I really dont know what to do, and its making me very sad. My FH dosent want to pick a best man, and he could care less about the wedding. I had a flower app 300pm on sat and one of his workers called and asked him to work. He said he would find him something to do. Now he said he forgot that we had a appointment and asked me to change it. I stared at him. I had no words. He is just making things difficult and I am getting upset. He has not helped me in anything ihn regards to this wedding. Sorry just needed to vent. What should I do?
P.S. Live with the FH so I see him all the time. He is driving me very batty. I need you guys to keep me calm every day xoxo Lisa
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Well FI is going w/me to the hall, DJ, Limos and photographer and my mom is doing the rest FI really doesn't care about the flowers and favors. it is all ok with me.
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What do you think are the reasons he doesn't want to pick a best man? Is he torn between picking?
As for flowers & things, men aren't usually into all this, although my FH is, alot aren't and this is ok. Ask him if he has interest in going at all, and if not ask him if you can pick these out with your mom, his mom or MOH?
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Hey Lisa... why don't you put him in charge of something else... Maybe the HM? I put FH in charge of that, and he seems to enjoy trying to find something nice for us to do.....
Flowers are definitely not my FH's idea of fun.....
LoL
We're here for you baby!
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Lisa, I feel bad for you, b/c you're sad. Many of the FH's don't like to help out. the only reason Len did so much is b/c he's jealous of me planning w/my sisters. Most men will NOT go to the florist, they think this is a waste, and it's for sissys. MEN
Len didnt ask his Best man and GMs for the longest, so I made a list of all his friends/brothers and matched them up to my BMs/MOH,..... and said this should be your Grooms Party, let's ask them. Little by little, everyone on my list is in the party, so maybe try my approach.
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FI had a great time doing the honeymoon. He still has not told me who his best man is though I can understand the reason why. He has a brother who is VERY irresponible and I think he is not sure what to do.
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Thanks guys. The reason he has to pick so soon is because I have to get the info to the priest doing our service. He is torn between two guys. One is the babys God father and long time friend who he dosent really 'play' with any more. He goes out all the time and FH dosent. Then the other guy whose girlfriend is one of my BM we went out with tonight and is always there when Fh wants to fishing or something like that. So he isnt sure who to pick. As for the flowers I know he dosent want to go but we have to too someones house after the appointment and I have to drag him to it on the way. But the other planing like the DJs and stuff he could care less. Even ideas about the little things he is like what ever you want. That is great and all but I need your help too. He didnt realize until two days later after we booked the hall that the wedding was in the afternoon. We went with me to look. He was there. So I hope that clears that up. sorry just needed to vent again. I saw him in the hall and I just started typing.
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Kick him in his sleep, it'll give you a lot of relief, trust me
Seriously though, have you had a talk with him to let him know how you feel? (still kick him though)
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We're here for you sweetheart!!!!!!!
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Lisa, here's a group hug
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Hi Lisa -
Why choose? He can have both. Be creative with the receiving line.
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Do not listen to Liz, telling you to kick your Fi
Sweetie, tell your Fi how you feel and I am sure he will not want to see you unhappy, he will help out. I did not ask hubby to participate in any girlie things like flowers or shoes hairstyle etc. I know it would be nice if they acted like they care, but in reality, men are usually in to the big pix, all the details does not seem to interest them.
Hubby did not ask his guys to be in the wedding for a while. Take it all in stride sweetie, it will work out.
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I can say my FI has been involved with all aspects of our wedding. He was torn between 2 guys as the best man so he's having them both. I feel bad for you but you have to know what he's like already, right? I know other brides have gone through this as well. Good luck at least you have us to discuss things with.
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Fh had no interest in picking out flowers either. He did the receptionhall and, photographer and music. the rest was up to me. I didnt mind though. I was a woman with a checkbook and didnt have to hear his opinon. I liked it
Dont be sad, he will get into it
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Lisa, the reality of the situation is that men are not interested in certain things.
My FH came with me to pick a hall, he will go with me to decide on Photo/video and honeymoon to make sure do not overspend.
I had to get him motivated though. I would say things like if you do not show some interest we are going to have a tacky ghetto wedding and be talked about forever. That made him sit back and think. Maybe not the best tactic but it worked.
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I'm sorry you are having a rough time hon! Definetely talk to him and tell him how you are feeling. FH is definetely not into flowers, although he came to the second florist appt to book because he didn't want me driving there alone! He did show interest though when we were there-but could care less for the most part! LOL He will come with me wherever I want, although sometimes I would rather have my mom there because FH is known for 'whatever you want love' with that cute smile on his face --but most guys are not into the wedding stuff-but just talk to him and let him know how you feel-
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Lisa-I am so sorry that your upset, at least you have all of us here to turn to for help I kind of had the same trouble w/ my FH at first. It seemed like he wasn't as into the planning as much as I was and it upset me. I sat him down and had a long talk w/ him and he didn't realize that it bothered me so much. Now, he is doing more of the phone calls than I am! I say talk to him, it's as much his wedding as it is yours. Good Luck!
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My FH isn't helping at all either. He has not interest at all and it usually doesn't bother me because I know he really doesn't know much about flowers and favors and stuff like that. The only thing I asked him to do was to help pick a wedding song and he's not even doing that...he keeps making jokes and saying he wants Baby Got Back or the Rocky Theme...oy *shakes her head*. I feel for you gf : ). Good luck!!!
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Thank you guys. You really make me feel better. At least I know I am not alone.
XOXO
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I am not sure if this helps..my fh is the same way. I ask him questions and ask him to go with me. He says he has things to do or his response is we should get married in Vegas...I know the day of the wedding he will be thrilled though
