How Do You Really Know He's The ONE?

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Posted by tropicalbride07

when you have been with enough wrong ones, you just know when it feels right. It's the easiest thing ever!

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I totally agree with that! well said

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Posted by tropicalbride07

when you have been with enough wrong ones, you just know when it feels right. It's the easiest thing ever!

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I totally AGREE....

FH and i started dating when we were 15

before i met him i has some serious self esteem issues ( as any teenage girl usually has)

i dont know how, or when, but suddenly he made me feel beautiful and like i mattered - and it affected my entire life from school, to work, to my family interactions. . .

i can truly say that i am a better person because of him. . .

an event that confirmed that he was the one was when my grandmother recently passed away. . .

FH never did the traditional things i thought a boyfriend should do - he could never talk about marriage or kids, he never wants to come out when i ask him. . .so i would always nag him about that kind of stuff. . .

anyway, when my grandmother passed away ON HIS BIRTHDAY - he left work immediately. . . and came to my house and sat with my parents for hours with me. . .we were all in a daze just sitting there . . . he took care of me from the first time i had to walk into the funeral home - to the time we had to leave the cemetary. . . he bought all the food for all three days - and took care of not only me but my entire family. . . not that i had doubts - but i think that was a defining moment in our relationship . ..

I can't explain it, but seriously on our FIRST date, we just knew...this probably explains why he proposed after onyl 5 months and on our wedding day, we will onyl have been together for a year and 8 months.

but in that first month of dating he showed me how kind, good-hearted, intelligent, funny, etc. he is. he would do anything (and does!) for me and my family and for his own. he always sacrifices his own happiness for others....

i am so blessed to have him....

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Posted by sarahradio5

I knew when I was in this little car accident the night we celebrated my birthday in Manhattan, 2 months after we started dating. I was crying my eyes out because I had never been in an accident before. The cop actually thought I was hurt because I was crying so much. My FH (boyfriend at the time) just kept saying 'Baby, look at me - are you okay, Beautiful, look at me - are you hurt?' He was just so good and I felt so safe that he was with me. I think that was my moment. (by the way... the accident TOTALLY wasn't my fault... the jerk came into me).

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AWW SARAH!! I love that story and I love the end-- BTW, it was NOT my fault!!!

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Posted by tropicalbride07

when you have been with enough wrong ones, you just know when it feels right. It's the easiest thing ever!

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There you go! That pretty much sums up what I was trying to say in the following post (well, in the beginning of it before I mentioned my friend's influence)....

For me, it wasn't WHAT my FH did-- it was what he did NOT do. And it wasn't our relationship that made me realize as much as it was my past relationships-- I was with people who didn't appreciate me. I was putting in SO much effort and time and love-- and getting nothing in return. Then when FH came along it was like fate. One of the main reasons I knew he was the one right away was because we were both friends with the same person, at different times in our lives, never knowing each other-- but just friends with him. FH was friends with him in HS and I was friends with him while I was in college... then he passed away and a few years later FH and I met and after we talked for SO long we put the connection together that we both knew this person and that he meant so much to both of us. So we felt like an angel had brought us together. Especially when this friend had been the person I complained to the most about my poor past relationship (when he was alive he complained to me about this awful girl he was with and I complained to him that I didn't feel appreciated)-- after he passed away I would pray to him and still complain LOL and ask him to guide me in the right direction-- and he did. It brings tears to my eyes to think about it. my FH has all the characteristics that my friend had-- all the good traits that make him such a good person. But that's how I knew. Vinny's love for me is unconditional and I think the other person I was with doesn't even know what that means-- it's about being totally unselfish (if that's a word) lol. So I thank my friend for that pretty much everyday. Without him, I know Vinny would not be in my life

FH and I started dating when I was 16. We were together for 8 months and then we broke up (16 year old girls can be very fragile and he broke up with me lol). Broke my heart to pieces. Couple of months later he started talking to me again and wanted to get back together - said he realized he had made a big mistake. At that point I had just started to put myself back together and refused to just fall for him again. I was too afraid of getting hurt again and I had just started seeing someone else. So I told him all of that and that I wasn't ready and his repsonse was 'I will wait as long as I have to.'

I immediately thought 'yea okay. suuuureee. either way I don't care'

To make a long story short and couple of months after that I stopped seeing the other guy and started hanging out with FH again but just as friends - something I made very clear to him by telling him point blankly that I didn't trust him. We were apart for an entire year and he never once got frustrated or fed up or pressured me into getting back with him. He patiently waited like he said he would until he gained my trust again and when he finally did we started dating again and have been together ever since.

The other big sign that he was 'the one' was when he started doing things to better the relationship between him and my mother (my mother is a tough person to get along with and part of the reason we broke up the first time and FH knew this was something that always bothered me). Things have changed so much between them now to the point where I think she almost considers him as one of her own! (though she'll never admit it! )

sorry so long but this post just got me thinking...

back to work now I guess

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Posted by libby2595

i've read every reply, and i must say i'm going to break the mold

after our first date, i wanted NOTHING to do with FH! i felt that he was too skinny, i felt he was too needy, i didn't like his tattooes, i told my friend that he kissed like 'an old man'. i don't even remember how i accepted a second date. during that date, i did everything i could think of to not let him hold my hand. i didn't even kiss him goodnight on the cheek.

he called a few more times after that date, and i tried to be nice, but i wanted him to stop calling.... until he made a politically incorrect joke. he was not-nice for the first time, he showed me that there was more to him than the fake sweetness he had been showing me. i decided to give him one more try. haven't been able to get rid of him ever since.

i knew it would be him i would marry, when he met my mom and STILL wanted to keep dating me. yes, it is true. my mother is the type of person that will make you run for the hills.

he doesn't do his chores without being told, he forgets everything i've asked him to do, his grammar *****, his body isn't the best, he's a boob when it comes to understanding why planning this wedding is important to me, i don't like what he watches on tv, and many other reasons why he's NOT perfect. BUT HE'S PERFECT FOR ME, JUST FOR ME.

that doesn't sound like a glowing revue on him or on love, but he's mine and i'm his.

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hehehe-- sounds like how our relationship started. We worked together and he kept asking me to hang out. I kept avoiding him. Then I moved onto another job and he somehow weasled his way into a group night out. I totally ignored him all night and stuck him with one of my annoying old friends. I figured that would be it but he called me the next day (annoying friend gave him my number) I let him take me out to the movies and the diner or something and from there we were inseparable....for 3 years. Then we broke up for a year-- I dated someone else whom I thought I was in love with, until he broke my heart. The only person I wanted to talk to was Will. I called him and he let me cry about another guy, understood when I wanted to be 'just firends' and date other people and waited patiently until I came to my senses and realized that what I was looking for was right in front of me. He isn't perfect, but he understands me and he's my best friend in the world.

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Posted by donegal419

I can't explain it, but seriously on our FIRST date, we just knew...this probably explains why he proposed after onyl 5 months and on our wedding day, we will onyl have been together for a year and 8 months.

but in that first month of dating he showed me how kind, good-hearted, intelligent, funny, etc. he is. he would do anything (and does!) for me and my family and for his own. he always sacrifices his own happiness for others....

i am so blessed to have him....

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i feel the same way!!! our first date we went to see the boat parade in patchogue and i knew just from him holding me because it was so cold that i was going to marry him!! just the way i felt in his arms made me know...i felt so safe and i really felt like he really liked me. he told me that he knew i was the one the same night but when we went to starbucks afterwards, i did one of my many smiles and he said to himself that i was the one he was going to marry. it was only about 1 month we were together when he asked me to marry him...i thought it was a joke that he actually proposed like 10 times until i realized he wasnt joking. he's definitely the best thing to happen to me, especially because i've been depressed since my grandmother passed away 3 yrs before i met him...i kind of believe she brought him into my life.

as cheesy and sappy as it sounds, I can actually see myself growing old with him...having kids and a family, etc. We cant stand to be away from each other, since fathers day he has been in NY and I have been in SC we talk on the phone and that is it-and I miss him like crazy!!!!

There is just something that doesnt make me want to go anywhere else, and there is nothing missing that I could ever want. Ok Im done-i love my FH

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Posted by STBMrsDaniRella

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Posted by tropicalbride07

when you have been with enough wrong ones, you just know when it feels right. It's the easiest thing ever!

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There you go! That pretty much sums up what I was trying to say in the following post (well, in the beginning of it before I mentioned my friend's influence)....

For me, it wasn't WHAT my FH did-- it was what he did NOT do. And it wasn't our relationship that made me realize as much as it was my past relationships-- I was with people who didn't appreciate me. I was putting in SO much effort and time and love-- and getting nothing in return. Then when FH came along it was like fate. One of the main reasons I knew he was the one right away was because we were both friends with the same person, at different times in our lives, never knowing each other-- but just friends with him. FH was friends with him in HS and I was friends with him while I was in college... then he passed away and a few years later FH and I met and after we talked for SO long we put the connection together that we both knew this person and that he meant so much to both of us. So we felt like an angel had brought us together. Especially when this friend had been the person I complained to the most about my poor past relationship (when he was alive he complained to me about this awful girl he was with and I complained to him that I didn't feel appreciated)-- after he passed away I would pray to him and still complain LOL and ask him to guide me in the right direction-- and he did. It brings tears to my eyes to think about it. my FH has all the characteristics that my friend had-- all the good traits that make him such a good person. But that's how I knew. Vinny's love for me is unconditional and I think the other person I was with doesn't even know what that means-- it's about being totally unselfish (if that's a word) lol. So I thank my friend for that pretty much everyday. Without him, I know Vinny would not be in my life

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That is so beautiful!