How do I handle this one?

How do I handle this one?

I found out this morning that one of my guests passed. Obviously today is not the time to even be thinking about myself, but I have to give my final numbers to the hall today. I am assuming that his daughter and wife will not be attending, but I don't want to bring it up, my wedding is obviously the very last thing on their mind. Should I just include them, and hope that they might need an afternoon out next week? Or should I just assume they won't be coming? I don't know how to handle this sticky situation. If it were me I wouldn't go, but I don't want to offend them.

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Thats awful

Honestly I would call your RH and explain the situation to see what they suggest.. Maybe they can set places for them just incase and allow you to pay only if they show.

Anyways Im sorry to hear this

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Posted by DCgirl82

Thats awful

Honestly I would call your RH and explain the situation to see what they suggest.. Maybe they can set places for them just incase and allow you to pay only if they show.

Anyways Im sorry to hear this

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I would totally say this too.

So sorry to hear about this!

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I agree with Michelle, see if the RH will allow you to pay only if they show up

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I would not include them in the final count.

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That's a hard one, I am so sorry to hear!

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I'm so sorry, that's horrible

For now, just include them-unless you have some b-listers you'd like to invite. I wouldn't bring it up to them, let them make the decision when their ready. Maybe send them a card or email letting them know your thinking about them during this sad time. Hopefully, they'll give you an answer on their own.

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I'm not one to make decisions for other people. I would keep their RSVP as is and if anything changes you can always call the hall and let them know that they will not be attending. I would keep them in the list. It's a week and a half from now, the craziness might be over and like you said they might need something to do to keep them busy.

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I think it's really hard to make assumptions in cases like that. It also depends on how close they are to you, how sudden or expected the death was, and how they are dealing with it.

I'd keep them on the list for now. There's no nice way to ask.

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Posted by HSsweethearts

I think it's really hard to make assumptions in cases like that. It also depends on how close they are to you, how sudden or expected the death was, and how they are dealing with it.

I'd keep them on the list for now. There's no nice way to ask.

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It would be inappropriate to ask them. Unfortunately if they don't show up, you will lose out on money, but the money is not worth burning bridges.

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