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How do you unask a groomsman to be in your party?

JCbride2B Posted: Sep 23, 2003 08:51 PM+

JCbride2B MEMBER SINCE: 5/03 TOTAL POSTS : 338 WEDDING DATE: Oct 29, 2004

Posted: Sep 23, 2003 08:51 PM

How do you unask a groomsman to be in your party?

The first person my FH asked to be a groomsman was a friend we have known for some time and used to spend a lot of summer days and nights hanging out with. He recently went to Texas for grad school so we have lost contact and he has regressed in maturity to acting and thinking like a 20 yr old frat boy instead of a repsonsible and respectful 27 yr old. He has been unsupportive and rude to us this past summer and he and I had a little fall out over email. He attended the engagement party we all went to for one of our friends and he got drunk and threw 2 glasses over the balcony onto the parking lot where guests and parking attendants were standing. This behavior really had us concerned.
When my FH spoke to him over the phone back in august to tell him we had switched our wedding date, he had no idea why my FH was suggesting he had to wear a tux to our wedding. He 'forgot' we had even asked him to be in our party last March! How the h*ll do you forget you have been asked to be a part of a friend's wedding?! My FH was PO'd and told him that if our wedding was of so little importance and he didn't care enough to remember that he could back out, but unfortunatley he didn't. They got off the phone and ever since then we have been trying to figure out a way to tell him forget it.
Anyone have any experience or advice with htis situation?

amidala Posted: Sep 23, 2003 09:05 PM+

amidala MEMBER SINCE: 8/03 TOTAL POSTS : 87 WEDDING DATE: Aug 07, 2004

Posted: Sep 23, 2003 09:05 PM

Re: How do you unask a groomsman to be in your party?

you MUST unask him at all costs!!!!!! (we'll talk more about this on SATURDAY...heehee)

JCbride2B Posted: Sep 23, 2003 09:06 PM+

JCbride2B MEMBER SINCE: 5/03 TOTAL POSTS : 338 WEDDING DATE: Oct 29, 2004

Posted: Sep 23, 2003 09:06 PM

Re: How do you unask a groomsman to be in your party?

ahhhhh Wendy!!!! finally found you on here!!!

amidala Posted: Sep 23, 2003 09:17 PM+

amidala MEMBER SINCE: 8/03 TOTAL POSTS : 87 WEDDING DATE: Aug 07, 2004

Posted: Sep 23, 2003 09:17 PM

Re: How do you unask a groomsman to be in your party?

im SOOOOOO excited...your name is quite unforgettable

Alvatorre74 Posted: Sep 23, 2003 09:34 PM+

Alvatorre74 MEMBER SINCE: 4/03 TOTAL POSTS : 1407 WEDDING DATE: Aug 31, 2003

Posted: Sep 23, 2003 09:34 PM

Re: How do you unask a groomsman to be in your party?

tell him the girl u paired him up with has decided not to be in wedding so u guys dont need him

butterfly20 Posted: Sep 24, 2003 12:16 AM+

butterfly20 MEMBER SINCE: 3/03 TOTAL POSTS : 10671 WEDDING DATE: Nov 06, 2004

Posted: Sep 24, 2003 12:16 AM

Re: How do you unask a groomsman to be in your party?

definately get rid of him... he may not even show to the wedding, if he cant remember he was a gm

maysie18 Posted: Sep 24, 2003 12:37 AM+

maysie18 MEMBER SINCE: 10/02 TOTAL POSTS : 1080 WEDDING DATE: Oct 12, 2003

Posted: Sep 24, 2003 12:37 AM

Re: How do you unask a groomsman to be in your party?

I'd get rid of him too. the thing about a girl dropping is a good one. Or maybe hike up the tux price by $100+ so he won't wanna pay?

2003OCT10 Posted: Sep 24, 2003 02:40 AM+

2003OCT10 MEMBER SINCE: 7/03 TOTAL POSTS : 2630 WEDDING DATE: Oct 10, 2003

Posted: Sep 24, 2003 02:40 AM

Re: How do you unask a groomsman to be in your party?

Explain that his behavior was atrocoius and tellhim you switched the date... after your actual wedding date.. I wouldnt even want him there!! What if he just showed up.. you wouldnt want him to wreck your day! GOOD LUCK!

(MY FH's brother forgot that my FH ivited hiom to be a part of our bridal party.. he was also stoned though)