How do I address save the dates?

Do I write 'John Smith', 'Mr. John Smith', or 'Mr. Smith'? Also, what do I do if someone lives with their parents who are also being invited- can I write all three names on the envelope?

Thank you in advance, hoping to mail these today.

How do I address save the dates?

personally i would write mr john smith

for the the family one I would address it to the parents.. thats what i did but you can let them know when you talk to them they are invited with their parents

How do I address save the dates?

For someone in a family and you are inviting everyone who lives there, I'd just write 'The Smith Family'. If you address it to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and their daughter Jenny is invited who lives with them, it's rude not to put her on the address and just 'tell her'. Then what's the point of sending save the dates? If they have another kid who lives there, You would just send it to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith on the first line and then under that, Ms. Jenny Smith and then the address follows. If you're inviting her with a date, you'd write Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, Ms. Jenny Smith and guest.

How do I address save the dates?

if you look it up you will find this:

Children under the age of 18 should be included on the invite with the parents. Children over the age of 18 should receive their own invite

Just saying....


http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-invitations/articles/addressing-wedding-invitations.aspx

How do I address save the dates?

I am addressing my save the dates this week, so I am happy to see this thread. Are you handwriting the addresses, using labels, or printing them directly on the envelopes?

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Posted by HesLIgirl

For someone in a family and you are inviting everyone who lives there, I'd just write 'The Smith Family'. If you address it to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and their daughter Jenny is invited who lives with them, it's rude not to put her on the address and just 'tell her'. Then what's the point of sending save the dates? If they have another kid who lives there, You would just send it to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith on the first line and then under that, Ms. Jenny Smith and then the address follows. If you're inviting her with a date, you'd write Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, Ms. Jenny Smith and guest.

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I agree. With save the dates you can put 'the smith family'. On a formal invite, it can be that too or if they're over 18 they should have seperate invites. But for save the dates.. They don't need more than one on their fridge and the rest will go in the trash most likely so I say send one per household.

How do I address save the dates?

I've gotten most STDs/invites that say 'Mr/Ms Smith and guest', since we're not married. I plan to do the same, with only changes to ones who are married to read 'Mr and Mrs. Johnson'

I plan to hand off some STDs to my FIL's, since they are inviting people that I don't know and can address them correctly.

Another question: Have any of you considered just handing the STD's to people you see on the regular? Is that tasteless? Just curious.

How do I address save the dates?

I didn't put Mr. Smith and guest on the save the dates. ALso I don't personally agree with the over 18 get their own invitation. I think (although some may disagree) unless they plan on giving a seperate card / gift then they should be on the 'family' invitation. But that's just my opinion

okellies - depending on who it is that you are talking about just handing STD's to. I would just mail them, however I've had one handed directly to me before and I didn't think that it was rude or tasteless

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Posted by okellies

I've gotten most STDs/invites that say 'Mr/Ms Smith and guest', since we're not married. I plan to do the same, with only changes to ones who are married to read 'Mr and Mrs. Johnson'

I plan to hand off some STDs to my FIL's, since they are inviting people that I don't know and can address them correctly.

Another question: Have any of you considered just handing the STD's to people you see on the regular? Is that tasteless? Just curious.

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I recently had someone do this to us. The majority of the people they were inviting lived in the same neighborhood so to save money on stamps they either gave it to us when they saw us or drove to peoples houses and left it in their mailbox without having to actually mail it. I didn't think it was tasteless. I don't think it makes a difference but that's just my opinion

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Posted by rcotter90

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Posted by HesLIgirl

For someone in a family and you are inviting everyone who lives there, I'd just write 'The Smith Family'. If you address it to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and their daughter Jenny is invited who lives with them, it's rude not to put her on the address and just 'tell her'. Then what's the point of sending save the dates? If they have another kid who lives there, You would just send it to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith on the first line and then under that, Ms. Jenny Smith and then the address follows. If you're inviting her with a date, you'd write Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, Ms. Jenny Smith and guest.

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I agree. With save the dates you can put 'the smith family'. On a formal invite, it can be that too or if they're over 18 they should have seperate invites. But for save the dates.. They don't need more than one on their fridge and the rest will go in the trash most likely so I say send one per household.

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Yes yes yes! I agree. The worst I've ever seen is my mom got a shower invitation sent to her house that was addressed to her and my two older sisters. None of us live there!

How do I address save the dates?

I have never received an invitation or save the date that read the smith family. Alway seperate from my parents even living in the same house.

I also never had anything addressed to me that said and guest. When I was allowed a guest by the person they always called me ahead of time for FH's name to include on the card.

But i guess it really depends on how formal you want to be. I think its a matter of preference honestly...you do what naturally feels right

Also I'm not sure how most do it but I know my family,Fh's family as well as some of my friends are big on actually saving invitations.

How do I address save the dates?

I agree with calling and asking for the guests name. My sister wrote 'and guest' on my cousin's invitations to her wedding and they ended up bringing some female friends. All the friends did was drink, be rude to guests, and even wrote how wasted they were all over my sisters guest book. Needless to say that will not be happening at my wedding.

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Posted by FBC81

I agree with calling and asking for the guests name. My sister wrote 'and guest' on my cousin's invitations to her wedding and they ended up bringing some female friends. All the friends did was drink, be rude to guests, and even wrote how wasted they were all over my sisters guest book. Needless to say that will not be happening at my wedding.

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OMG!! that is a nightmare!!

How do I address save the dates?

For our save the dates we did 'Mr & Mrs John Smith'. For the family that we are inviting we did The Smith Family even if there was a person older then 18 that lives in the house that were being invited since we were limited on the save the dates to send out. For the invitations we will address the person in the family that is being invited with a date with their own invites.

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Posted by FBC81

I am addressing my save the dates this week, so I am happy to see this thread. Are you handwriting the addresses, using labels, or printing them directly on the envelopes?

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I handwrote the STDs. I did what many of the ladies suggested and wrote 'mr and mrs ...', and then for families that live together I wrote 'the smith family'...

For the invitations I am going to most likely print them on there.

How do I address save the dates?

Thanks for all the advice ladies. My STDs are officially in the mail. Woohoo