He's interested in some things but he doesn't get the obsession with the little details.
Sometimes he acts like he has veto power . He sits back while I run around like a fool and then says 'yes, I like that' and 'No, that has to go'
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He picked and is paying for the DJ. His cousins friend is doing the limos, and he insists on finding the GM gifts. Oh, and he went by himself for the tuxes.
Other than that, I am doing flowers, colors of BM dresses, I picked the invites, the hall, the photographer, the favors, the cake and everything else
I don't mind though. It's easier for me that way because I know what I want and I just go with it..
Jonas9281
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mine only gets involved out of obligation and not wanting me to get mad! he really could care less about invitations, flowers, etc. The only things he cared about was the reception hall...and yea, that's about it! I like that i have all the say, but when it gets stressful i get mad that's he's so lax about everything! The important thing is if i ask for help, he's there in a second
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not much...tho he has been helpful with certain thngs ( thats what i picked) it bothers me sometimes that i know everything that is going on and HE will be the one surprised that day!! lol he seems to be half listening to me when i talk lately but he has alot of stuff on his mind....... i told him last night i have to cut him off from havig a social life for the next few weeks cause we got sht to do!!! lol
twright5ny
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He's been wonderful!! Better than I expected and def. with me every step of the way!
Soon2BMrs.T
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The only things that my FH was not involved in was my dress and the flowers. But with everything else he was there.
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Posted by lisa50
If I ask for something it gets done. Or if I ask his opinion, he gives it. I am doing everything, but I tell him everything that is going on and he appreciates that. No complaints here, I am a take charge kinda gal anyway. But I am happy that when I do need him, he is helpful!
couldnt of said it better myself !! i pick out what i like and he chooses from those choices, i do all the research and he picks from those
bluekat16
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FH has been involved in many of the larger aspects like picking all our majr vendors (RH, Florist, Limo's, DJ). He's even given his opinion on favors, STD's and invitations.
Kerin2804
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FH is completely involved on planning our day. With certain things such as invitations I showed him books, narrowed it down and let him choose the final.
Soon2BSumma
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Yea.. for the big stuff (band, flowers for the guys, invites, menu, etc.), he helps with decisions. For the little details, I'll ask his opinion. Usually its, 'whatever you want' after he sees/hears the options. At least he cares enough to look/see the options!
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At first he wasn't really involved at all. Just gave me opinions on what he liked and what he didn't. Now he's very involved. He even knows the countdown and he tells people 'only 170 more days' lol. He's too funny!
mariaobride
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i can honestly say that he has been involved so much with the expection of DIY projects (not so crafty)
AR31
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don't know what i'd do w/o him.. he's been with me through it all.. he actually enjoys it.. haha.. aww my booboo..
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He's there through everything, but only to a certain extent. Basically, I came up with the vision for the wedding, and if I give him choices, he will answer, but can't come up with his own ideas. He's going to all the vendors with me at least. And I know that he really wants to be involved, guys are just less creative and crafty than we are I guess.
Sharron70
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'With Certain Things' as in only the things he cares about - Like the song list, the cake and of course, the Kilts.
lyss0908
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too much! lol j/k- I know I should be thankful that he gives a damn, but honestly, it is much harder to get anything done when there are so many opinions flying
JodyLC
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FH is 'sorta 'involved... I set up all the appointments and tell him when to be there, he goes then he gives the this is who I like speech, then I give the this is who I like and this one is IN our budget speech.... FH would have us WAY over budget if it was up to him. I literally had to make him change his mind on my wedding ring, he was going to spend more on the damn ring then the entire wedding is costing, I had to be like HELLO!!! what are you thinking?
My two big issues with FH and wedding planning are.... #1 he keeps forgetting my Dad pulled out of this wedding completely because FH and him had an spat, now we are paying for it ALL (Secretly I think my Dad is coming around but now FH says he will not accept a dime toward the wedding - MEN!). #2 I cant get FH to pick a tux yet!!! I mean seriously major issue here I make appointments he cancels, another problem is two of his guys are coming from Canada, one from Chicago they need to know his decision soon and he is not making one.
queenbean
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ah! TOO INVOLVED lol
JeanetteandSteve
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when we first started planning i thought to myself 'i really hope he wants to be involved!' and now i've really learned the lesson of being careful what you wish for.
he has to be involved in EVERY SINGLE decision made. i had very specific ideas on how i wanted a few things and he didn't like them! we have gotten into huge fights about things...but in a way i guess it's good b/c it made me understand what compromise is really all about. this is his wedding too...and this will be OUR marriage. in the end i'm happy this wedding will be what we both wanted...but it took me a while to come to realize that.
