I really dont know what to do, and its making me very sad. My FH dosent want to pick a best man, and he could care less about the wedding. I had a flower app 300pm on sat and one of his workers called and asked him to work. He said he would find him something to do. Now he said he forgot that we had a appointment and asked me to change it. I stared at him. I had no words. He is just making things difficult and I am getting upset. He has not helped me in anything ihn regards to this wedding. Sorry just needed to vent. What should I do?
P.S. Live with the FH so I see him all the time. He is driving me very batty. I need you guys to keep me calm every day xoxo Lisa
ILT1221
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Lisa,
I will chime in and say that men aren't interested in flowers and linens and things like that. They are also very last minute. I think my husband asked his guys a whole 4 months after I asked my girls and that's only because I kept bugging him. To him, it was hard to make a decision. Towards the last few months he got right on the ball. He even went to make the final payment to some of the vendors when I had to work. Maybe your FH would like to plan out the honeymoon instead or the limo...things that make him feel like he's part of it. You should also have a talk with him and tell him that you will need him MORE INVOLVED as the time gets closer! Hang in there we've all been through it! It's get's better.
The Original 2nd-time-around
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Lisa,
You don't want to hear from me in the mood I'm in today! I'm tempted to say let's get together and have a FH bashing party
Tammy5-03
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I'm sorry this is upsetting you. I understand your pain. FH has been coming but its like pulling teeth. He went with me to pick the hall, photographer, video & dj. That was his limit. I'm not sure if I even finished the question about the florist since he looked at me like I lost my mind. I went with my MOH. He also has said I wont mind if I finish the registry alone, I think he'd rather go to the dentist than go back to Fortunoff. I don't mind anymore. He trusts that I'll pick nice things. He doesn't care about the little details, he just wants to marry me. I'm sure your FH feels the same.
Betty
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Lisa, I'm so sorry you are going through this when this should be such a happy time in your life. I know it s#*cks. I think the thing is guys just don't realize HOW MUCH goes into planning a wedding and how fast time goes. They always think they have all the time in the world. My FH has been great in coming to every vendor with me. I do all the ground work (which he doesnt realize is a lot!!) but he does come with me. He wanted to KILL me the other day after looking at inviations for 3 hours! AT the beginning we were torn between going away and having a wedding. We decided to have the wedding (mostly my idea) but I let him know this was OUR day. I want him to be at the wedding knowing that he helped to plan it, not just attend, it would be that much more special. Try to explain that to your FH and maybe he'll see how much it means for this wedding to reflect BOTH of you, not just you. We are all here for you Lisa -Beth
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There are some things that not every man will be interested in unless he is perfect So maybe attempt to add little things in, ex: Do you like something like this or something like this? My FH have had so many fights about this, I started to plan without him, now with 6 months left he is taking much more of an interest in what I am doing..
