Ok girls, I'm crunching numbers here. My parents are gracious enough to pay for up to 225 ppl (our minimum guarantee) at our wedding. My side is 135 ppl. BUT.....FH's family and friends come out to 188 people!!!! He has 70 friends and the rest are his family. His family is HUGE and he isnt close to 85% of them. But FIL's insist we invite all these ppl. FH explained that we are about 100 ppl over what my parents are paying for. (Granted, not everyone will come, but I doubt 100 ppl will decline.) How the heck am I supposed to cut this list down? There are cousins on this list FH doesnt even like!!! Should we just not invite them and disregard what his parents tell us?? HELP!
Bee12
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Re: how did u cut down your guestist??
Posted by April_Luv
Posted by Lady12
I am the Queen of this! I have been so stricted with my guestlist that sometimes I am afraid I might be under! From day one I said my wedding would be no more than 100 people no matter what! I cut out children, excepts for our nieces and nephews (no little cousins, sorry). Our number one rule was if you have not met my fiance in the 8 years we have been together, then you dont need to be there, and this includes plus ones! (for the most part, I let one or two go dpending on circumstances). I will admit that it created some tension with some people but I dont care and I told my mom. People have some nerve getting upset for not being invited to my wedding, when they have not said a word to me since I was 12! FH and I are paying for this wedding ourselves, and it was very very important to us to have only people there who truly care about us.
This is your wedding! You and FH should invite who you want there!
ITA- Tell it girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I concur!! This is now my newly revised rule!! Thank you Lady12
leesah85
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I drew the line at my second cousins. I don't really want kids, but I think FH might have a cow if we don't invite them. Maybe when he realizes that each little stinker is basically $100 each, he'll change his mind lol. Crest Hollow was terrible with children - they only take $10 off the price and limit it to 10 children.
Our list is still 130 just for my family, 80 for his. Then we have about 30 friends and 25 friends on a B LIST!
GT143EA
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We cut out children (except for my stepson and DH's nieces and nephews), second and third cousins, co workers. You could also cut +1's which i think someone already mentioned.
Lady12
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Re: how did u cut down your guestist??
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Posted by April_Luv
Posted by Lady12
I am the Queen of this! I have been so stricted with my guestlist that sometimes I am afraid I might be under! From day one I said my wedding would be no more than 100 people no matter what! I cut out children, excepts for our nieces and nephews (no little cousins, sorry). Our number one rule was if you have not met my fiance in the 8 years we have been together, then you dont need to be there, and this includes plus ones! (for the most part, I let one or two go dpending on circumstances). I will admit that it created some tension with some people but I dont care and I told my mom. People have some nerve getting upset for not being invited to my wedding, when they have not said a word to me since I was 12! FH and I are paying for this wedding ourselves, and it was very very important to us to have only people there who truly care about us.
This is your wedding! You and FH should invite who you want there!
ITA- Tell it girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I concur!! This is now my newly revised rule!! Thank you Lady12
