How do you ask the MOB to drawback?

chichila15 Posted: May 10, 2004 01:35 PM

How do you ask the MOB to drawback?

I love my mother to death, however, she can be quite stubborn, intrusive, demanding & fussy. My maid of honor is planning on throwing me a bridal shower (don't worry, I don't know many details - for element of surprise), however, my mom is trying to take over. Apparently, she's overruling the MOH's choices/options, and 'suggesting' her own. My MOH is a sweetheart, and as to not create bad blood, she'd follow through with my mom's suggestions. However, I know my mom, and I hate when she does that to me, and don't want her muscling her way with my MOH. Plus, I know that my mom wouldn't throw me the ideal bridal shower (she can be stingy, and I know her ideas are kind of tacky).

Being that the mother of the groom won't be able to throw a rehearsal dinner, I'm thinking of 'assigning' that task to my mom, to distract her from the Bridal Shower preparationsA.

Any suggestions, comments?

nferrandi Posted: May 10, 2004 03:38 PM

Re: How do you ask the MOB to drawback?

I think it would be a good idea to shift her responsibilities and give her something else to focus on. Tell her that you want to make things as easy for everyone as possible and it would make the most sense to allow your MOH to handle the shower arrangements if she could just take care of the RD.

9.17.04bride Posted: May 10, 2004 04:22 PM

Re: How do you ask the MOB to drawback?

I think that is a great idea also. Like you said it will give her something else to do. And it makes it one less thing that you have to worry about.

chichila15 Posted: May 10, 2004 04:27 PM

Re: How do you ask the MOB to drawback?

I agree... it's just hard getting through to her sometimes. I kind of mentioned the RD to my mom, and she didn't bite entirely. I'll add a little pressure to it, and see how it results. Hopefully, she'll agree, and focus on that, and leave the MOH to play the shower.

Thanks for your help, ladies.