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How Do You Really Know He's The ONE?

eden Posted:

How Do You Really Know He's The ONE?

I've been debating this question for awhile now and I would like to hear what everybody has to say about it.

How did you know he's the one? What has your FH done that made you realize, 'wow, I'm so lucky to be marrying this guy?!' What made him really stand out.

It doesn't have to be something he's done that's extraordinary. In fact, I would prefer to hear the ordinary things like: 'he does his chores w/o asking' or 'he never gets grumpy with me no matter how indecisive I get.'

Goldi1021 Posted:

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I always say that I knew he was the one because he actually called the next day after out first date.

But honestly, my DH came into my life during a very hard time. Just 3 months into our relationship, my father fell ill and had been in and out of the hospital. It was 3 months after that when my father went in again and never came home - only to stay for 9 months until he passed. DH saw the best and the worst of me and my family, never leaving my side. He never complained and he held me each and every time I cried - which was almost daily. My only regret was that he never had a chance to cultivate a realtionship with my Dad. I am blessed to have him in my life.
daniebc16 Posted:

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For me it was as simple as I just knew...I never thought that could really happen and I always thought people just made it up. My FH and I worked together and we met while I was still in a 5 year relationship....but when I met him, I wanted to be with himm, and one day I looked at him at work (we were not dating yet) and thought to myself...'Hmmm...I'd like to marry him...' I went home and told my mom and she thought I was crazy, but I broke up with my ex ,and starting dating Brian 3 weeks later....He is the kindest most caring person I know, he would do anything for me, and most importantly, I would do anything for him.
Jackie&Justin Posted:

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I knew the moment I met him when I was 15 years old. You just know.

sarahradio5 Posted:

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I knew when I was in this little car accident the night we celebrated my birthday in Manhattan, 2 months after we started dating. I was crying my eyes out because I had never been in an accident before. The cop actually thought I was hurt because I was crying so much. My FH (boyfriend at the time) just kept saying 'Baby, look at me - are you okay, Beautiful, look at me - are you hurt?' He was just so good and I felt so safe that he was with me. I think that was my moment. (by the way... the accident TOTALLY wasn't my fault... the jerk came into me).

iBCraZ131 Posted:

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I have to say I guess it was really a 'love at first sight'. I was working at Staples when I was 17 for about 5 months when a new guy started working there. It was his first day and I remember telling my other friend who was working there that I was going to marry him one day. I was in another relationship at the time that was on the fritz anyway, so I broke up with him and started dating FH the next week!! That was 7 1/2 years ago!!

ML110 Posted:

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for me, besides that i really just ' knew', it was something he did when we had been dating for 8 months.
my dad got diagnosed with cancer. my parents own a garden center, and he was diagnosed during their busiest time of the year. when i told DH ( my BF at the time) he came right down, and stayed at my parents house for a week and worked at their store, just to help us keep things going while my dad was going to all his testing, drs appointments, and starting his chemo. it really just showed me that he didn't just care about me, but cared about everybody in my life, too... which really meant a lot to me
snydl40 Posted:

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Joe has been a true gentleman since day one. He is so respectful of me, my family, and my friends-that is what made me fall in love with him. He is the one because is so honest, patient, tender, creative, and gorgeous-yes I have to add that in-he is just amazing. I have never felt, and KNOW I will never feel, like I do when I'm with him, with anyone else in this entire world. He is my passion and I love him with all of my heart.
klingklang77 Posted:

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i met him on a study abroad exchange for a year. for the first few weeks we were both in a language immersion class (german). the first day we had to take placement tests and i saw him a few rows down in the lecture hall and said to myself, i want to marry him...

a few months later we started dating and then a few months later we each had to go back to our home countries (him- Australia). we were able to maintain 6 months away, so that to me said if we could do that we could do anything. rest is history.
Marly Posted:

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I use to ask the same question, everyone that I asked said the same thing to me, that it was a feeling you get that you can't explain. You just know. For me I knew the minute I looked into his eyes, and by the way he treated me. Right from the start I felt very safe with him, it was like coming home to a warm safe place. Since our first date and everyday that we have been together he has treated me like a queen. There is'nt anything that we would not do for each other.
libby2595 Posted:

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i've read every reply, and i must say i'm going to break the mold

after our first date, i wanted NOTHING to do with FH! i felt that he was too skinny, i felt he was too needy, i didn't like his tattooes, i told my friend that he kissed like 'an old man'. i don't even remember how i accepted a second date. during that date, i did everything i could think of to not let him hold my hand. i didn't even kiss him goodnight on the cheek.

he called a few more times after that date, and i tried to be nice, but i wanted him to stop calling.... until he made a politically incorrect joke. he was not-nice for the first time, he showed me that there was more to him than the fake sweetness he had been showing me. i decided to give him one more try. haven't been able to get rid of him ever since.

i knew it would be him i would marry, when he met my mom and STILL wanted to keep dating me. yes, it is true. my mother is the type of person that will make you run for the hills.

he doesn't do his chores without being told, he forgets everything i've asked him to do, his grammar *****, his body isn't the best, he's a boob when it comes to understanding why planning this wedding is important to me, i don't like what he watches on tv, and many other reasons why he's NOT perfect. BUT HE'S PERFECT FOR ME, JUST FOR ME.

that doesn't sound like a glowing revue on him or on love, but he's mine and i'm his.
Jesses Girl Posted:

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The way he looks at me, the way he talks to me, the way he laughs at all the stupid things I say and do, how he remains sane when i am going out of my mind, the way we lay on the couch and when i fall asleep he doesnt move so as to not wake me, the lil surprises he brings home even if it is just a magazine...

Jesse does things that let me know he is thinking about me always, he has never showed me less than perfect love...we both fell hard for eachother at first...and it grew into something we both never could have imagined...

lastly...I could never see my life without Jesse. I think it is that moment...when you realize you want to be with this person forever and that no one else could ever be more perfectly suited to spend the rest of your days with.

rojerono Posted:

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I may have told you guys this before, but ...

I had an image of 'THE ONE'. They way he would look, talk, act .. you name it. I dated a lot of also rans in my quest for a tall, lanky, blonde haired, grey eyed dude with a European Accent. Basically I wanted a British rock star.. not to picky, right?

Then I met Rob. At 5'9' he wasn't tall enough. He worked out constantly and the whole Muscle Man thing didn't work for me. He had blue eyes and black hair... again - not what I was looking for. The accent? PURE Long Island. And he wasn't musical. He did - however - have a kickass sense of humor. And he made me laugh ALOT. So we started dating. And to be honest, I never thought we would work out. I thought it would be a huge fling. I loved him then - but I didn't see a future.

Then I got pregnant. Hello Future.

I didn't think he would be a good dad and I refused to move in with him at first because he used to call kids 'money sucking screamboxes.'. I figured we were doomed to fail the minute the baby was born.

But I moved in with him anyway.

My labor was HORRIBLE. I mean - one of the worst birthstories EVER. Rob stayed with me the whole time. He left to eat and came back. He fell asleep for quick naps with his head on my hospital bed. Then they had to do an emergency C section and they put me out.

When I woke up, they wheeled me into recovery and he was standing there holding our son. The look on his face was one that I can't even describe to you. He was just in awe. And you could tell how much in love with that child he was.

That was it. I knew. Right then and there - half crocked from the anesthesia, a complete and total wreck from head to toe... and I knew I would never want to be without him.

And it has only gotten bigger each day.
jenn122397 Posted:

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Because of the way he treats me...ever since we were 15 years old and he still does it to this day! I love the simple things that he does like the other night we were out and he saw I was cold so he just takes off his sweatshirt and tells me to wear it - i didnt even have to say I was cold - i love when he just does things like that

Mooshyboo Posted:

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When someone would tell me I will know when
I meet the one I used to think they were crazy....

When I first met my FH we started out as friends (he is my brothers friend first) and we were driving to Lake George with some friends (I was in the front with him while everyone else was passed out in the back) I really liked him at this point ~ like a crush... We were having a conversation on relationships and dating and what we were looking for etc...(we were not even dating at this point) and then this song came on my FH said to me when I feel like this ~ this is when I know she will be the one...

Lyrics: You're My Home - Billy Joel
When you look into my eyes
and you see the crazy gypsy in my soul
it always comes as a surprise
when i feel my withered roots begin to grow

well i never had a place
that I could call my very own
but that's all right my love
cuz you're my home.

when you touch my weary head
and you tell me everything will be all right
You say use my body for your bed
and my love will keep you warm throughout the night

well i'll never be a stranger
and i'll never be alone
wherever we're together
that's my home.

Home could be the Pennsylvania turnpike
Indiana's early morning dew
high up in the hills of California
home is just another word for you

Well I never had a place that i could call my very own
but that's all right my love cuz you're my home

If i travel all my life
and i never get stop and settle down
long as i have you by my side
there's a roof above and good walls all around
you're my castle, you're my cabin
and my instant pleasure dome
i need you in my house
cuz you're my home,..
you're my home.

After hearing this song... I looked over and said to myself he is the one...
thelastresort Posted:

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I definitley love Libby's story...that's hilarious. Mine isn't too romantic either. My FH and I met on the crazy party scene while we were both in vacation shares, but coincidentally we lived about 10 mins. away on L.I.. We would hang out every weekend at the vacation spot. Finally, he asked me out on a date for when we were at home. He had just gotten out of a horrible relationship and he told me before the date 'I do not want a girlfriend so don't think this is more than it is.' Thanks, jerk! But I was okay with that b/c I didn't want to be his rebound either. 2 weeks later he was introducing me to everyone as his girlfriend (totally freaked me out ... not ready), 1 week after that he told me he loved me (again, I freaked out...hellooo I hardly know this guy!) and a week after that he told me he was going to marry me. I didn't freak out so much that time and the next day I told my mom I was going to marry him. One month and 3 days into our relationship, I knew he was the one. Our story is not something I will tell my own daughters b/c I would never want them behaving the way I did, LOL, but it worked for us. Even though we are two totally different people and bump heads on many issues (for example, he despises white collar workers...hi, I'm an attorney), when it comes to values, beliefs, etc. we fit, we work and agree. But man, when people say relationships are work, they are not kidding!

MnM52607 Posted:

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When we went to meet with Deacon who will be marrying us, he asked me why I want to marry him. I said because he is good. That one word sums him up so well.

He is intelligent, kind, sensitive, good-hearted, generous, funny, good-looking, honest, strong, and independent. He has always treated me with respect. He has always been honest with me. He is patient with me. He has been there for me through so many good and bad times. He has rushed to my aid more times than I can count (even without being asked).

I could not have asked for a better man to marry. We are complete opposites sometimes but that is what I love about our relationship. We make each other see things from different points of view. With every fight, we learn something more about each other.

He can look into my eyes and know everything I am feeling and thinking. He is the Love Of My Life, and I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world.
greenfreak Posted:

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I don't think there's a formula, an event, or something like that that will tell you definitively if he's 'the one'. I think it's different for everyone and depends on what you're looking for.

DH and I pretty much knew from the beginning although I had some problems letting go of my independance and really giving myself over to a serious lifetime relationship.

So many times over the next 7 years there were moments where I would just stop and look at him and just be so thankful we're together. Those are the times when I feel the love the strongest, even after all these years. I hope we never lose that.

I think what it boils down to for me is that he treats me better than I ever knew I deserved or could be possible. Good or bad, he's the first person I want to share with. The first person I think of in the morning and the last at night.

He's nothing like what I thought I wanted but everything I didn't know I needed.
EGreene79 Posted:

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There are many reasons that I know he's the one, but the first thing that popped into my head when I read this post is that things that bothered me about my exes, even things that caused me to end relationships, don't bother me about FH. I love so many other things about him, that those few flaws are meaningless. I know that probably sounds horrible, but I always used to get bored with people, or just had no patience, but with FH it's completely different.

tropicalbride07 Posted:

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when you have been with enough wrong ones, you just know when it feels right. It's the easiest thing ever!

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