Honeymoon - Vent

My FH asked me today if we could postpone our honeymoon for a month. He works in a job that has its busiest season in December. When he accepted the job a year ago he told them he would need a week off for the wedding/honeymoon. Then his company said 'no problem'. Now a year later his boss is giving him a lot of grief for taking his honeymoon/getting married in December .

I told my FH that we should do whatever he needs to do. So he is investigating now changing our honeymoon plans. I am trying to be supportive - but I have to say I am pissed at his boss/company. What kind of company can not operate without a person for a week? What kind of company puts so much pressure on a person that we have to change our honeymoon!!!!

Thank you for listenting - I want to be supportive of my FH - but trully this *****!

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A very bad company, in my opinion. I am sorry you have to deal with this. It is so hard to find a place to work where the powers that be really care about their employees. It sounds like your FH's bosses do not care about their employees, or about the promises they make to them! Maybe you can just do something for two nights or so and then go on an extended honeymoon later on.

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That really stinks!

My job is giving me a hard time for taking 2.5 weeks off...but too bad! We have a big project that we're working on and I'll be leaving right in the middle. Sorry...I booked my wedding way before you decided on this project date.

It does stink...but honestly...with the way the economy is...if you can postpone it without penalties and if FH is less worried about his job...your better off.

Becky's right..maybe you can do a little mini vaca...bed and breakfast or something...

Oh yea...and boss asked if I could bring my pager and laptop to Hawaii with me...NOT doing that either!

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I like what Becky said. Maybe you can do a little weekend getaway now and postpone the honeymoon to a month later. It is sad how companies today have little reguard for their employees. I think it is great how you are so understanding & realize that your husband is not at fault and that its his job.

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That really stinks that they said one thing but now they are changing their minds.

FH and I aren't going on our honeymoon right after either but I'm kind of glad. I knew when we picked our date that it was FH's prime season but I just really wanted to have our wedding in the fall, so we decieded to do that and we will go on our honeymoon in Jan. or Feb.
The reason I'm glad is because then I don't have to worry about packing and travel plans durring my last few days before the wedding...just one thing to worry about at a time.

Don't let it stress you too much you will still have your honeymoon and it will still be wonderful.

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I know its easy for me to say, but I am not in your shoe. The excitement you feel leaving for a HM the day or 2 days later will still be there when you leave a month later. I know you FI would not do this if he did not have to. It will be fine, whether you go a month later or a week later, you will be with your husband and that's all that matters.

Take care and chin up..there are a lot of people that could not even afford a HM so you are in a much better position than a lot of brides.

Stay blessed and happy planning

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I just wanna say good luck and I hope you don't take it out on him. My father works payroll and we were never allowed to go away after labor day due to his job and with the way the market is atleast you will have one eventually.
My fiance is in the Air Force and we had to postpone our wedding and naturally our honeymoon.

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I just want to thank you all for the support and for the reality check.

Shamma and 070502 - you guys are so right - I am lucky to be taking a honeymoon with the man I love no matter when we take it. I don't know why but sometimes during this planning process I become a 'Crazy Bride' - thank you for helping me keep things in perspective.

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No problem glad you feel better.. In the long run.. it is 'postponed' not 'cancelled' both can be upsetting but only one is permanement:)

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He should definately arrange for the day before off and the Monday& Tuesday after. That way you can do a weekend getaway. Go to Maine or Vermont for a few days and relax. Then go on your honeymoon. You will be making the whole thing last longer by waiting.

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i hope you didn't invite his boss to the wedding!!