How do you tell someone...

SoVic08 Posted: Dec 28, 2007 11:16 AM

How do you tell someone...

That you do not want to be a bridesmaid in their wedding? Seriously, I am 99% sure a friend is going to ask me to be in her bridal party and I truly do not want to be for many reasons. This is kind of ironic since I am planning my own wedding but never had to tell someone I really don't want to be your bridesmaid. Any suggestions?

anneandchris Posted: Dec 28, 2007 11:17 AM

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Depending on your reasons just be honest.

TJ22908 Posted: Dec 28, 2007 11:18 AM

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You can always go with the money excuse, thats always a good one..other than that its kinda a sticky situation. also if her date is close to yours then you can use that

queenbean Posted: Dec 28, 2007 11:18 AM

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You can say that you are going to be so busy and you would feel wrong taking on the responsibility of being a bridesmaid and not being able to carry out your responsibilities. Or, you can go a different route and blame it on the financial responsibility.

missexcited Posted: Dec 28, 2007 11:18 AM

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wait for her to ask and then tell her that you can't cuz you don't think you can devote the time and also for financial reasons...see if she buys that

zoe282 Posted: Dec 28, 2007 11:47 AM

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Yikes! That is a tough situation. I guess it depends on your reasoning. I was so hurt when a friend of mine said she didn't want to be in my bridal party. I look at it as an honor. Are you not as close as she thinks? Money is also a respectable reason.

angl2001 Posted: Dec 28, 2007 11:50 AM

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just be honest. I am sure whatever your reasons are, they are valid reasons. Just be honest and i am sure she will understand!
good luck

SoVic08 Posted: Dec 28, 2007 11:52 AM

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ok she is sort of a distant cousin and when we get together we have a great time together but we do not get togethere often. I am going through some stuff right now that just makes me not really want to participate in much not to mention the money factor. I will think more about it and maybe things will change for me by the time she asks. I know I am jumping ahead of myself but I just know what is to come.

ETA: she does know what is going on in my world right now so she would probably understasnd if I was just honest with her. Thanks guys!

2007 Crescent Bride Posted: Dec 28, 2007 11:52 AM

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If you can, be honest.

SparkyandAng Posted: Dec 28, 2007 12:06 PM

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Posted by queenbean

You can say that you are going to be so busy and you would feel wrong taking on the responsibility of being a bridesmaid and not being able to carry out your responsibilities. Or, you can go a different route and blame it on the financial responsibility.

Exactly what i was going to say.

DnellD809 Posted: Dec 28, 2007 12:10 PM

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I would just be completely honest with her and I'm sure she'll understand...especially if she knows what's going on in your world!

Toucan311 Posted: Dec 28, 2007 12:11 PM

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You'd think she'd get the hint since she's not in yours!

danandme4life Posted: Dec 28, 2007 12:18 PM

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I wouldn't use financial reasons bc she may then spring on you that she will pay for the dress or something. I recently chose to back out of a wedding for more personal issues with our friendship although i did blame it on the stress of preparing for my own wedding.