So i went through our guest list to finalize it and see how many invites i need to order last night. We both come from big family's, so we knew having 100 or 150 ppl wasn't going to happen. So the final count was 306 ppl
We are paying for this ourselves, like most couple now a days and theres no way we can afford that many ppl. I asked FH mom and dad to cut down there list from the original 140ppl it's down to 129 (still too many),
My side is 100 ppl Our friends and BP is 80 (including us) His side is 129
So the question is How do i tell FH parents to cut 30 ppl off the list? if there is cancellations we will have a B-list but we only want 225 to 250 ppl.
SoonToBeMrsCali
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I say if you're paying it for yourselves you tell them straight up that you can't afford to invite ALL of the family. They may offer to help out.
No one but you and FH should be making the guest list anyway since you're footing the bill... invite who you want there.
DCgirl82
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I would def tell them to please go thru their lists and see who they can take off.. Tell them its way too many people.. If they don't really talk to or spend time with some of the people on the list they kind of dont need to be at your wedding ya know? I know that sounds mean but you are paying for all this yourself and its expensive! Hopefully they will understand or maybe they will offer to help pay for their guests??.. Good Luck!
ourwedding9510
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We had the same problem! We invited 300 people and I was having a heart attack when it came to our list and it was too many people. We told the parents 100 people and if more then 80 of their people came they were to pay for those people. Maybe you can mention that to FH's parents. I had to end up putting my foot down at one point and told DH that if his parents didn't cut people off their allowed list, then I was going to. They cut people but still not to what I wanted. We only had about 220 with vendors at the wedding and we wanted 220-225. Remember, there will be no's.
njoseph8
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we told FMIL that if she wanted her friends there she would have to pay for them since we simply do not have any possible way of coming up with that $$. Thankfully she understood!
headovaheels119
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Bridezilla and Groomzilla came out last night. When FH heard me cursing, then saw the $$$ it was going to be to have all theses ppl. He was like thats it we have to talk to his parents.
I told him we have 3 options
A. FMIL & FFIL cut at least 30 ppl off the list
B. I do it for them
C. They pay for the 30 ppl, including the linens and flowers. (i only est. 250 and that's all we are paying for)
Moonmist09
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be honest with them and tell them you can't afford to pay for that many people. that you can't go over 250 people and everyone has to cut their list down. consider your own list and see if you can cut from there and your side of the family as well. on the plus side, always remember that about 15% of people invited respond no.
itbroi805
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My list is about 290 and the RH said I could expect about 225. You will def have no's, so if you can even cut like 10 or 15 ppl I would say you will have around 225 or so. Unless you know for sure that most people will be coming.
headovaheels119
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Thanks for the advice... When i counted the list i didn't count ppl that will be getting courtesy invites. I cut my side and our friends already.
