its not about the money but cmon now...use ur effin head.

her sister and husband...gave 20.

I know it seems really rude of me...but give me a break...u HAVE MONEY...you ARENT struggling...

and you knew about the wedding for over a year!

angl2001 Posted: Sep 10, 2007 10:53 PM

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Thats what i am expecting from my family
but what can u do...

dajc23 Posted: Sep 10, 2007 10:54 PM

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Posted by Jesses Girl

and think im rude all you want..

im venting bc these are CLOSE FAMILY...we see them for everything...i think thats just ridiculous

I dont think you're rude at all...FH and I worry about this all the time. His family has all the money in the world and they refuse to part with it. And those are the people FH busts his *** for everyday!!! (he works with them)

kristi313 Posted: Sep 10, 2007 10:56 PM

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Posted by Jesses Girl

Posted by kristi313

get everything out on here, DO NOT take this off the computer. you need to vent everything in your head right now to us, you dont wanna snap to these people, if your bro and sil are going to address it that's fine, it's their issue. you have every right to be pissed, i would be furious. you really are a great sister, you can just tell that from how angry you are for them. let it out girl!!!!!!!

haha dude!!! i get paid biweekly...

i made sure i didnt do ANY FOOD SHOPPIN so i could add to my card

plus 200$ for hairmakeup...

plus all i did for her bach party

like i am angry...i mean i love my bro to death.. i wish i could have given a lot more than i did but its hard to when ur saving...and working to pay the bills!

so when they get cheated by people like that...it *****..and it hurts..

welcome to the world of sucky people we're surrounded by them trust me i understand the money thing i get paid twice a month but yet i still find a way to give when needed. it's called SAVING!! lol ya know what you should do, write these people a letter BUT DON'T SEND IT lol i find it helps to write crap like this to get it off your chest

jennandrolo Posted: Sep 10, 2007 10:56 PM

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and i bet the same family members that cheat you out, expect generous gifts in return

empressdani Posted: Sep 10, 2007 10:58 PM

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Posted by angl2001

Thats what i am expecting from my family
but what can u do...

same here. Only bc my Caribbean family is not used to these 'Yankee' style weddings and may not get the etiquette

Jesses Girl Posted: Sep 10, 2007 10:59 PM

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Posted by jennandrolo

and i bet the same family members that cheat you out, expect generous gifts in return

i just discussed with my mom

the girl that gave 25 for her and her husband..got married once before...

we all traveled to maryland...stayed in a hotel..AND gave at least 100$
EACH...

me
my bro n his fiance
my sister
my mom n dad

thats like 400$

missK Posted: Sep 10, 2007 11:02 PM

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Wow!!! It could be be worse my friend got a deviled egg dish from her cousin and 2 sisters
Umm what ???

Jesses Girl Posted: Sep 10, 2007 11:04 PM

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Posted by missK

Wow!!! It could be be worse my friend got a deviled egg dish from her cousin and 2 sisters
Umm what ???

ok yah you win.

jennandrolo Posted: Sep 10, 2007 11:06 PM

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Posted by missK

Wow!!! It could be be worse my friend got a deviled egg dish from her cousin and 2 sisters
Umm what ???

thats so not cool

Jesses Girl Posted: Sep 10, 2007 11:09 PM

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im going to bed

gnite!

thanks for lettin me vent...altho im still annoyed haha

Bella77 Posted: Sep 10, 2007 11:12 PM

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Posted by missK

Wow!!! It could be be worse my friend got a deviled egg dish from her cousin and 2 sisters
Umm what ???

missK Posted: Sep 10, 2007 11:12 PM

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Posted by jennandrolo

Posted by missK

Wow!!! It could be be worse my friend got a deviled egg dish from her cousin and 2 sisters
Umm what ???

thats so not cool

Yeah I know that they definetly enjoyed themselves fully cause I sat with them at the table

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Sep 10, 2007 11:21 PM

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wow im so sorry for your brother that really is horrible,

in february my sister got married, and let me tell u people were so cheap it wasnt even funny, and i was debating or not wether to invite them

I got sooooo mcuh SHIIT from the girls on LIW for that post saying how its not hte gift and that you want them there no matter what...

NO ONE AGREED WITH MY POINT OF VIEW
just funny that everyone is with you on this

i do not think you should invite htem if you dont want them there

Shell84 Posted: Sep 10, 2007 11:47 PM

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I don't know why people gets upset really.
You choose where to have your wedding and who to invite. You don't do it hoping to get your money back. Maybe it's just me, but I'll be more than happy if anyone decides to give me an envelope, but i am not waiting on it.

Teamhurldon Posted: Sep 10, 2007 11:50 PM

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i gave 50 at my friends wedding last year, but i spent over a grand on dress, airfare, hotel, and rental car to be there, so i hope there werent any hard feelings.... people give what they can give. Im tired of reading these 'money' posts, its not about the money at all, i wish nobody gave gifts at my wedding so nobody would have to feel favored or not or deal with politics...

angl2001 Posted: Sep 11, 2007 12:00 AM

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I am aving my weding cause its what i want....but yes i am sure in the back of EVERYONES mind they are looking to make $$ on it!! Now unless you have a really ricjh Family you are NOT gonna make your $$ back at all!!! I was told long ago you shuld guesstimate the price per plate and give that ammount as the gift. but i guess most people dont htink of that. You also get people who dont like the fact that you have an E-party, Then a shower then the wedding.....It is alot for some people. Alot of people dont like that they are paying out so much $$. I work at BBB and hear people complain about it all the time. I have even had people say they arent giving as much at the wedding cause they are getting an expensive shower gift.............
But really...if you are looking to make a good ammount of $$ on you wedding. Don't have it at a very expensive place cause you most likely wont make it back....JMO

Toucan311 Posted: Sep 11, 2007 12:04 AM

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Who goes to ANY party w/$25 dollars, let alone a wedding??

Jennifer907 Posted: Sep 11, 2007 01:15 AM

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My cousin and I were talking about this yesterday. One of her friends for her wedding got an envelope with...ready for this...5 singles in it. Yes, that's FIVE dollars!!! I couldn't believe it. I was so broke and gave one of my coworkers $150 for his wedding. I don't understand people. Another one of her friends got a picture frame. She said to expect many couples to give $50.