argue? do you yell and scream? is one person calmer than the other? are you sarcastic? how do you make up?
i'm just curious on how other people argue- FH and I argue and then when we cant come to a solution (usually by that time we're yelling) we stop talking to each other. he hasnt talked to me since yesterday 4pm.
AngnShaun
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it depends what we are arguing about..... obviously some things are more serious... we used to yell and scream A LOT... i would throw stuff... slam doors and whatnot... we have grown up a lot over the years...
we might ignore each other for a little bit to cool down if its a serious argument... but i have trouble letting things go once we start fighting so we almost always come to a solution with in a few hours... i hate going to bed really angry...
FutureMrsSoltan
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we usually yell and scream and then i end up cracking up laughing i have no idea why lol
i cant take him seriously when he yells
grkbarbie
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we tell eachother to drop dead, die, ahole,bish.etc etc then literally 2 minutes later,'what do u want to eat?'
i used to date a guy who would not speak to me for DAYSSSSSSS when we fought. thats the worst. id rather be called a c u next tuesday than be ignored for a few days. blehhh
Sandradv121
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we fight like its our jobs. And than we make up. And fight all over again.
GR2010
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We're sarcastic and then I pout (even if I win) and then I ask him to do something for me and then everything is fine... I can only remember one time we had an all out screaming brawl.
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We are opposite fighters. I’m a sarcastic, slightly mean, raise my voice fighter and he shuts down. So, when I start getting loud, he usually just says- who you getting loud with? And that makes me stop. When he shuts down, I try as much as I can to get it out of him and he usually gives in after about a ½ hr.
Lu2700
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hmmmm for a BIG argument..... generally fh is the calmer one.....i usually start out yelling and being sarcastic buuuut i always end up crying. then i usually go the IGNORE route for a day or so while fh calls me ridiculous....untilllll right around the end of the 2nd day when fh usually just ***** it up and apologizes...pretty healthy relationship we've got huh!? lololol
mrsdraskin2009
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Loud and sarcastic
DaniandKen2010
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We both act like children and stomp and pout and whine. Usually call eachother names, ignore eachother for a little while and then are fine an hour later. I hate the silent treatment.
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Posted by grkbarbie
we tell eachother to drop dead, die, ahole,bish.etc etc then literally 2 minutes later,'what do u want to eat?'
Same. I can argue like crazy and then get over it pretty quickly. I work that way much better than a long drawn out argument.
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I usually start off calm trying to talk things out but as soon as there is confrontation FH shuts down. Then i escalate to yelling and FH will literally just stare at the tv or something. It ends up with us not speaking for a few hours then FH will be like 'so you feel better now?' Which then throws me into another rage - its a bitter cycle!
Usually at some oint one of us will just bring up something casual like 'did you feed the dog?' then we go back to normal.
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i usually get angrier and start yelling ... then he tells me to stop yelling but, of course, that just makes me angrier. Then after a few minutes of that, we kind of both shut down and ignore each other for about 10 or 15 minutes ... then i bring it back up and he starts smiling ... i say 'see, you're smiling because you know i'm right' ... and that's usually the end.
we've rarely been in a fight for more than a few hours ... and those times have been because it was overnight and we went to sleep mad.
kris_gets_hitched
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I'm usually the loud, sarcastic one. He's calmer. A lot calmer.
But once we've (I've) cooled down, we just discuss what the issue is.
Windy
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we tell eachother to drop dead, die, ahole,bish.etc etc then literally 2 minutes later,'what do u want to eat?'
i used to date a guy who would not speak to me for DAYSSSSSSS when we fought. thats the worst. id rather be called a c u next tuesday than be ignored for a few days. blehhh
Hmmm... maybe u dated my FH bc thats exactly what he did before we lived together - but now there is no escaping me!!!!
Lsorrent
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I scream and he gets very very quiet. He's very passive aggressive, and I'm well, aggressive.
We've had fights where we didn't talk to each other for 3 days. If that happens, if we're not talking by the third day, I make it a point to basically schedule a time that we need to sit down and have a civilized, adult conversation.
ETA: When we REALLY fight it's bad because we're both stubborn a$$es. Neither one of us likes to apologize or admit we're wrong. Instead we continue to defend ourselves and it just makes things worse.
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MrsC2010
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i dont think we have ever yelled and screamed at each other in the almost 7 years we have been together.
our fights are usually just sarcasm, me ignoring him, or just talking it out.
lori7570
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We both HATE apologizing. I am a crazy fighter...he just kinda sits there and brings up unrelated stuff. Then we just let it go like 10 minutes later. which is probably why he still brings up stuff from 10 years ago LOL
halfbaked
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Don't worry- FH is not talking to me now either. Princess waited for a WHOLE half an hour to get his passport today and then left because it was 'too hot'. Yeah, we're supposed to be going on our honeymoon in 6 weeks.
My arguement style is yelling, his is the silent treatment. The yelling drives him so crazy that it makes him more silent and the silent treatment makes me so crazy that I yell more. And then it gets to the point where we don't talk, then I cry my eyes out and he feels bad.
