how do you mommies to be feel about...

hi there- just found this board...and happily so!
I was a bit overweight before preg and now have some abivalent feelings about my preg body.

I know, I know, a WONDERFUL thing is happening inside of my tummy now and I will feel SO happy when this baby arrives...
But for the meanwhile...I try not to get dressed in front of a mirror- and def not in front of hubby. ( my prob - not his)
I got a glimpse of myself in the mirror and I was caught off gaurd- my gosh- look at that belly- and those boobs! (sorry if too graphic)
Now, mind you I was never a contender for Miss America- but it has alarmed me a little bit- no ankels, no calves, everything seems swollen- and I have carpal tunnel in both hands. So I wear wrist braces day and night.
And I am thisclose to loosing my bellybutton!

Pls let me know how you guys feel- I know some of this is irrational...hormonal...but I want to get a handle on it to make the last 11 weeks better.

(thats another thing- I cant believe how fast time has flown!)

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Phyl, you are too cute! Really, I totally understand how you feel - especially about not getting dressed in front of a mirror or hubby - that was me, too.

Since you only have 11 more weeks left, try hard to focus the energy you have left on the baby and preparing your home for him/her. It will make you feel much better I think. Hang in there...not much longer!

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Phyl, I so understand what you mean. I am only 7 weeks pregnant and I am already worrying about how I am going to find any maternity clothes to fit me, since I was already 30 pounds overweight before I got pregnant! I can't stop worrying about eating and gaining too much weight too quickly -- I'm not dieting of course, but I am so worried about having difficulties. Phyl, as long as you are both healthy, I would just focus on the finish line! You are so close -- I am sure you are beautiful!! Feel good!

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Phyl, we all have those days of not feeling so great, especially as we watch our bodies expand into all sorts of directions (and those stretch marks make their way onto us ! , 'badges of motherhood to be worn proudly' I've heard ! LOL.

Anyway, dont stress about it. I cant beleive you only have 11 weeks to go ! It felt like yesterday that you told us the news !! WOW ! I noticed that towards the mid-end it was ME that was pigging out a little extra here and there, which made me feel sluggish, so i tried (when possible!) to not eat as much of the sweets (impossible at these summer BBQ's !!). But realistically, youre going to gain what baby needs, and with swelling, that is also uncomfortable, dont think of it as gaining weight. I have swollen ankles and some swelling on my hands and legs. This last few weeks is dragging for me because of the swelling and the (literal) pain in my butt ! My butt muscle is sore and causes me to kinda limp !

Lets take it day by day, and pamper ourselves when we can (I got a mani/pedicure today ! ) The best is yet to come !

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I'm a plus-size & beleive me when I first got pregant & my belly was showing. I couldn't get over the fact that I was not gaining weight for a bad thing. Then when I woke up to the fact that I had something amazing happening. I got over it! In fact I LOVED the way I looked at 9 months! I think looked better then I do now (14mths later)

thanks team!

11 weeks to go- and I have taken your advice...focusing on the prep work and less on me.

This w/end the in laws came over sat PM thru Sun nite...and I did my usual housecleaning stuff sat morning. Went out to dinner with them sat night..
And Sunday was up at 730- mass at 9- kmart at 1030 and home to get to work by 130
Mom and I painted a section of my powder rm to see if I liked the color- then we went and tackled the closet in the soon-to-b- nursery.
Thank goodness she was there- otherwise I would have chickened out!
So- 3 bags of donations, 1 bag of trash and 1 bag of gifts for the holidays. ( i stock up on little things throughout the yr)
AND - I dont and mom doesn;t need to buy ANY Xmas wrapping paper or gift bags- I have 3 bags full!
Whew! feel a lot better!

(DO you know anyone getting married who has a disney theme? I have a brand new cake topper of Micky and Minnie...)

Re: thanks team!

Ask on the Brides Helping Brides I think there is 1 or 2 brides who might be into it!