I mean more like you and someone don't get along - when you sit down to 'try' to talk it out the other person starts turning things around on you by lying? So for example you're upset because they told someone else not to talk to you since the two of you are fighting but when you bring it up they turn around and say that they did it because your FW/FH ignored someone...which didn't happen.
Bottom line - how do you deal with people that are obviously lying to make themselves sound right at your expense?
bedda26
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Clock them in the head....
That's a hard one. I've been in situations like these and it's frustrating when the other person is lying. You can counterattack with another lie and beat them at their own game.
ChristineC68
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It depends, but if it's something important, I will call them out (question them) in front of the person they lied to and see what happens.
diamondgrlie
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What I try to do is make a 100% factual point that there is no way they can argue. I dont know your exact situation but maybe you can say that your FI talked to them, dont you remember? They were talking about___.
I know, my true calling was a lawyer oh well.
OctGroom
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Posted by diamondgrlie
What I try to do is make a 100% factual point that there is no way they can argue. I dont know your exact situation but maybe you can say that your FI talked to them, dont you remember? They were talking about___.
I know, my true calling was a lawyer oh well.
use their own words against them.. it's your best weapon.
Xelindrya
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Hrm.. I was raised in a house where NOTHING was worse than lying. Lying equaled swats on the butt... truth ended up with yelling but no belt.
I find myself as adult very intolerant of lying. I just won't have it. I know I can't read minds, but if I know someone who lies I always consider them liars. I usually try not to associate myself with liars because they normally pull you into some Drama or another.
I'm sure I may have a friend who lies and that's just a shame. Nothings worth being a spiteful mean liar.
We all lie at one point or another so Im not going to say everyone I know is constantly telling the whole truth all the time, but you know what I mean. As your example is, I'd no longer associate with a person who lies to save face. I have a few cousins like that, I just ignore them completely. I am civil but never share a thing with them.
JMHO
RedHead
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I always call someone on a lie...And if it is at my expense i make sure that i embarrass them sooo much that they will not do it again. But i embarrass them not by lowering myself to their level but with the facts!
Becky
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If the person is going to continue to lie then I end the conversation. If they can't be open enough to have the conversation then I am not going to waste my time. I do not have patience for people who lie, because I am a very honest person. Generally I end the conversation and don't look back. I wont ever trust them again, anyway.
Kriss2c
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It happens to me on a nearly daily basis and I still have not found a solution.
My sister who unfortunately right now is under the same roof is my problem. I've already stripped her of her MOH title and it seems that she will not stop until she's not in my life at all. She deperately needs a reality check.
